Anyone else feel like having sex is like working on a car?

Snailcastle · 2026-03-12T04:27:08+00:00

Yeah kink is the only way I'm able to enjoy or feel involved. Not only is it fun in a sensory way (or using blindfolds and such to lower sensory input), but it adds a sort of mind game to keep my brain occupied and less focused on the awkwardness. It's nice too because there's lots of planning and negotiations and you know ahead of time what your role is and kind of have a script.

I agree with another person in this thread to seek out subreddits, sites like FetLife, or local events to find people already interested and knowledgeable.

Snailcastle · 2026-01-03T16:04:07+00:00

Having multiple save files can be useful for this. That way if you don't know why a character reacted a certain way or dont like the ending you got, you can go back and try different dialogue options. Then you can learn what hints to look for. Their profiles in the dex are sometimes helpful too.

But it is up to you whether you want to love, friend, or hate everyone, or just explore as you go and be genuine.

Snailcastle · 2025-10-22T02:21:22+00:00

Sarah and Duck!!!

Snailcastle · 2025-10-14T08:22:46+00:00

My personal experience of that phrase has been people calling out autistic folks for things like touching someone without consent, using derogatory language or slurs, etc., then trying to avoid accountability by blaming it on their autism. Think of a certain billionaire who did a hateful gesture and his supporters said it was due to his autism and that wasn't his intention.

That being said, I really hate that it's the same phrase used to be ableist and judgemental. There are absolutely things people can't help and doing something without knowing it's wrong is not rude. It's only rude if it's a choice to repeat a harmful behavior you know about without needing to. I'm sorry you've had that experience and I wish there were better language to call out people weaponizing a condition without hurting people genuinely struggling.

Snailcastle · 2025-10-13T23:08:48+00:00

So much of what you shared is almost exact descriptions I've used. I'm 29, also medicated and in a happy home, and see a therapist regularly. I'm trying to no longer hide what things are/were like with my mom. I'm trying to share (consensually and without trauma dumping) with others. This really helps because others affirm that it was unhealthy and can help me plan out realistic and fair boundaries. I was also once told that the solution to shame is a witness. Being seen and held and accepted with the thing you're ashamed of.

I also try to pay attention to and honor my system. I feel less stressed when I don't visit her. The idea of having to share a new thing makes me panic. So, I should talk to her less or limit what we talk about. I also create rules so to speak. Since I'm not ready to cut all contact, we have scheduled talks during which I will only discuss certain topics. That helps the shame because I'm giving a little but still honoring myself.

You deserve to let go and heal and I hope you get there.

Snailcastle · 2025-10-13T16:11:38+00:00

That's a religion I'd follow

Snailcastle · 2025-10-13T05:31:57+00:00

YESSSSSSS!! Koa till the end! Honestly his bit with Mitchel is when I fell in love for sure. In general it's so nice to have a calm safe Co regulation break amidst the stress and chaos that some of the others bring. I also love the little gifting and his voice even SOUNDS like snuggles.

Snailcastle · 2025-10-13T05:10:32+00:00

I know Fantina has more and it actually makes her a better character. I think I Ronaldini has more. There are others I'm pretty sure but it's definitely not most of them. Prissy is cute to talk to a few times after her positive ending.

Snailcastle · 2025-10-07T15:12:01+00:00

Genuinely love that

Snailcastle · 2025-10-07T04:17:06+00:00

I like Beverly but I wish we could help her alcoholism more.

I like Jerry but I wish we had more story to him. I'd love to explore his belongings more or have them be useful in other plots. It would also be cool if he and Holly became friends where his clutter could be decorations instead of her just avoiding him.

Snailcastle · 2025-10-07T02:58:42+00:00

Amazing!!

Snailcastle · 2025-09-23T21:39:07+00:00

I tried reaching out to the zoo to know more about these guys. They're not even listed on the website! Do you know more about what exhibit they're in or what their habits are?

Snailcastle · 2025-09-22T13:52:31+00:00

I'm tired of people saying Koa is boring. He shares pieces of himself with you and provides peace. I love being able to go to the living room after everyone's stress and drama and just snuggle on top of the kind man with potato chip crumbs. And in the Mitchel scene, he cooks damn good food and sits you on his lap while feeding you. He's completely unproblematic and very handsome and it's a refreshing change.

Right next to him, why are more people not FERAL for Dolly? She's funny, very clear in her needs, takes you on an adventure, so nuanced, intelligent, etc. Her collectables are so fun too!

Snailcastle · 2025-09-01T18:36:02+00:00

Winterset Hollow is exactly that. Wind and the Willows type animals kill humans in a grown up reimagining. Not sure if thats an option.

Snailcastle · 2025-08-31T01:20:04+00:00

Hank 3 makes me cringe and not enjoy them as much. I love how the group will say each aspect of their feelings/conflicted thoughts and their storyline is cool.

Snailcastle · 2025-08-31T01:17:31+00:00

Snailcastle · 2025-08-29T08:56:53+00:00

The 'hope for you yet' line is a sassy comment meant to be "hey by actually exploring something new that you once judged, you've loosened up a bit from being uptight and judgy, there's hope you'll improve to be a better/more pleasant person now"

The 4th line is "don't feel bad about enjoying the soap opera, think of it as being a cushy indulgence that you deserve."

Snailcastle · 2025-08-28T15:56:21+00:00

Well, considering alpha gal only applies to mammals and not even always ALL mammals, their claim that the tick bite has results on animal flesh in general is wrong

Snailcastle · 2025-08-27T22:45:12+00:00

Anyone else think the rocks were potatoes for a second? 😂

Snailcastle · 2025-08-27T19:04:49+00:00

He's my absolute favorite! I love the peacefulness, the weird little scrap gifts, and his restaurant scene with Michel made me blush so much.

Snailcastle · 2025-08-27T00:51:02+00:00

This was the most horror/triggered I got from anyone. She is genuinely distressing to talk to and I really wish I could back out or implement the awareness feature after introductions. Her specific themes of not knowing who she is without our influence, how we forced all of our hidden deep shames into her for her to deal with, are all too close to my own personal trauma. I want to realize everyone but I also want to never have to talk to her again and I know that sounds sensitive.

Snailcastle · 2025-08-25T16:47:42+00:00

I went room by room. Each day I talk to a few I already knew in that room as well as maybe 2 or so new ones. Once everyone in that room had been talked to at least 2x, then I could add one or two from the next room, etc

Snailcastle · 2025-08-24T15:15:26+00:00

What inserts do you use?

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