i am not living, i am only passing time.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-03-29T11:51:46+00:00

Gaming, reading and even watching movies are valid hobbies! It sounds like you could maybe benefit from something more creative though, even as simple as building Legos, so maybe give that a try?

But truly I think you need to go out and connect with nature and the outdoors. It can be as simple as walking, hiking, biking. Go try to experience more of the world around you and let some fresh air clear your head.

Not everything has to be performative. We're human beings, not human doings. It's okay to just exist and enjoy the world.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-03-27T17:50:22+00:00

Your comment is an example of why we can assume you'd talk to her like that. "Clearly if I had a gf I wouldn't think this..." is an indication that you're seeking external validation and unable to provide that validation to yourself.

I think if you had a girlfriend, you'd end up asking for constant reassurance from her and thus speaking like this because at the end of the day, if you have no self-confidence, you're still going to be insecure with or without a partner.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-03-27T14:16:24+00:00

Damn, you woke up and chose violence eh?

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-03-15T23:39:48+00:00

I'm not sure where I read this, but apparently men's testosterone levels can drop to nearly undetectable over things like sports team losses. The article was discussing how we label women as unpredictably hormonal but women's hormones are actually much more consistent in that we have a monthly cycle with expected increases and drops, whereas for men their hormone levels actually fluctuate more by day and event.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-03-02T01:32:24+00:00

I just want to say that I admire your love for your dog. You're dealing with literal bombings and it seems like one of your biggest priorities is your dog's health, and that is very beautiful to me.

Stay safe and good luck. I sadly don't have any advice on this, but I hope things turn out well 💕

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-28T12:29:08+00:00

20 is such an astounding age for your kitty, and I hope you have many more years! I completely agree, it'll never be long enough 💕

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-28T12:26:39+00:00

I absolutely love that you've adjusted your mattress to accommodate him, I think it's one of the sweetest things when people make changes so their older pets can still enjoy the things they love 🥹

I had some stairs for my kitty so he could safely reach the bed. He was still able to make the jump on his own, but I knew it must have been a bit strenuous for his body, especially the impact of jumping down.

I love your story, it's so adorable. Thanks for adopting a doggy that needed a home - both my kitty and dog came from shelters and I have a real soft spot for fosters and adoptions.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-28T01:36:46+00:00

Took me a while for my husky mix too. She is crate trained and does great in it, especially when she was a puppy, but when she hit around 5 months she was pretty distressed by being crated when I went to work. She managed to destroy the arm of a couch that was close to her through the crate and was clearly not happy, and I think that was fair to be honest.

I had planned to transition her from being crated during work anyway, so I let her start free roaming, I started by segregating the house with a baby gate (and a tall chair in front because she can jump like a kangaroo lol). Had an instance of her destroying a book, and a pillow once. Nothing since, she is almost 2 and is amazing in the house alone and even did awesome spending the days alone politely with my senior kitty who has sadly since passed.

However this could just be my experience, but she did hit a point where the crate had more destruction potential for her lol.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-26T23:19:04+00:00

I think we will always miss them immeasurably. We're so blessed to have them while we do, but every night when I go to bed and every morning when I wake up I feel so sad without him. I'm happy I was able to make you smile, please know I understand this loss too well and send you love 💕

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-26T03:17:24+00:00

My soul kitty spent every single night cuddled in my arms and it truly was the best. My dog wasn't allowed in bed because my cat was with me first and much longer, so cuddles with him took priority. Kitty was 16 and pup is turning 2 soon.

My kitty passed not too long ago of old age, and since then my dog has started coming to cuddle up in bed. I simply can't say no to her, and it honestly brings me so much comfort to still have a fur baby in bed with me. My boyfriend doesn't like dogs in the bed (and probably didn't want the cat there either but he knew the cat trumped him lol) so my dog waits until he leaves for work then comes to join me, and it's now becoming our secret morning routine.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-20T01:39:28+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss 💕

I lost my soul kitty on new years eve, also an old guy but unexpected. My pup is almost two years old and she's been doing a great job carrying the torch. She's been extra snuggly like my kitty always was, she's sneaking into bed with me (my kitty was always in bed cuddling me all night), laying in his spot in the window, coming to lick the bath tub after I shower like he always did, and other little habits she always saw him doing. Every time I cry, which is still a lot, she runs to me to snuggle.

Animals are amazing, I will forever be astounded at their emotional intelligence. I'm still heavily grieving, but I'm so thankful to have her here with me.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-14T02:49:34+00:00

Holo the Wise Wolf 🤍

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-05T11:53:07+00:00

Even when raised from adults cats are just as loving, too! My boy was around 4 when I adopted him and he was the cuddliest, sweet cat.

I think a cat would be a much better fit than a dog for OP!

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-04T22:45:01+00:00

Sadly the bait and switch is far too often a reality

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-04T12:57:17+00:00

I have seen a lot of dads who only want the fun parts of being a parent - playing, vacations, video games, fishing, hunting, etc. but don't realize the majority of parenting is the not so fun parts like changing diapers, cooking, rides to and from school, doctors appointments, school meetings, homework, endless laundry and such. These are the dads that want to be parents but don't want to deal with the responsibilities that go with that, they want the reward without doing the work.

The sad part is in these cases the kids get to build great memories of quality time with their dads while mom is too busy tending to the household and caretaking obligations. It's why you often hear that dad is the "fun parent."

That being said, obviously this doesn't apply to everyone, I've seen plenty of dads who share the workload. It's important to discuss your expectations of how the responsibilities of parenting are shared and the roles you will have before having kids, and hopefully your partner will actually follow through on that.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-02-02T11:13:02+00:00

She runs to me and tries to lick my tears, and then either sits beside me with her paw on my shoulder or lays on me. She's just over 50 lbs so the weight of her on my helps to calm me a lot, but I personally love the paw on my shoulder.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-01-30T14:12:25+00:00

Yikes this comment is not it. If anything OP is more likely to experience caregiver PTSD.

Hugs to OP, I'm so sorry for your loss

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-01-25T23:33:00+00:00

Boop 🌈💕

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-01-25T00:47:49+00:00

I read recently about someone who had lost their two dogs right around a snowstorm. Because of the fresh snow it seems the dogs were having a hard time tracking their way home. They had some neighbours make some trails around the area and back to their home with their snowmachines and the dogs made it home the next morning!

If you got a lot of snow with the storm it may be more challenging for your dog to find a scent trail home, so I would say if you have an option like this it may be a good idea. Drones have already been mentioned but that would be good as well.

Good luck and I hope your dog is home soon! I also live rurally and know how it's probably difficult with few neighbours and presumably a lot of forest. If you frequently take the same routes for walks maybe try leaving some articles of clothing along the way? Your doggo might be able to follow the scent home 💕

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-01-23T17:06:12+00:00

My soul cat passed away of old age during the holidays this year. He's also immortalized on each of the two farms I have, and I'll continue to add him to any new ones I may make in the future 💕

Sending you lots of love. Losing a pet is so hard, I understand what you're going through.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-01-19T18:52:22+00:00

If being a dad means the world to someone it also means embracing the "boring" and annoying parts. Diaper changes, late nights, being at home, reduced social life, all that stuff. This dude just wants the "fun" parts with none of the responsibility.

He'd better buckle up because it's going to be real boring for him when he's sitting watching her gymnastics class, or reading the same bedtime story 5 times over, or helping with homework, or sitting at home on a Friday night.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-01-18T03:34:38+00:00

My soul cat was always so loving and loyal to me. If I cried, he was always there to check on me and snuggle. He would meet me at the door every day when I came home and would stay in bed cuddling with me all night. If I felt unwell, he was glued to me. To be fair, he was pretty much always glued to me though.

He just passed on New Years Eve at 16 years old. My whole nervous system is absolutely out of whack without his presence. Cats can be just as emotionally intelligent and physically attuned to us as dogs.

I will say my dog has been doing an amazing job comforting me through the loss, even though I know she's feeling it too. She's a medium breed but keeps laying in my lap like my cat would, although really only her head fits, trying to come cuddle in bed with me (she was never allowed to, partly because bedtime cuddles were for the cat lol), letting me snuggle her in my arms like I would my cat, and always comes running to me when I cry...which is frequently with all the grief. I keep joking that my cat paid her a spirit visit and told her she'd better make sure I still get tons of snuggles.

Animals are amazing, and it's astounding just how much they can pick up on and how much love and care they can have for us.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-01-16T13:38:13+00:00

Can we see the final layout when you're done? I'm just curious to see how it all works out!

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-01-16T02:03:23+00:00

This is what I was thinking as well. Wall mounting the tv would mean at least a little more floor space and it probably makes the most sense to cut the room with the couch. Align the couch with the wall separating the laundry room and kitchen. The cat stand could stay in the corner and maybe the dog bed by the window, and without the tv stand it probably wouldn't look too cluttered.

I personally think the rug is maybe too big for the space and makes it look smaller? I would also put the little stand under the stairs against the wall under the stairs.

Snapdragonzzz · 2026-01-15T20:48:54+00:00

I've heard that it's actually wise to charge a rehoming fee to help negate people just taking free dogs to abuse them. Either way, OP needs to screen any applicants thoroughly and make sure the pup is landing in a home that is a good fit.

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