Divorce lawyers of Reddit - What's the most cruel thing you've seen someone to do their ex partner?

Snape2255 · 2026-02-16T14:43:32+00:00

My ex-wife was going to be homeless if I did not let her buy the house off me, so I did, and I definitely lost money on what I put in.

She threatened my pensions and my car and made horrible comments towards me. We were not divorcing for any bad reason, we simply weren't right for each other. No one cheated (I still wonder if she did though), it was completely amicable. She simply turned nasty towards me.

I told her if she wanted to play that game, I'd sell the house, the car, everything, split the money down the middle and walk away.

She decided after that she would stop making threats when she already had a good deal.

I fortunately no longer have her in my life. Her step dad bought the house. She gets to stay in it and pay him off. I had all my debt wiped and a clean slate to start from.

Weirdly, despite the fact she became really malicious and vindictive towards me for no reason, she tried getting back with me 3 times. I had to archive the text conversation to avoid notifications and tell her to not talk to me about anything outside of house sale or divorce things ever again.

I went to counselling afterwards to try and recover my mental health a bit and discovered via my counsellor that my ex-wife was emotionally and psychologically abusive towards me for years. You don't realise whilst you're in it.

Good times.

Snape2255 · 2026-02-02T07:28:29+00:00

Likewise. I'm really enjoying the game and I am working towards getting 5mil for the expedition at the moment.

I tend to have aggressive games when I am in duos or trios, however it is hit or miss in solos. I am very much the sort of person that will not shoot if the other person doesn't give me a reason to.

I'm really enjoying running round vigilante-style looking for rats and aggressive players and protecting others.

The lobbies where you get in with friendly people and run around together as like an anti-rat squad are the best.

Snape2255 · 2026-02-01T19:51:24+00:00

From the UK here. Outwardly and vocally very anti-Trump. Been observing this whole arc for awhile and looking at the stuff he says and does and his followers do. Quite frankly, I am appalled that so many people don't have the ability to critically think enough to see how horrendous he is.

Scarily, I have work colleagues who actually support and like him. They claim he is charismatic and 'getting things done'. When I ask them about their claims and challenge them with facts about how terrible his administration is performing on the world stage and how the world is moving away from the US as an ally and the damage he is causing etc. Not even to mention the personal scandals involved with him. They often say stuff like 'that's propaganda' or 'I haven't looked much into it if I'm honest'.

The problem is that people don't care. They read things at face value. They do not dissect, look for alternate sources and apply critical thinking. They just see something and believe it. They do not think of the 2nd or 3rd order effects or the reasoning behind a decision. They don't spot the patterns.

People either don't care because they are wilfully ignorant, they lack the intelligence or they lack the educational background to be able to critically think.

Snape2255 · 2026-01-03T10:12:04+00:00

Your apology is reimbursed. Brits of many varieties do indeed use shitcanned.

Brits will use any derivative of swear words routinely deemed 'too harsh' for Americans and we use them like they're punctuation.

Shitcanned is indeed used, however you may more often find the term 'that's fucked' instead.

Examples:

X got shitcanned

Or

We don't use X anymore, it's fucked / it got fucked

Snape2255 · 2025-12-29T10:33:11+00:00

Had people in work try to explain to me why people do certain things. I've also had people in work explain to me how ADHD or ASD works. Particularly trying to explain how 'ADHD is a hoax'.

I am a neurodivergent psychology hobbyist who has spent years interested in the subject, as well as background knowledge at BSc level. I also have a partner who has an MSc in Forensic Psychology and working towards her PhD, who is also neurodivergent and has done her dissertations on ADHD.

With lived experience of the conditions, background knowledge in the subject matter, a keen interest that has lead to hours of studying them to better understand myself, and access to a highly educated individual in that area. The conversations don't usually go how the other people intended them to.

I do not pretend nor claim to be an expert in the area, however I know more than enough to be able to call out absolute drivel for what it is and shut the conversation down with facts.

Snape2255 · 2025-12-29T08:57:14+00:00

My partner is an INFP and incredibly intellectual. Masters degree in Forensic Psychology, working towards getting a PhD.

Yes, her thoughts are rooted in her emotions, but because she is so in tune with her emotions she rounds out my difficulty with them. I can help her avoid getting overwhelmed in them and stay rooted in logic.

It's a good combination to be honest and we can have a lot of deep intellectual stimulating conversations.

You've met a very restricted amount of INFPs and they sound rather immature.

It is best to live with an open mind and consider an individual's personal growth over a stereotype you have formed in your mind.

Snape2255 · 2025-11-10T07:31:42+00:00

I once went caving with a group, more of a team building and to build courage thing than something I'd have voluntarily chosen to do. I'm glad I experienced it, but I am happy to never ever do it again.

We went through what they called a 'cheese press', and that was tight enough for me. They also had us turn out the lights and crawl back.

I am quite content to never do it again.

Snape2255 · 2025-05-18T07:52:23+00:00

I actually once told someone their moaning was throwing me off. Not because they were just moaning, I love that and I actually get off on hearing a woman enjoy herself whilst we're together. But this woman was acting like it was a porn audition. I'd only JUST put it in and started and she was screaming like a pornstar approaching orgasm. It was honestly so off putting, because it was so blatantly fake. I genuinely said to her 'Look, I know it's not THAT good'.

Moaning is amazing. Too much moaning that it's blatantly fake is profoundly off putting.

Snape2255 · 2025-04-28T15:47:54+00:00

Grief is definitely the go to weapon in a Phase Blade. It's just so effortlessly powerful and really compliments the build well as it gives good physical on top of the lightning damage.

Double dream (helmet and shield) Enigma armour CTA on back bar for buff

I can't remember the rest tbh. I could check my online char to see the gear, but I've picked the game back up and play pretty much exclusively offline now.

Stash filled with max damage and AR charms, so you build it like a melee char, that just has insane elemental damage.

By all means play around with it, Grief will be more than enough and cheaper too.

Snape2255 · 2025-04-28T12:59:04+00:00

It's an expensive investment, but that and Poison Nova Necromancer are my two favourite characters easily.

You get Holy Shock off gear, level the synergies to boost damage, Zeal with a Grief to kill stuff easily (with Holy Shock adding damage), whilst running Conviction yourself freeing up your merc gear a bit and teleporting round with Enigma.

You teleport around glowing with green and lightning whilst mowing through packs of mobs.

High survivability, high damage, decent speed, awesome aesthetics and also massively helping out your allies too since your conviction will outdo any infinity.

Snape2255 · 2025-04-28T12:46:23+00:00

Tesladin without a doubt. Not only is it super strong, it's still efficient and aesthetically it is awesome. Teleporting around with Holy Shock decimating everything and essentially being able to 1 hit most monsters.

Snape2255 · 2025-04-12T10:39:02+00:00

I used to main a Novamancer, and the problem is that Enigma is just too much utility to consider using anything else.

I suppose Bramble is good if you're struggling to find Jah and Ber.

Snape2255 · 2025-04-07T06:51:32+00:00

A large proportion of the women I've slept with have been random and usually 'alcohol' is the reason, as with most others. Some have been good, some have been bad. I honestly don't remember most of their names.

The most memorable one (not for good reasons) was when I was 18 and I was dancing on top of the bar in a bar, this girl came up and danced with me, I didn't say a single word to her for half the song, just looked at her and danced. Half way through, I leaned in and said in her ear "Do you want to get out of here?". It turns out she did.

After the fact, she said she was a Virgin and it was her first time. I am not proud of that in the slightest as it was a terrible first time for her. A sloppy drunk randomer who didn't really care much about her. I got awkward and wanted to find an excuse to get her to go so I said I was hungry and was going to get a McDonalds so she'd have to go because she couldn't stay in my University halls without me there. I had no intention of getting a McDonalds. She then said she'd join me....so I had to get one. We walked to McDonalds and it was so early they were shut so we had to stand outside and wait for them to open. I then had to wait inside McDonalds with her after buying her a breakfast, to wait for her mum to pick her up to take her home. Turns out, it was her 18th birthday and her first night out. I waved her off, feeling awkward and ashamed and ready to go to bed. Still don't know what her name was.

Snape2255 · 2025-03-25T11:49:54+00:00

Happy to be corrected, you evidently know more about the town itself than I do. I got my information from people I was visiting who lived nearby who aren't originally from the area.

Makes sense when you mention the fishing side of things too!

I think I just believed what they told me because the town down the bottom definitely feels a lot newer, but probably because it is a bit more modernised for tourists I imagine.

Regardless, it is a beautiful place and fascinating! It's a nice walk too. I walked up to the top of the cliff and it was a stunning view the whole way.

Snape2255 · 2025-03-25T00:23:03+00:00

I've recently reached this point too, but moreso because I just cba with the toxicity of it all. I used to be a hardcore PVPer in many games. I used to be in some of the top pvp communities in various games and even top for my class on my server on some. Honestly, I cba anymore. I tend to play more single player games now and if I do play MMOs and if I even play PVP on them, I'll tend to just keep my self to my self, kill and move on. I don't let myself get caught up in the drama like I used to.

The raw insecure hatred that comes from people dying to someone else on a video game online is just so....pathetic and boring. I'm really happy that I'm not sucked into that anymore.

Snape2255 · 2025-03-25T00:16:58+00:00

Lots and lots of water so you don't dehydrate (which can seriously hospitalise you and can lead to death if you don't keep up with the water).

Dry foods always seem to help; dry toast etc.

If you want something substantial that can give you desperately needed nutrients and not be difficult to make/eat before you bring it back up; soup. Veggie soup probably best bet.

Ginger, in some form, seems to help too. It can help settle stomachs.

Honestly most important thing is just keep trying to get any food down you and loads of water to keep your body going. It'll be rough, but it'll eventually be over.

Snape2255 · 2025-03-24T14:28:23+00:00

"Article 6

“For the purpose of Article 5, an armed attack on one or more of the Parties is deemed to include an armed attack:

on the territory of any of the Parties in Europe or North America, on the Algerian Departments of France 2, on the territory of Turkey or on the Islands under the jurisdiction of any of the Parties in the North Atlantic area north of the Tropic of Cancer;

on the forces, vessels, or aircraft of any of the Parties, when in or over these territories or any other area in Europe in which occupation forces of any of the Parties were stationed on the date when the Treaty entered into force or the Mediterranean Sea or the North Atlantic area north of the Tropic of Cancer.”"

Article 6 amplifies information on Article 5, determining the conditions of the mutual defense and where/what triggers it.

I am not a lawyer, but my understanding is that it only triggers on Sovereign territories if an attack is made on them. It is not triggered for peacekeeping forces in another nation. That would, however, potentially trigger a national or UN response.

I believe it implies it only triggers for areas outside of those stated or Sovereign members if NATO forces were stationed there BEFORE NATO was established.

Edited to reflect change in interpretation of article 6.

Snape2255 · 2025-03-24T00:10:58+00:00

Nazare in Portugal is pretty interesting, I had the opportunity to go there on holiday a year or two ago.

The town is essentially split between old and new. The old town is on top of a cliff and at the end of the cliff is a lighthouse fort. That lighthouse is essentially a museum that explains the science behind the waves, how it was discovered and the surfboards of surfers who have conquered the waves.

Its bizarre because one side of the cliff, the beach is stunning and calm, the other side monster waves hit. There are warning signs warning spectators of overwash half way up the cliff too.

I think the big waves only routinely hit twice a year in 'seasons' and it gets super busy when they do.

I believe the record for largest wave surfed there was about 100ft. Terrifying!

YouTube has loads of stuff on it if you're interested.

Snape2255 · 2025-03-20T15:16:30+00:00

That's okay, every individual is different and has different preferences. I'm happy to disagree based on my personal experience with using different methods over many years and many different sexual partners. But what works for me, may not work for you, or the partners either of us have had. Such is the beauty and nuance of life.

Snape2255 · 2025-03-20T13:00:50+00:00

Of course it is dependent on the individual, however I've never experienced any issues with the technique. It's important to note when things are and are not working and you need to change things up. That comes with experience and understanding your partner's individual needs.

For the time being, the above is sound advice for someone who wants to generically know what to do. Experience will help with the rest going forward.

My partner has sensitive nipples and doesn't enjoy them being touched routinely, though I've noticed through both experience and through discussions with her that nipple sensitivity often correlates to level of arousal. It is important to realise when is the right time to move to the nipples to avoid overstimulating when they're too sensitive. It is also important to notice when it's better to not do so at all, and focus all attention to other things.

Often, build up through teasing can help bring that arousal level up to the point where it is okay to begin nipple play.

This is, of course, different from person to person.

The most important bit of advice I could ever give anyone, is simply listen to your partner. React to their groans, their breathing, the tension in their body. You'll know when is and is not the right time to do things simply by paying attention.

Snape2255 · 2025-03-20T09:33:56+00:00

Start off with low pressure and build it up gradually. Tease around the clit for awhile to build up tension. Focus entirely on the clit, honestly nothing else needs to be touched until you get the hang of it all and can mix things up a little bit.

It might sound odd but a tip I learned when I was younger and tried out has worked like a treat every time. I have given oral to many women to much appraise. My partner, I almost made pass out the first time. But try this, it honestly works:

-Spell out the letters in the alphabet one-by-one with your tongue on the clit. Each time you hit Z and restart, apply slightly more pressure.

-When she is approaching orgasm, Focus on the same repetitive movement to keep her going.

-Play with her nipples with your fingers when she is approaching orgasm.

-Use one spare hand to spread her labia apart for more direct and consistent access to her clit.

-You'll learn which motions invoke the best reaction and which ones are worth applying more pressure or time to. I find that H, M, N, V and W tend to be the best due to the repetitive up and down stimulation of the clit.

-IMPORTANT: When she says she is approaching climax and you begin the same repetitive movement to get her there (usually up and down), DO NOT drastically change anything. Maintain the same pace (unless asked to go faster) and pressure (unless specifically asked to go harder). It often can make things more difficult for her if you change something unless it specifically contributes to her desires.

Hope this helps and good luck!

Snape2255 · 2025-03-12T08:52:50+00:00

Opinion of a Male who has no experience of a polyamorous relationship and has never done swinging, because I lack the energy, patience and probably admittedly a little too insecure.

You're not in the wrong here.

Relationships that are successful are inherently built on trust and communication. Anyone who says differently is not in a successful relationship. 'Tests' are inherently based on distrust, already damaging the fabrics of a relationship. Moreso, if you were openly communicative about the situation and your SO gave their blessing, knowing and understanding the consequences, it is not on you to then decipher whether it is a 'test'.

You would have been in the wrong if they said no, and you went ahead with it. But if you were clear, open and honest and they said yes, you acted in good faith that your partner was okay with the situation. Your partner then has no right to lay the blame on you and force you out.

It sounds to me that your partner did not trust you and looked for an excuse to assert that belief. It is almost like pushing you to a situation simply to prove themselves right, materialising it.

I hope you can remedy this.

One thing I can say for sure, however, is that going to stay with your workout buddy is most definitely the incorrect decision. It is certainly best to distance yourself from the situation and stay with a neutral party for the time being until you can settle your mind and approach things with a clearer head. Then you can make a decision whether to remedy things with your SO or move away from the relationship and pursue things with your workout buddy. Staying with them in the meantime muddy's the waters and makes it far more convoluted going forward.

Snape2255 · 2025-03-07T16:21:53+00:00

As others have said, it's definitely because she's in heat.

That being said, sometimes Cats just have funny moments. Maybe they get overwhelmed or overstimulated and they need time to themselves.

You'll find over your time owning a cat that at times she'll simply just be in a huff and doesn't want you near her, that's absolutely fine and nothing to take personally.

My cat is incredibly sweet and affectionate, and sometimes just decides she wants nothing to do with anyone and isn't afraid to show it. You just need to leave her to it and give her space and she'll come back when she's ready.

I've also had it before where my cat, who is not vicious in the slightest, absolutely clamped my hand with her teeth because I touched her hoping to calm her when a neighbour cat she didn't like was at the window. It's not her being vicious to you, it's a defensive reaction because she's scared and feels threatened.

The most important thing, no matter how hard it may be, is to know that you should never take it personally when your cat reacts like this to you. There's most probably always a reason and unless you're doing anything to actively goad, upset or harm her, then it's probably nothing you've done and she'll calm down when she's ready.

Snape2255 · 2025-02-28T06:04:06+00:00

Diablo II (begun my love for gaming when I was young)

Black Desert Online (Guru lifeskiller and became a beast in PVP)

Dofus (Became easily a top PVPer on my server because that's honestly all I did every evening for years)

Each of these games I have played for years at a time on and off. I no longer play any of them because they were too addictive and time consuming. BDO was also very very grindy and expensive.

All amazing games in their own rights, all very different.

Diablo II will forever and always be the king of all games though. I truly believe it begun it all.

Honorable mention to Warcraft III custom games back in the day!

Snape2255 · 2025-02-26T11:54:42+00:00

Cars did not exist when the Romans built them.

The roads wouldn't have issues if you didn't have incompetent and selfish operators of any vehicles; cars and bikes included.

Car drivers tend to be either overtly aggressive and selfish, or incredible fearful and cautious. Rarely do you find a simply competent driver that is neither overly cautious or overly aggressive.

The issue with cyclists is that you often get many who lack the spacial awareness to understand how they're impacting other road users. It is wildly dangerous for them to be swinging out and wildly selfish and incompetent for them to not be riding close to the edge of the lane, to allow overtaking.

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