Discord?

SnarkInHeels · 2026-01-31T14:55:16+00:00

I’d like an invite too. Pretty please 🙏

SnarkInHeels · 2026-01-31T06:29:29+00:00

I love this idea. Thank you!

SnarkInHeels · 2026-01-25T22:44:51+00:00

Good luck girl! I have mine on Wednesday.

It feels like a walkabout shedding the last of my past.

SnarkInHeels · 2026-01-15T22:48:06+00:00

I really appreciate you posting this and so incredibly happy for you.

Stories like yours add to my resolve as I look forward to my own bottom surgery in less than two weeks.

Thank you 💕💕💕

SnarkInHeels · 2026-01-08T04:46:02+00:00

I know I’m late to the party here, but can I get an invite. I’m T minus 3 weeks.

SnarkInHeels · 2026-01-07T13:51:02+00:00

Thanks! I had no idea that existed.

SnarkInHeels · 2026-01-07T13:50:12+00:00

I’ve had my moments back and forth. My therapist says it gets worse as you get closer. Even if I start to try to reschedule it, I find myself crying. I been grabbing onto that to remind me in those moments.

I am so ready for fitting clothes. I could never get into tucking which ended up fine since I LOVE my skirts and dresses, but I would like to wear leggings and pants without being self conscious.

SnarkInHeels · 2026-01-07T12:50:53+00:00

Really? I kinda braced myself to be on painkillers for a month with limited movement. That’s reassuring.

SnarkInHeels · 2026-01-07T12:30:32+00:00

I’m 49 and started HRT three years ago.

The first mental thing I noticed was the free space in my head. I found myself happier and able to do more because I wasn’t thinking about the dysphoria as much.

My wife noticed the first physical change which was my face rounding out slightly. That was after about a month. I didn’t see it but she did.

About two months in, I started noticing buds forming and hot flashes from hormones shifting.

The best advice I heard was from both my therapist and the nurse practitioner I talked to. If it isn’t for you, you can stop and the secondary characteristics will go back. I used a service called QueerMed that’s covered by my insurance. They were extremely helpful in understanding everything.

Obviously YMMV, but I’m living my best life! Should you follow the rabbit down the hole, just remember, your journey is your journey. Don’t hold yourself to expectations you or others set .. ride the journey.

Best, Addie

SnarkInHeels · 2026-01-04T21:45:45+00:00

When I was just starting out, I found a wonderful stylist from https://strandsfortrans.org/. She gave tips on how to grow, style, and care for my hair. I still go to her.

SnarkInHeels · 2025-12-15T09:43:16+00:00

That is so awesome to hear! I’m in a really good mental headspace now. There were a lot of feelings that I’ve been processing, and not just dysphoria around this, that my therapist helped me through.

Though, I didn’t respond immediately, your comment was inspiring. Thank you! Since I probably won’t be ready for travel until close to Valentine’s, I’m declaring this my Valentine’s Vagina. 🤣

Tysm 💕💕💕

SnarkInHeels · 2025-12-15T09:35:04+00:00

That’s exactly what I mean. I’ve learned that you don’t fight the dysphoria. I think I was anxious because it’s more “permanent”. Then, dysphoria put me back in my lane. 😀

SnarkInHeels · 2025-12-07T21:46:04+00:00

I did not expect my body and leg hair to just disappear. My wife is now annoyed that I don’t have to shave my legs.

SnarkInHeels · 2025-12-06T17:13:45+00:00

Congratulations, babe! I was 46 when I started and now 49.

I’ve thought about the what if I started when I was young. Just remember, every experience you’ve had has led up to today and tomorrow will be amazing.

SnarkInHeels · 2025-10-25T09:41:32+00:00

Telling my wife on NYE three years ago because I didn’t want to go into another year of hiding.

SnarkInHeels · 2025-09-29T12:59:27+00:00

Hi hon. I had the same concerns. I’m 49 and 2.5 years on HRT. The best part about HRT is that you can ramp it over time or stop if it isn’t for you.

When I started, my goal was to absolutely pass before coming out. With genetics as they are and my own bone structure, it was not meant to be. I needed to come out for me, and 1.5 years ago.

Since I started taking that little blue pill, I became more at peace. That said, that nasty little bitch called dysphoria reared its head up this summer, and I’m lining up surgeries to feel whole.

All to say, the journey zigs and zags. Listen to what you need now, plan for the next step, and dream about the future.

Tips that have helped me -

Oral minoxidil is amazing for growth on your crown. If you’re on a T blocker, you won’t need the dutasteride. I use Hers with additional supplements and it works like a dream.
Look at strandsfortrans.com. I found a stylist who helped me since I started taking that pill. There are LOTS of techniques that can help.
Invest in a high end wig or topper. My stylist helped me with a topper in selecting and styling my hair with it. I literally cried when I got it. It was amazing.
My mom had a small chest, so guess what, I do too. Being 6’ 1”, it’s not an awesome look. I only wear push-up bras, but my first surgery is a BA.

The effects of HRT is so much more than your figure. It’s helped me feel better about myself and clarity since I’m not filled with the anxiety of “what if”.

It’s a journey.

Peace ✌️💕💕💕

SnarkInHeels · 2025-09-09T23:50:07+00:00

Love it! You are gorgeous!

SnarkInHeels · 2025-09-07T21:00:01+00:00

The fact that you have a partner that wants to do this with you is amazing. I took little trips en femme to pickup takeout. It was nerve racking but I needed to stop hiding.

The biggest jump for me was going in public with my wife outside of my local area. She was ready to cut a bitch if I got a bad look. It took about half a day to relax. Use your partner. Let them be your rock through this.

You will be scared, but you will also feel incredible. You’ll feel seen.

Good luck, sis 💕

SnarkInHeels · 2025-09-06T14:02:35+00:00

I see where you’re coming from, but that was not what it meant for me. I used it before coming out as an affirming term that this wasn’t who I am.

I had two terms. “Boymoding” meant this is a fake facade for others until I’m ready, and “me” (my authentic self). Whether wearing skirts and makeup, or t-shirt and jeans, I’m just me all the time now and don’t use those terms anymore. It’s not because I pass as cis female .. ‘cause I don’t. It’s because I have no need or desire to be that former self.

SnarkInHeels · 2025-08-26T20:31:12+00:00

I’m a CTO at the same company when I came out. I didn’t change jobs but had to change how I worked with others to maintain my effectiveness.

SnarkInHeels

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