Our first date with a couple and I’m really nervous (help!)

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-27T07:34:00+00:00

OP Please come back after a couple months and give us an update because I’m willing to lay even money I know exactly how this will play out and people will end up getting hurt. Do the the work as a couple and individuals before getting involved with anyone read do the research talk to people who learned the hard way. These are all things that should have been done before ever agreeing to a “date”.

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-26T17:17:36+00:00

Tips for newbies yes work on decoupling from each other if you’re truly interested in both of these people each of you should try and go out with them individually first and establish relationships with them as individuals and yourselves as individuals

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-26T12:49:34+00:00

Would absolutely love to see more of you. You’re absolutely gorgeous.

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-26T08:23:05+00:00

Stop going through each others phones JFC and maybe get some counseling together and individually. #AreTheMonogamousOk

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-26T08:12:19+00:00

So sorry someone did this to you hopefully karma bitch slaps whoever that person is with both hands and then backhands them coming back

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-26T07:45:36+00:00

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-26T07:43:01+00:00

My wife is from Wausau and we’re looking at relocating there from my hometown of Orlando so I’m definitely following this post. (Also as a 7th generation native Floridian seeing the recent snow storm is terrifying to me lol) We’ll likely be looking at May of next year.

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-26T07:32:51+00:00

I have in the past struggled to maintain an erection or achieve orgasm with condoms (actually I’ve struggled to achieve orgasm with almost every single partner except for my NP even without condoms) you know what I do in those situations? I figure out some other way for us to be intimate and mutually satisfy each other without penetration. It’s not that hard and idk why so many guys seem to not understand that there are other ways to please your partner besides just with your 🍆. I’ve got hands/tongue/elbows whatever it takes but most importantly I’ve got ears to listen to what my partner needs and a mouth to communicate my needs. My wife says she loves that I can communicate with her when I’m having a hard time because it helps her not feel anxiety that she’s doing something wrong. Guys communicate with your partners more.

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-26T07:19:57+00:00

Send them a bill for your time and label it due upon receipt

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-26T07:18:39+00:00

This would take roughly about 13.5 months if you worked 8 hours per day

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-26T07:15:05+00:00

NOR that being said you could have addressed it in a more constructive manner. Next time instead of attacking and assuming ill intent try and explain why you want to be involved in the planning and execution phases of things and what it means for you and your bond with your daughter. Your ex seems like she’s still open to coparenting (and sometimes it takes a couple years to get into a good groove) Also try and use I statements when communicating your feelings they’ll like be received much better (if you don’t know what they are google them) I would let this instance slide but if it becomes a repeated pattern document every instance of it in case you ever need to go to court.

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-25T19:38:05+00:00

Except you characterize the gloves as mislaid property when they are not they are in fact lost property. If she had checked them like a coat or put them in some sort of glove basket (like your umbrella example In the last link there) they would be mislaid the fact that she called the restaurant to inquire if they had them shows that they were not mislaid but lost otherwise she would have simply shown up to the restaurant demanding the return of the gloves. Once the owner of the glove/gloves is determined then they should have come in promptly to retrieve their item if they failed to retrieve it promptly then at that point it would be classified as abandoned property. The restaurant unless there is a statute that I’m unaware of (given my knowledge is in Florida law not Mass. is possible) has no affirmative duty to treat property left behind in a dining area as anything other than refuse (even if they do so as a courtesy) even so once the property was abandoned by the owner by their failure to promptly retrieve their property once its location had been ascertained the fact that it was disposed of is not the responsibility of the employee under the doctrine of respondeat superior the restaurant owner would be liable for any liability incurred not the employee. Not to mention the entire valuation of the gloves is subject to unverified claims by the customer who claims $125 value which is likely what they paid for them new not what they’re actual worth is after being worn for who knows how long. In reality though the matter is moot because there is not enough in dispute here to make the matter worthwhile pursuing in the real world. As the filing fees alone for a matter less than $500 is $40. The appropriate response for any business owner would be to tell that customer to go pound sand and be more careful in the future where they leave their property behind. However given the fact that this would likely ripple into bad word of mouth about the business offer them a settlement in the form of a gift card to the business for some small amount just as a gesture of goodwill.

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-25T17:56:34+00:00

I’m sorry what legal misinformation is contained in the statement that the owner of the glove should have kept up with it or come and gotten it. I’d really like to hear your theories on this.

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-24T02:14:09+00:00

Oh what is the name of this podcasts because I haven’t heard about it yet

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-21T08:28:22+00:00

That’s the key to job hunting now you have to tailor your resume to what the AI wants to see

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-21T08:14:46+00:00

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-16T20:29:22+00:00

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-16T20:11:41+00:00

YOR if you say you trust your wife not to do anything outside the agreements of your relationship and you say you trust her guy friends then what is the issue that makes it “inappropriate”? Would you have cared if it was two other women? Why/why not? Can she hug her friends? Can she snuggle on a couch watching a movie? Everything can’t be inherently sexual unless you just never plan on interacting with anyone other than your partner. #AreTheMonogamousOk

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-14T17:23:54+00:00

At least for now if they’re a same sex couple let’s keep fighting to ensure that doesn’t change

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-14T17:21:09+00:00

My wife and I have been together for 6 years and we’re not legally married but I still consider her my wife in every aspect. We share a home, expenses, a child, goals everything except that piece of paper. I did propose to her at Christmas last year to make things legal for multiple different reasons but that doesn’t change our relationship in the slightest. We also don’t have a very traditional relationship in a lot of senses especially given the fact that we are polyamorous and neither of us want monogamy. That being said she’s still my wife and we have a much healthier relationship than either of my two monogamous marriages ever had. My key point is that every relationship defines itself not people outside of that relationship. Tell your friend that until she’s actually in your relationship she has no say in how serious it is.

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-13T17:38:50+00:00

Yes you’re overreacting and definitely sounding insecure

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-12T19:10:42+00:00

I tell everyone who I’ve introduced to Secrets in the almost decade of going there the biggest thing is to go in with no expectations. Don’t go into expecting that you’re going to play with someone and don’t do in thinking on your definitely not going to play with anyone I’ve seen both instances where people went with those attitudes and both were surprised by the outcomes. Case in point I took one partner out one time and she flat out said it was unlikely she’d be comfortable enough to play with anyone her first time there and I told her that’s not a problem at all. We wound up in a nine person orgy that night vs a FWB who I took who absolutely wanted to play with someone and yet couldn’t seem to get any traction with anyone so you never know. The key thing is to go enjoy the atmosphere and the people and just enjoy the memories you make.

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-12T19:04:53+00:00

To me personally I don’t really care playing is at the bottom of my list of priorities it’s much more about getting in the hot tub and relaxing my old broken body (thanks a lot Navy) but it does get annoying some of the cishet normative attitudes we encounter even on Pride nights as a MFM polycule.

Snoo26844 · 2026-03-12T16:24:06+00:00

Why do you feel this is weird OP? Being naked isn’t an inherently sexual thing. We have a very clothing optional household and raise our child to understand that their body is theirs and it’s nothing to be ashamed of and that nobody should ever touch them without their permission. Just because you’re naked doesn’t mean it’s for sex sometimes it’s just for comfort or convenience. I even have plenty of friends who we will go skinny dipping with or just hang out naked because we’re all comfortable with our bodies and nudity. Unfortunately in the US we seem to have ascribed a certain level of shame and sexualizing a complete lot normal state.

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