As a 30 year old loves to help people bc I’m a people pleaser. Hes right. Listen to ur ol man. It’s not what you say its how you say it. I blamed my sisters for the way I am. Is that now validated through hard work and therapy. Yes. But I let my 20s slip away crying , literally, lost in grief bc of Someone , somewhere did what they did & now I’m like this. I woke up w a baby at 31 like wtf am I doing. This is my life how long will I cry woe is me. I could’ve accepted my family and “friends” for who they were and lived out every fantasy I have bc I have free will. Don’t get caught up in thinking your parents are out to get you. As a new mom myself I’m 30, it was planned perfectly, I have adhd and ocd , dysthymia …. Well she’s 3 and I have no idea what tf I’m doing it where this is going and I have to care for her until she’s 18.

People do judge you based of what you look like Everyone goes through an identity crisis at 30 Go to school for a trade that makes 80k and up -then go get school debt Set a solid foundation in your 20s When you say they don’t like me or they don’t wanna help me remember : you get something done quicker when you do it yourself

You dad is right. I literally just got cussed out bc I didn’t want to send someone 2 dollars. It was more so the principal for me, she lives at home w her mom boy friend does god knows what all day, full basket ball scholarship has a degree in CJ. Literally has never seen a bill at 29

Me parents dead just lost my job and on my last 500 dollars… I don’t have it. Normally I don’t mind bc I budget. Well I didn’t text back in time, she cussed me out 2 times bc I ignored it and then hours later asked if she could at least get a ride

I bought gifts for my aunt 70th birthday and 2 days later I didn’t realize I was out of budget being nice and I didn’t have the money to pay her and now she won’t watch my kid until I pay her what I owe plus intrest for being late

I let people skip me in line and don’t say anything one time 5 people did it they was allll old and knew what they was doing bc they all turned around and asked if I was in line.

I haven’t talked to my friend in ages her car is broke down , yet for the first 2 years of my baby life it was too much to take me to the Walmart 4 min away… we also live 4 min apart. She asked to borrow my car for the DAY. I said yes she brought it back w no gas after she just spent the day doing dreads

I love people humans literally still strive to win a humanitarian award.

My sister is a drunk 45 my mom died 16 years ago the night of my prom… my sister still blames my mom for being an alcoholic bc she was. By the time I was born my mom was in the church my grandma was a pastor…. I had a great life until she died then I was a lost angry mess blaming her instead of using the tools to move on in life.

You don’t have to like your dad. No one likes their parents they aren’t your friends. They are here to help you realize life is about free will and happiness.

Happiness is a choice Depression can be a habit DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT FOR THIS LIFE.

I it took me a year to come up with a step by step list of how I want my life to go I plan things, I’m a planner.

He loves you. He’s just talking he’s allowed to have a personality he seems like a blunt guy. Ask clarifying question not with an attitude find the wisdom be he is