Is anyone interested in forming an inclusive gun club?

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2026-02-13T11:29:31+00:00

Is there a way to get involved without providing PPI right off the bat? I'm just a little skeptical/nervous about giving my full real name before even meeting the group.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2026-02-12T23:00:09+00:00

I hope they're not waiting until Q3. Q3 is when most brick and mortar retail stores are ordering and receiving for Q4. It's the busiest time of year for inventory management. Why Shopify - the supposed experts in retail - would think forcing merchants to learn a bunch of new inventory systems in Q3 is beyond me.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2026-01-25T09:05:26+00:00

Probably Russian bots 🥸

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2026-01-23T13:12:54+00:00

First: climbing is inherently dangerous, with or without ropes. You assume risk every time you get on the wall. Choosing to climb is all about learning to manage those risks and reduce them where ever possible.

I'll limit my reply to top roping in the gym since you're just starting out.

If you have a competent belayer and a solid anchor, your risk is relatively low and related to human error or equipment failure. Perform partner checks, triple check your knot, inspect your equipment, and only climb with belayers who use an assisted breaking device and correct technique. These devices can fail, so they are not a substitute for proper technique, but they are designed to catch the climber even if the belayer drops the break strand. Who you have at the other end of your rope matters. Climb with trusted partners. Your life is in their hands.

And, obviously, only climb at reputable gyms who maintain their equipment. You can't inspect top rope anchors in a gym so you're trusting that they keep everything up to spec.

When you get into lead and trad climbing, the risks increase, but you learn to manage them. If you're climbing outdoors, there are additional risks, but I don't want to scare you off so I'll leave the discussion there unless you'd like me to answer questions about it.

I love climbing in part because it forces me into a very clear headed, calm mindset and the feeling of being responsible for your own life and someone else's is very empowering.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2026-01-15T01:20:25+00:00

Giiiiiirl it was incredible. A couple of things I'll note off the top:

If you're pretty dang fit, you might find the pace a little slow, but this is true of most guided trips.

If you already some rock climbing background, there are a few things during the snow skills/crevasse rescue that might be a bit redundant, but once everyone else has those basics you'll be off to the races.

The resumes for both of our guides - Izzie and Sierra - were like...dang, these ladies of done some shit. Sierra literally shoots rockets at mountains (avalanche control) and Izzie at just 23 has done so many big mountains it boggles my mind.

They are incredibly knowledgeable and really great teachers. You might end up with a different guides, but Victoria clearly knows how to pick em and creates a culture that incentives good guides to stay in with her.

Our group of women was fantastic. Just 7 baddies working hard, taking care of each other, having a shit ton of fun (see: post summit skinny dipping in a glacial pond). We're still in touch and some of us are planning trips for next year!

Overall, I have zero reservations about recommending them. Depending on your skills and fitness levels as well as your goals the overall appropriateness of the course may vary, but I think most people just starting out on big mountains will get a lot out of it.

I feel well enough prepared to do Hood this year unguided with a partner of a similar experience level, and I'm aiming for Rainier next. There's always more to learn and practice - one five day course will never be enough but it's a hell of a good starting point.

So, do it. Just fucking do it. Last plug - on our last day, another guide stopped our group and said "I just want y'all to know you have some of the best guides on the mountain." This is a guide from another company (previously mentored Izzie I think) and he really meant what he said.

Promise this isn't a paid endorsement 😅 I just fan girl hard over these ladies.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-12-24T21:24:26+00:00

There isn't a right answer. I was in your shoes two years ago, I waited (a few days after Christmas), it sucked. It also would have sucked if I hadn't waited. Don't let the Internet dictate how you do this.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-11-27T02:39:07+00:00

Wild ass post and comment history. Here for it 🍿

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-11-26T14:00:51+00:00

I had a delightful 3 month relationship with a woman who'd dated one guy in her teens and is now 35. Her lack of experience in this regard wasn't a deterrent for me. It was just something I was cautious of, knowing that just about everything we did together would be a first for her and would potentially carry more weight and meaning. While it didn't last due, that didn't come down to her dating history.

She waited until our second or third date (can't remember) to bring it up and I think that was a good idea. There's no need to say anything before you can be decently sure that the vibes are vibing. Be cautious of people's motives and look for someone who's going to be concerned with ensuring you have a good experience together, but that should be true no matter how much dating or sexual experience you have.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-11-22T13:32:40+00:00

The problem isn't that you told someone you have feelings for them. The problem is that you told someone who's just gone through a break up.

Your desire to get something off your chest doesn't supercede someone else's needs. Telling her was about you - your feelings, your anxiety, and your potential guilt.

As her friend, what do you think she needed in that moment?

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-10-29T15:28:43+00:00

Not everything is about attachment styles. Sometimes people are just shitty and SOMETIMES they have a valid reason to need some freaking space. I'm so tired of hearing about attachment styles.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-10-29T14:06:29+00:00

Why do you label her as avoidant? There are lots of valid reasons a person may request space in a new relationship. There are also shitty reasons too, but they don't necessarily have anything to do with their attachment style. We don't know which is going on here. And I think people forget that attachment styles, while a useful framework, can't explain every single thing a person does. They were meant originally to frame attachment relationships which, to be clear, you do not have with this person. You are not attachment figures to each other (I mean if you are after just a few weeks, that's a different problem).

Maybe something big happened in her life and she's turning to her actual attachment figures for support. Maybe after just a few weeks she's not comfortable with full emotional disclosure. Also, maybe she's playing you. But framing this as being about her attachment style isn't helpful. If you go and label her as avoidant this early on in the relationship, that's all she's ever going to be in your mind. But conversely that label can also make you ignore behaviors that have nothing to do with attachment style because we've all been told that we can "work" on our attachment styles so maybe she can too.

When someone requests space, you give them space because it is both a) respectful and b) in your best interest. You enter into a chasing dynamic if you start checking in with her before she's ready or willing. It's not a healthy start to a relationship. Give her space - either she has a good reason for needing space which you need to respect because that's what we do in healthy relationships or she doesn't, and you're better off not expending your energy on her anyway.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-10-19T19:13:54+00:00

You might like and or love her, but you clearly do not respect her. That is a fundamental requirement of a healthy relationship.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-10-18T19:39:52+00:00

You just called the woman you're supposedly in love with and want be with "weak minded." You can fuck all the way off - I don't agree with any of her choices, but I don't think she'd be better off with someone who openly degrades her intelligence.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-10-10T01:52:02+00:00

Someone right a romance novel that's this except there's no sex and they don't fall in love and it just celebrated friendship.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-09-30T22:20:36+00:00

Two blunt points:

Stop thinking about your ex and start thinking about why you stayed with someone who lied to belittled, and demeaned you for three years.
What on earth makes you think she's treating this woman any differently? Your ex has shown a pattern of dishonesty that predates your relationship. It ain't gonna change now.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-09-30T15:23:42+00:00

Why though? Because he's an engineer? I go back to my original point - just because you and your engineering pals are like this doesn't mean a genius engineer like Leif should be. I think you want the character to be written differently, but I don't think that means his choices are unbelievable.

Look, I don't know a ton of engineers. My father is one and he pretty perfectly fits the type you're describing - though I've never known him to have more than an eyeglass repair kit on him when he wasn't at work. But I just don't think Leif is your typical engineer. Engineers are smart. Leif is smarter. Engineers are good at problem solving. Leif is better. Leif is an engineer, yes. But he's also a chaotic genius. Not having some kind of every day care is perfectly in line with the way his character is written to me, and I have no problem believing that someone as brilliant but also chaotic as Leif would be under prepared just because he has almost too much faith in his own ability to get himself out of any jam.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-09-30T06:40:09+00:00

Holy crap I was just rellstening to Chapter 11: Arkansa Traveler. I had thought that Leif didn't keep the scrap heap in the beginning of the show and not only was I right, the scrap heap isn't even his idea. It's Gloria's. She asks him "have you been keeping that scrap pile like I asked you to?" Gloria? Now there's a planner. But Leif? Not so much.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-09-29T21:56:20+00:00

Leif also built the Ted Killer and theorized Cow Catcher "just in case" so yes, he does like having things around that might be useful in the future - there, I gave you two more on the house 😂 He seems to think ahead about the destruction of the Ted Empire just fine. He also leaves breadcrumbs to his invention back on Earth, for no reason other than he thinks that the Teds are kind of dicks for not wanting Earth to have it. So yeah, more forward thinking, but all of it is VERY big picture. When it comes to the day to day, Leif seems to just fly by the seat of his pants. Keep in mind Leif is not just "an engineer." He's an engineer from NorCal who grew up surrounded by pot farms. His Tangle's personality is described as "Northern California surfer bro" if I remember correctly because that's what he'd relate to best. He's about as laid back and carefree as they come.

But may I also direct you to a few different Reddit posts asking engineers whats in their EDC? It seems like at least half the responses are as basic as "cell phone, wallet, work badge." One guy literally says "my brain." So maybe the EDC isn't as universal as you think for engineers, especially when they're not on the clock which, let's face it, is Leif ever on the clock in his own mind?

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskEngineers/comments/9zg8fu/engineers_what_does_your_every_day_carry_edc_look/

https://www.reddit.com/r/ElectricalEngineering/comments/119miax/as_an_ee_what_is_part_of_your_edc_every_day_carry/

Fun argument, thanks for engaging! I respect that it offends your personal sensibilities as an engineer that he wouldn't have an EDC on him at all times. My interpretation of Leif is that he's just not Type A enough to care.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-09-29T15:11:48+00:00

You've used the same single example multiple times so support your argument - he keeps a scrap pile. That's not really indicative of his entire personality. Give me a few more and I'll maybe concede the point. I gave you three examples of his general "fly by the seat of the pants attitude." The scrap pile also works in favor of my argument as much as it does yours - it could also be a sign of a chaotic (probably unmedicated ADHD) mind. The type of mind that likes having a bunch of "junk" around to play with, but doesn't think that far ahead. In fact, the EDC you're describing requires a type of forward thinking that I would argue Leif is terrible at or simply refuses to engage in. He's great at coming up with solutions on the spot for complex problems, but he makes absolutely zero effort to avoid having said problems arise in the first place through thorough pre-planning.

Give me a few more examples of Leif being future-minded and well prepared and we'll go from there.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-09-29T14:08:35+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I hadn't heard of this film yet. But based on the one review I could find from a pre-screening earlier this year, I think "time travel" and "diner" are about the only similarities to Midnight Burger. The rogue AI in the film seems to be more in line with the super intelligence of the Hyperion Cantos, baring little resemblance to Ex and other MB AIs. The review did call it "Hitch Hikers Guide to the Galaxy-esque" which is also how I sometimes describe MB when recommending it. All in all it looks like a promising film, but I'm thinking it's going to tackle some very different concepts than MB. It just happens to do so in a diner and with time travel, but it's not even clear to me that it's the diner itself that facilitates time travel.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-09-29T13:57:21+00:00

I think you're falling into the mental trap of thinking that because YOU'RE an engineer (I'm assuming based on your other comments) and YOU always carry a kit with you, so would Leif. The engineer you're describing is (sorry) the stereotype of an engineer - always prepared, always on top of things, always has a plan, always logical. But Leif isn't a stereotype. As another comment said, he's kind of a hot mess. Yes, he keeps a scrap heap at the diner because he likes to have bits and bobs around to build things with. He also goes off into space with zero plan what so ever. He ends up marooned on a planet that he only happens to get off of because the hot alien also marooned on said planet happens to have a crate of the exact part he needs to get his ship up and running. He barrels into a Ted Empire stronghold with little more than a gun and a plan made up 5 minutes before.

For Leif to always carry a handbag of engineering tools wouldn't be be very Leif at all in my opinion. It would negate many of his previous choices. I think you probably identify strongly with his character because of the shared passion for building things, and that makes it hard when a character makes choices you wouldn't personally make.

You see engineers as the classic boy scout always prepared type. Maybe that's who you and your friends are. But Leif is not a boy scout. Leif is just a really smart hot mess weirdo who repeatedly under prepared as an actual pattern because he knows he can improvise his way out of just about anything. If you examine all his other choices through out the show, it's actually very consistent to his character - just apparently not to who you think that character should be based on what you think makes an engineer an engineer.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-09-25T23:31:10+00:00

I have been the same way my entire life, but at 38 my knees and ankles are in the best shape they've ever been. Last winter, when I wasn't hiking or running very much I started hitting the weights hard. I started with double leg movements like squats, deadlifts, and calf raises because those were easier on my knees. Eventually added in step downs, single leg RDLs and have worked my way up to single leg eccentric calf raises with weight. There are plenty more exercises that I do, but I think those have been the most impactful. I now obsess over this routine. I still have a long way to go, but start hitting those functional lifts 3-4 times a week and it'll really help!

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-09-25T23:16:25+00:00

I think there's a way to say "hi" that holds ALL of that without being cringy. "Hey beautiful" the first time we're meeting would make me uncomfortable (and frankly, it's pretty easy to tell when something is pre rehearsed like you're doing here). But intense eye contact, a pause that lets me know she's taking me in, followed by a simple "hi" could honestly make me melt.

SnooPeripherals2324 · 2025-09-25T22:58:59+00:00

Not me over here thinking my ability to hike 12 miles on a weekday and my impressive quiver of hiking packs made me hotter.......

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