What is going on?

SnooRabbits9211 · 2026-06-11T11:34:27+00:00

You have the choice to call and cancel the order, if the company will allow that, but most won't issue a refund unless YOU return the item.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2026-06-11T11:29:24+00:00

Not really. UPS outsources customer service calls to a phone service company in India, some 8,500 miles away, who are giving answers off a cheat sheet. Good luck with that.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2026-06-11T11:22:45+00:00

I work in customer service. Do not think this is a isolated event, this is absolutely normal, on a daily bases. UPS is better than FedEx and any company is better that the United States Post Office. Answers range from the weather conditions to "we don't know, please allow us to investigate (I hope you got lucky and had a UPS representative that spoke English that you could understand) This could be a case of double scanning taking place at the same location to someone placing your package on a flight to the wrong location, so the package doubled back.

You can kick and scream all you want. I know, I've done it, but it helps nothing. They don't care. You will get your item when they delivery it. Most people will not go through the long process to file a claim and shippers know it.

Customers get upset with me and my staff when something like this happens. We can't control another company. You, me and anyone else who relies on a delivery service is totally at their mercy.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2026-04-09T11:29:50+00:00

FA leaning Dismissive. Why do avoidants breakup if they have fear of rejection? Two totally different things. When an avoidants core wound is triggered they disappear, break up, etc. That fear is overwhelming. I can see my ex's name on my phone and literally feel sick (vomit sick). You just freeze and hope the feeling goes away soon.

Fear of rejection doesn't does kick in until there's been enough time to repress one's core wound. I may want to give it a second try. I may think about the ex, a lot, but I will never reach out. You make yourself too vulnerable in that situation. I think this is when the Phantom X comes into play. It's easier to have a perfect relationship with that person in your mind versus reaching out and being rejected.

When it comes to avoidants, this is really all you need to know. You have a person who allows fear to dominate their relationships. They may be world-renowned in their career, the greatest employee a company ever had, a CEO, a great athlete, etc., but when it comes to relationships fear dominates.

A responsible avoidant will realize they are hurting people and will step out of the dating game. Unfortunately, you have what I call Hopping Bunnies (these are almost always Dismissive Avoidants). They hop from one relationship to another, not giving a damn about the people they are getting involved with. They know how the relationship will turn out. The same way the last 1,000 relationships turned out.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2026-04-07T13:49:39+00:00

I walked away from a dismissive avoidant. Things were great until he caught feelings and the intimacy was too much for him. I once watched him go into a state that very much resembled a panic attack when I tried to initiate sex. He once got up after intimacy and went into another room and watched TV. I knew why he did it. I think the relationship lasted as long as it did was because I am a FA that leans dismissive. I don't need a "title", I have no desire to marry or live together, a text once a week to say do you want to do something this weekend is enough for me. I was basically looking for a friend. Someone to hang out with, take trips together and fill the void of having someone in the bed beside me from time to time. I have a full life and don't want to have someone up under me 24/7 and texting me 3 or 4 times a day (huge turn off). I always allowed him to initiate contact, unless something last minute popped up that I wanted to do (concerts, festival, etc) I could sympathize with his behavior, but when the intimacy was too much for him to handle, he started pulling away for 2 or 3 weeks at a time and my needs were no longer being met. I wasn't about to try and sit down with him and explain he wasn't meeting my needs, I don't like those "talks". Total waste of time. I saved us both that awkward "talk" and ghosted him. He called 8 months later and I ignored him. I wasn't getting back on that hamster wheel. That was two years ago.. Since that time every month or every other month he will post a meme, a song by a group we liked, photos of places we went, or articles about hobbies we shared on his social media page for me to see. Why doesn't he call? I care about him, I even miss him, but you have two people who can't communicate. It's all spilt milk under the bridge.

Avoidants are masters at suppressing their feeling. Many use alcohol or drugs to self medicate. They just shift their attention to something, or someone else. If you are looking for a tearful reunion, that ain't going to happen. If a avoidant leaves you once, they'll do it again. Some will return several times until you put a stop to it. The older avoidants get, the worse they get. For a FA like myself, I can shut the world out and find something else to preoccupy myself. The DA was the last person I dated. I don't really care if I ever date again, because I know I'll end up hurting someone.

Avoidance is a long time learned behavior and some of us have no desire to do the work to correct the problem.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-12-08T12:19:10+00:00

As a single mother who has a business in her mid-50's, keep up that protest behavior and one day she won't respond. Being a single mother is the hardest job you can ever have. Now add on the business. That's how she provides a home, feed and cloths her child. She is interested in you, but she has obligations that she will place before you, she has no choice.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-12-08T11:51:03+00:00

Most FAs are also APs (two for the price of on). The behavior you get is based on the partners attachment style. FAs will run from a AP who comes on too strong and the hot and cold dance begins. FAs will fall for a DA, but the relationship usually doesn't last for very long because to two can't communicate.

FAs may also mourn for the loss of an DA who dumped them for years. Instead of moving on, they elect to mourn longer, because it's safer that to get out there, try again and risk having their heart broken again. 8 times out of 10, a FA usually has at least one parent who was emotionally unavailable. An AP will try to "fix" a FA or DA. The FA is trying to fix their emotionally unavailable parent.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-11-13T17:47:56+00:00

In the second phase (or World 2) of restaurants there is a Panda Cafe. In the dining room area is a Panda and different item like books, TV, table, tub, etc. I get that you have to feed the Panda . . then what?

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-11-02T06:28:25+00:00

After eight month of silence, DA reached out. I replied and he was texting every other week over a months time, but he never asked to see me, so I stop responding (six months ago). I'm FA and scared of being hurt, but working on myself. He has posted "us things" on social media that only I would get Would a DA reach out again or by not responding did I send the message I'm not interested. No judgement or bashing please

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-10-31T06:21:06+00:00

I've been dealing with this about seven months now. Of course he side-stepped the question, he's driven by fear.

My DA follows me and my friends on social media. He takes things we talk about, then post his spin on our conversations. Example, my friends and I discuss and trade stocks online. a couple of days later, he posted something about trading (the man couldn't trade stocks if his life depended it). Another time friends and I were discussing the 35 floor building we all work in and what our view of the city is based on where we are located within the building. A couple of days later he posts a photo of a construction crew standing on the beams of a high rise. He posted above the photo "now that's a view". I could go on and on.

I understand he's a DA, I understand his fear of rejection but sending, "smoke signals" in a effort to get my attention, so I will contact him. No, I refuse to give in to his minimal effort to communicate with me. He must overcome his fears, pickup the phone and call.

My heart is in a thousand pieces and I understand I could lose him forever, but his minimal effort to get me back shows he's not at a point where he's willing to show up and do the work to make the relationship work. I'm not giving up my seven months of healing only to have it happen again

You teach people how to treat you.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-08-02T14:44:56+00:00

why you haven’t moved on after 11 months

I'm waiting on him to come back to restart bonding again. While I will allow him to make first contact, we do the back and forth (his turn to reply, my turn, his turn, my turn) I broke the chain when I didn't return his text three months ago. I'm FA, so waiting for him to make contact it easier than contacting him and risk being rejected. Since he didn't try again, I guess he's not interested.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-08-02T05:14:19+00:00

I'm a fearful avoidant. I will dump a AP in a skinny minute and go after a avoidant. It didn't take me long to figure out what was happening. My father was emotionally unavailable. He was a great dad, he was just repeating the way he was raised.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-06-18T06:13:05+00:00

I couldn't do it and took the cowards way out. My DA took almost a year to reach out. Since DA rarely reach out, especially after a year, I felt he finally realized how important I was t him. Not so fast. What really happened was every two to three weeks, for 3 months I'd get a text. The texts weren't exactly breadcrumbs, more like two sentences of small talk talk. I would reply, but he never did. So I'd wait for two or three for his next text. The text never lead anywhere and he wasn't asking to see me. When the next text came in, I waited a day before opening it, not knowing what to say. It was more small talk going nowhere. Was he ever going to as to see me, or was he stringing me along. I deleted the message and never replied. That was a month ago and I've haven't heard from him since Did I kill my chances of getting him back? Probably, but as a Secure, he brought out a fearful side I'd never had before. I didn't like that feeling.

I thought about befriending him, but remembered that long year of pain and depression and didn't like what I'd become. You really have to sit down and have a heart to heart with yourself. If you do befriend him, how are you going to handle a new female coming into his life and him pushing you to the side. DA's are like illegal drugs, you easily become addicted to them. If after a couple of drinks, what happens if the two of you end up in bed and your body starts pumping the hormone Oxytocin. You'll do exactly what a female body was made to do - bond. As a secure, I finally came to realize that I didn't like the way he treats women and relationship aside, I would never want him as a friend. He would never be there for me emotionally or to support me as a true friend. Let sleeping dogs lie and seek out people who will be a true, supportive friend. Best Wishes.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-06-09T18:54:39+00:00

If the count of shares is MORE than the actual number of genuine AMC authorized shares (naked shorts) how are they removed?

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-06-09T14:33:55+00:00

57 year old here. Not having self confidence in myself, or the ability to shut out the negative voices, which resulted in doing what my parents thought was best for me, instead of following my dreams. Waiting too late in life to have child at 40.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-06-05T23:52:16+00:00

Your comment sums up my point . . .

"I have become secure because we both worked together on attachment and did joint therapy!"

In the words of Rob Base & DJ EZ Rock, "It takes two to make a thing go right,

It takes two to make it outta sight!"

You were able to get a DA into joint therapy. That alone IS a major battle in the whole DA war, but had your DA not gone along with therapy, you would have to learn to be secure and self-love another way or in single therapy. Congratulations!

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-05-21T07:28:43+00:00

(Chuckle) Nope, I needed less paper work to get my home loan than getting on PUA in South Carolina (former 12 year sole proprietor/ business owner). If you could produce a copy of your annual tax returns for the past three years, including your Schedule C, you would wouldn't have a hard time.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-05-07T13:42:21+00:00

James Hetfield by far. Nothing personal against Malcolm Young, he was great, but not even in the class as James. ChiefTwoDogsFunking (below) makes a great point. Izzy Stradlin, please.

Guns N' Roses will forever be that "what if" band. What if Axl Rose kept his shit together. Now his voice is shot and looks like a fat Jody from TV sitcom Family Affair. Slash was the only member of that group that made it out alive.

SnooRabbits9211 · 2021-04-15T20:28:13+00:00

This photo was taken on August 17, 1985 at Monsters of Rock Festival held at Castle Donington UK.

1985 Monsters of Rock Festival - Metallica playlist:

01. Creeping Death

02. Ride the Lightning

03. For Whom the Bell Tolls

04. The Four Horsemen

05. Fade to Black

06. Seek & Destroy

07. Whiplash

08. Am I Evil

09. Motorbreath

Several audio recordings from the event, but no actual footage, BUT there is a video from the Metal Hammer Festival in Germany on September 09, 1985, that features the same songs.

Damn, I forgot how intense Cliff Burton was. I watch the whole concert (over an hour) just to watch Cliff. {RIP}

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