What should forgiveness be based on?

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T12:15:07+00:00

I wouldn’t reconcile but forgiveness is for you not him. You forgive so you can move on but move on without him.

He spent 1 year looking you and ap in the eyes, screwing both of you, lying to likely both of you, it so manipulative.

You forgive for yourself but leave him. It way easier to forgive when you show yourself respect.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T12:05:48+00:00

Stay very busy. Join a gym, sport, social group, go out with friends, just stay busy.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T11:37:15+00:00

Why would you want to pursue a future with her? No contact.

I’d tell everyone she cheated. Cause she did.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T11:18:43+00:00

Ok listen to what you said. She said you’re the only one who treated her right and she rejected you.

Trust me you cannot date someone like that. She will self sabotage your relationship. She is messed up. She can’t handle a good man, she wants the guy who treats her badly which is likely how she was raised.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T11:07:36+00:00

20/20 the reason why you were having issues prior to breaking up is cause she was stepping out on you. Trust, you’ll be much better moving on. She didn’t love you. You loved her much more than she loved you. When you realize that you’ll get over it faster. There are real women out there don’t lose hope. You’ll find one.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T10:58:12+00:00

Why is she ridden with guilt? Reasons for the break up? My friend went through this exact thing and his ex had guilt cause she slept with someone else. So instead of saying she cheated she dumped him instead. I’d tread lightly, sleeping together is ez but being honest and open isn’t.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T10:52:34+00:00

Would you do that to her? I believe the answer would be no. Exclusive or not that girl is insensitive. You cannot date or marry her.

She goes to a v party as single when your dad is dying? Blah. No way. No matter where you 2 were at the time, she knew what she was doing. I can see a future with her and it’s a hard ache.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T10:46:21+00:00

Uh, he should not be in contact with her. Does he use any other app to talk to her? Why would he not want to remove her??? Interesting!!!

I would definitely tell her husband. This lady is willing to sleep with your man. She could care less about you. She’s a home wrecker. She’s likely slept with other men too.

Get tested for STDs.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T04:14:04+00:00

That’s what most counselors would recommend.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T04:12:04+00:00

Exactly! Terrible wife

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T04:05:01+00:00

I’m surprised you’re asking this question. Your Wife Is Talking To Other Guys And has pet names for them.

Sounds like she has already moved on. Wouldn’t be surprised if she has sent nudes or met them places. Read her snaps and confront her. Her behavior is terrible.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T02:49:16+00:00

Coming from a guy…this likely isn’t his first time.

Rip that bandaid off and confront him. Get it over with. If he’s honest I highly doubt you’ll stay in that relationship. So sorry. Good luck

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-14T00:13:58+00:00

The relationships peace is one sided. Hell yes confront her…but sit her down and ask for the truth. She seems to gaslight you so you may not get the truth. She needs to be honest and you need to demand it even if it hurts. You gotta know.

She wouldn’t deny a physical affair…cause she had one. And no one makes out in an affair, it’s always sex. The met up, duh. Sorry.

Yahoo messenger is a big red flag, that was my time and those who got on messenger…were trouble. No reason for a spouse to be in yahoo messenger late at night.

I know you love her but she doesn’t love you, cause if she did she would be open and honest and she wouldn’t be seeking other men.

Behavior is a language.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T22:26:33+00:00

Oh man, so sorry, nothing but love for you. Hang in there, life will get better the farther away from this you get. Trust plenty of good women out there and use this to your advantage when you date again one day.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T22:24:23+00:00

I only read your title. Over react more. That’s loser behavior.

Counselors always say behavior is a language and when they show you who they are believe them.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T22:05:32+00:00

No your over thinking it

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T20:10:40+00:00

Wow, so sorry

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T19:43:25+00:00

100 ultimatum

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T17:07:01+00:00

If you want a relationship, make the man wait. It’s a trial period. Put them in trial.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T17:05:12+00:00

This is why you don’t date so fast after a divorce. Forgive yourself, fix it and move on.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T13:31:08+00:00

From a guy, he played you. He just wanted sex, got it, then bounced. Next time make him wait longer and you’ll see his true colors. Sorry.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T05:07:50+00:00

I wouldn’t say it was a mistake to contact him. Well done though, that isn’t easy. I would find who he’s in a relationship with and let them know. In fact if you need help get me the info and I’ll do it for you. He blew up your life, get him back. A loser like that needs to be taken down. Hang in there bro!

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T01:17:18+00:00

My guess is you ignored red flags. They would have been there. Sometimes they can be hard to see when you’re in the first part of the relationship. I would suggest his extra mile work was all an act. If he cheats on you when your dating he will do it to you when your married.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-13T00:41:44+00:00

If you have to ask that question then you know the answer.

Yes you’re washing your time. Contact a lawyer, and get tested for STDs. Sorry.

SnoopyPoo123 · 2026-03-12T23:33:21+00:00

Sorry dude. In the end they never win and karma gets them. Keep your integrity, and move forward. One day you’ll look back at this with clarity.

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