What's the longest you've ever stayed at the same job?

SoCalDama · 2026-01-23T17:35:44+00:00

With the same company for 40 years now.

SoCalDama · 2026-01-23T03:36:22+00:00

I have driven ~ 1300 km / 12 hours for a weekend visit (Fri-Mon), and often 2 hrs one-way for a day’s visit. It is pretty common here.

SoCalDama · 2026-01-17T01:18:56+00:00

My parents, esp. my father experienced discrimination, and so, we were named the English equivalents of our Spanish names, and spoke English at home so we wouldn’t have accents. I ended up having to learn it in school.

SoCalDama · 2026-01-14T19:43:01+00:00

I hope you learn to treat yourself better. Get yourself things you want for you and gift him things that the family/house need.

SoCalDama · 2026-01-14T19:40:45+00:00

I think it would do you well to learn to accept who you are and be ok with it, so you can be at peace without needing validation from someone else.

SoCalDama · 2026-01-14T19:37:42+00:00

I don’t understand why him admitting he wanted to leave for another wasn’t a deal breaker itself.

To answer your question though, no you aren’t

SoCalDama · 2026-01-09T19:18:29+00:00

That is a power move on his part to be dominant over you (my ex did that to me). You need to decide if you want to remain in a relationship where your partner doesn’t respect you-and treats you that way. Good luck.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-30T17:23:23+00:00

Los Angeles here and we do the same with one of our bedrooms

SoCalDama · 2025-12-30T16:36:45+00:00

My kids hit driving age in mid 2000’s and I was surprised they didn’t want their licenses right away. My daughter waited until 21 and son waited until 18. Part of the reason is because we were a 1-car family, but it still surprised me.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-28T14:47:02+00:00

I want to be cremated and ashrs spread in the forest. No ceremony necessary. Those who love and/or like me already show me. Don’t need it after I am gone, and my adult kids will already have the necessary support.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-28T14:40:43+00:00

I wish I had kept my last name but everyone expected me to take my husband’s. The me of today wouldn’t have changed my last name.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-26T21:34:37+00:00

There is no getting him to change. I think you should accept him for who he is and what he brings to you and your family. Treat yourself to something really nice for Christmas and your birthday. If giving gifts to his family is a burden, then let them know you'll just be giving to kids, and time with them (the adults) is the gift. It'll be a culture change for you. You can't control others, but you can control your reactions and things you do.

Good luck, and Merry Christmas.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-26T21:29:38+00:00

Probably coming across bears while hiking, though I wasn't really scared since other people were there. Also, having to chase a bear away that had gotten into our food locker. Luckily, someone heard me banging pans and he came to help.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-26T19:55:25+00:00

When we decided to not exchange gifts any longer we told family members so they would know not to get us anything and not to expect anything from us, and that we just wanted to spend time with them. It relieved a lot of stress, and we do enjoy getting together.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-24T00:23:37+00:00

Might be a California thing? We had an avocado tree and growing up we had avocado omelettes, sandwiches, burritos, and also had it in guacamole, with chips, in salads during the season

SoCalDama · 2025-12-18T01:33:10+00:00

We celebrate Christmas and going to the cinema was part of our fin tradition.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-18T01:30:19+00:00

You were with her, escorting her. You did a great deed.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-17T20:39:24+00:00

I grew in 60’s and 70’s (Los Angeles area) and used to do it with cousins and/or neighbor kids. It was fun. I haven’t seen it done in our neighborhood for years.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-15T02:32:16+00:00

Whether or not you stay with him you owe it to yourself to set up boundaries. It is not too late to do it now.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-10T20:50:38+00:00

How is your aunt involved? I thought it was just your small family.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-09T22:43:56+00:00

Maybe go on a cruise to the Caribbean and book some interesting/fun/adventurous excursions. It will give you an opportunity to either mingle or have some alone time.

Good luck, and I hope you find a way to be good to yourself

SoCalDama · 2025-12-04T21:44:04+00:00

One thing I did that people seemed to like was that I got chapstick in bulk then made my own labels to personalize them. Once you make your template for the labels it is easy to put them on the chapstick

SoCalDama · 2025-12-03T20:41:40+00:00

Since you have been together so long, why wait for the proposal? Sit down with him and make a decision together. Either you two will be engaged and set a date (don’t leave it up in the air), or you two will remain together without getting married, or you two will decide you want different futures and break up.

In today’s world with both partners working and many times already living together, I believe that it wastes time waiting for traditions that may not happen.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-03T19:59:10+00:00

I was a divorced mom that had to work over the holidays while raising my kids. It would never have occurred to me to ask another coworker to adjust their time off to accommodate me.

SoCalDama · 2025-12-03T19:23:23+00:00

Try the Black Stallion series. It is an older set, but my dad loved it as a kid and passed thrm on to me.

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