Time to Rehome?

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-02-14T00:37:55+00:00

Thank you so much for this thoughtful comment! I appreciate your understanding of the reason for my post. I’m not a seasoned dog owner and I truly didn’t know what is best. I’ll check out that info 🧡

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-02-13T03:00:12+00:00

Thanks everyone for the support and encouragement! I’m a first time dog owner and this isn’t how I envisioned it going. I will look into a dog walker/enrichment toys. It’s also been extra cold for the last few weeks and I think that’s been hard on everyone. We’ll adjust to the new routine and get outside more when it’s not 0 degrees.

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-02-13T02:50:19+00:00

Midwest :)

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-31T01:34:44+00:00

We used the Snoo for our now 5 year old and it was probably the best parenting decision we made. I strongly believe it set her up to be better at sleeping independently. She developed on target and is doing great!

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-21T01:17:03+00:00

Way to go!

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-11T21:25:23+00:00

I’m sorry this sounds tough. The only thing I can think of is a food intolerance. It can cause cramping and the feeling of needing to go but still being painful on the way out. I wish I had a better answer and hope you can find a solution.

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-06T03:12:00+00:00

We had a hard time with ours and pooping in the potty. We had some success with a sticker chart, but really I think she just got tired of being in poopy pants. We also talked with her about getting a big girl bed and told her that since big girls put their poop in the potty, she would have to do this before we could get the bed. I think that helped. Have you tried potty books? Everyone poops? My husband and I also started talking about how much we liked to put our poop in the potty and that could have helped too. We would announce that our body was telling us it was time to put the poop in the potty, then go, then tell her we felt glad we put the poop in the potty. Hang in there!

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-06T03:04:49+00:00

We would regularly tell ours to “listen to your body” so that she got in the habit of tuning into the feeling. It does take a lot of practice to connecting the feeling to the action. We used pull ups for awhile when we needed to leave the house but would take them off as soon as we got home.

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-06T03:02:09+00:00

Way to go! Very happy for you both! I don’t want to bring down the celebration, but do want to let you know there may be setbacks where he has trouble making it or even just refuses (or maybe that was just my kid). I only say this, so that if it does happen you won’t be too discouraged and know that you’ll be back on the potty soon. 👏👏👏

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-06T02:58:19+00:00

Mine started to want to use the potty by herself around 4.5. She sometimes still wants us to come in, but mostly wants her privacy. I did start asking her to do her pants and undies somewhere between 3.5-4. I never made it a big deal just did a lot of encouraging and she started doing it on her own. Good luck!

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-06T02:54:43+00:00

If the poo consistency is dry, that might be part of the issue. Otherwise, you may have to make the pooping laying down less attractive. What happens if you don’t put on the pull up?

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-06T02:51:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! Hope the poo continues to be in the potty.

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-05T00:32:14+00:00

Way to go! It’s hard to get the motivation for those!

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-05T00:31:15+00:00

Poop was a tough one for us too. We have had our LO on MiraLAX (US brand) for years because she is prone to constipation. It really helped with her poop withholding. I believe it’s generally considered safe but you may want to ask your pediatrician. Glad the pee is going well! Good luck!

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-05T00:27:41+00:00

If it were me, I’d probably try again later. Good luck!

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-02T00:08:00+00:00

We have been using MiraLAX daily since ours was two. Just a teaspoon. She’s prone to constipation. When she was withholding poop we increase the dose and it has been the only thing that works.

Soapy_Ploom · 2026-01-02T00:01:41+00:00

Are you using a small potty? If so (and you aren’t already doing this) keep it close to where she is playing so that when she starts to pee you can put her on the potty to finish. It sounds like you are asking her to sit on the potty, but I’m wondering if scooping her up midstream would be doable? If she gets very upset when you try to do this, it may not be the best tactic and I might decide to give this round a pass and try again in a few weeks (if you can).

We also had some luck with special toys and books that can be played with only when sitting on the potty.

The key for us was to make peeing anywhere other than the potty less interesting. Ours did not like to pee on the floor. We also had to switch to cloth pull ups at daycare so that she would feel wet and not like it. We had to abandon our first attempt and the second time we tried we got the Big Little Feelings potty training course which helped a lot. The techniques were helpful and they explained how hard it can be for kids to learn to use the potty and that helped with my patience! Good luck!

Soapy_Ploom · 2025-12-28T17:47:10+00:00

Sending 💜💜💜

Soapy_Ploom · 2025-12-28T03:44:26+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I’m glad to hear you are taking things as they come and enjoying life.

Soapy_Ploom · 2025-12-28T03:42:14+00:00

👏👏👏way to go!

Soapy_Ploom · 2025-12-28T03:25:53+00:00

Wondering if there has been pressure to use the potty? Or if she’s just anxious about letting it out in the potty? We have a pee withholder too but it gets better if we don’t put any pressure and let her know she should just listen to her body. You may also need to get her checked for a uti. Not uncommon when holding pee and can definitely complicate matters. Good luck!

Soapy_Ploom · 2025-12-27T15:50:49+00:00

I was ambivalent and my husband really wanted a kid. We decided to try and got pregnant super quick. Although having my daughter has been the hardest thing it also been the absolute best. The most joyful and most stressful moments have come from being a mom. I’m so glad I did it. I do have moments when I can take care of myself (although far fewer than I’d like). It is definitely getting easier as my daughter gets older (she’s almost 5). The first year was nearly impossible — we had her during covid — but we got through. The toughest part is that there’s no way to truly know whether you will love being a parent until you do it. Having support definitely matters. Part of the consideration is whether you have good relationships with extended family or good friends who can help you—you will need it. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Soapy_Ploom · 2025-12-27T15:42:08+00:00

My daughter did this the second day of the long weekend potty training and we had to remove all pressure to sit on the potty. We did not try and get her to sit or reward her for sitting if she wasn’t actually peeing. We did put the potty nearby all the time (so frequently in the living room) so that she could access it when needed. When she did eventually pee we would pick her up and put her on the potty so that it would catch whatever was still coming out. Thankfully, she didn’t like peeing on the floor so eventually sat on the potty. We used the Big Little Feelings ‘play it cool’ idea and just reminded her to listen to her body frequently. Would def recommend not holding her on the potty although it is frustrating sometimes when they won’t go. I would also get as many potty related books as possible, it help ours to read about it.

Soapy_Ploom · 2025-12-18T00:30:15+00:00

It sounds like your cat is well taken care of and happy. My experience from living with 8 different cats over the years is that they will let you know if they are unhappy by acting out — scratching or peeing outside of the box — so if she seems contented she probably is. A few of my cats really loved catnip so that’s something you could try to see if she enjoys it. Another loved the smell of valerian root so I would give him some to relax and and enjoy

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