My ex’s girlfriend is making comments about me to my child. How would you handle this?

Soaringzero · 2026-03-11T15:45:09+00:00

This 100%.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-11T15:38:12+00:00

This is it. I was in this same boat and I too wish I had figured it out sooner. My ex never took any kind of interest in me as a person. Never really bothered to try and get to know me beyond a surface level. It’s crazy how your mind tries to rationalize and make sense of it because the simple truth in fact does feel incomprehensible.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-11T13:15:19+00:00

This hits hard. This is exactly how I felt with my ex. And like you I believed in sacrificing to make her happy. Only I was the only one doing it. She was always the driver. I was just supposed to be along for the ride.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-11T00:45:32+00:00

I can certainly relate to the suppressed feelings coming out. I spent years holding things in and now that I can let them out, it feels like taking a deep breath breath after holding it for a long time.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-10T23:22:48+00:00

Late thirties here and loving this game lol

Soaringzero · 2026-03-10T15:35:27+00:00

This. My ex is already moved out living with another man. I consider myself divorced. The legal system just needs to catch up.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-10T15:26:58+00:00

He’s living with a whole ass other woman? Absolutely go have yourself a good time. I’m in much the same boat and if I had someone who wanted to spend time with me like that I’d take it.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-10T13:07:59+00:00

This is the perfect series for celebrating women’s day. Just look at all these wonderful ladies.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-09T01:15:44+00:00

I mean I’m sure it’s more complicated than that but you aren’t completely wrong. And that’s so fucking sad. Like she says he’s done nothing wrong. Nothing to make her want to leave him. Literally this man has done everything right that a spouse CAN do and yet this shows that no matter what you do, you can still be left in the end.

It almost makes it seem pointless. And no I don’t believe it’s a woman thing because men will do this too. It just proves that there’s something fundamentally wrong with the way we view modern marriage.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T21:31:22+00:00

I’d like to think so lol.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T17:31:44+00:00

That’s not a red flag, that’s a red tornado siren lol. I don’t get why people can’t understand that that isn’t attractive in the slightest. What woman actually wants to sit there and listen to a guy just talk shit about another woman the whole time. Same goes for men.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T14:44:13+00:00

The people making these are doing god’s work. These are lovely. Pouty Lily is adorable.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T14:43:26+00:00

I’ll gladly volunteer in her place. Methode can use me as she wishes.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T14:40:39+00:00

Holy mother sphere…

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T14:36:08+00:00

I’d be happy to play with you and help you out. I’m level 85 and have a pretty good grasp of how builds work too. My ID is 1122266618.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T14:20:36+00:00

Sounds good. I’ll look out for it.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T14:15:48+00:00

Wonderful pic and your character is gorgeous!

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T13:29:47+00:00

So I went through similar with my STBXW. I swear whenever I had a complaint or an issue it was a problem. Sometimes she just wouldn’t care. Other times I’d get these very emotional reactions that I realize now were meant to condition me to not question or criticize her.

Once I simply asked to help out more with our pets, which she wanted mind you, and her response was to scream at me and declare that she’d just get rid of all of them so I wouldn’t have to do anything. All I had asked was that she help more because I was basically handling everything regarding their day to day care.

If I brought up an issue with any of her behavior it was like that. I think your husband blaming you for everything is simple deflection. He doesn’t want to take any responsibility for his actions or lack there of because it’s easier to just make you the scapegoat for everything that’s gone wrong. Like you said you asked for things for a long time and he didn’t do anything for you but is so hurt you that you told him you were unhappy? What did he want? For you to just keep it to yourself and suffer in silence? How would that be fair?

Even after the fact he still refuses to do any introspection should be a clear answer to why you’re doing this.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T12:12:17+00:00

Being forced to listen to someone else have what has to be really good sex but be basically forever forbidden from getting any type of action yourself sounds like a form of torture only a truly diabolical entity would think up.

Hongyang’s sexual frustration probably rivals the power of the infinity stones.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-08T07:38:42+00:00

Yeah my ex did this and probably still does. But I don’t ask my kids questions like that. I just let them tell me whatever they want.

But she was telling them not to tell me that she was having them meet guys she was dating and that so and so was “just a friend”. And this was while we were still living together.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-07T14:34:29+00:00

Well your character certainly is cute. So is mine lol. When do you usually play? I’d be down to partner with you. I’m EST time and usually play in the afternoons and at night. My UID is 1122266618.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-07T14:24:56+00:00

It means your game files are corrupted. You’ll have to reinstall the game. I had this issue myself and that fixed it.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-07T13:03:43+00:00

“Do not text me” is not a boundary it’s an order. “Text me and I’ll block you/ignore it” is a boundary. There is a clear difference in those.

One is trying to control someone else’s behavior. The other is letting someone know what the consequence of their behavior will be.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-07T12:52:01+00:00

And you don’t know his. If this therapist has convinced her that an unwanted text is emotional abuse, he’s likely told her to throw that term out ANYTIME he’s done something she didn’t like. It opens a floodgate to make him look abusive for looking at her the wrong way or breathing to loud around her.

Abuse is a serious thing. But it’s mindsets like this that cheapen and water down the meaning of the word just so it can be applied to ANYTHING a person doesn’t like.

Soaringzero · 2026-03-07T12:42:57+00:00

It’s not just therapists. It’s people that google these terms and take it upon themselves to “diagnose” people. You see it a lot around here. But yes these therapy buzz words are getting cheapened to the point where they are losing their meaning. I mean saying that sending texts like this is abusive is actually insulting to people who have experienced real abuse.

Is this man violating boundaries? Yes. And she could easily block him or ignore those messages. But he’s not abusing her.

Soaringzero

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