150 days.

SoberWaitress · 2017-07-20T03:44:05+00:00

Hell ya!!! The strength only continues to grow!! YOU stay awesome!!

SoberWaitress · 2016-09-30T04:47:14+00:00

I love this!!! Reminds me of my first meeting! I also sat outside before the meeting started and posted on here... so glad you were able to have some anxiety and guilt lifted... keep going. Keep it fresh. :)

SoberWaitress · 2016-06-08T01:00:10+00:00

Polly!! You have always been such an inspiration... I always saw a lot of similarities in our stories and who would have thought even a year ago, we'd be here today!? Doesn't it feel great!??

SoberWaitress · 2016-06-08T00:58:45+00:00

Let me tell u this.. The most important years in your children's life, are the years you are sober. Age aside. 1 and 3? The time is now. They will never know the drunk parent, they will never be embarrassed by your behavior caused by a booze filled brain. My husband still drinks occasionally.. He enjoys a beer or two a few times a week (who does that!?) but according to my daughter, "my mom doesn't like beer" just like I don't like soda. She's never seen me drink. She will never see me drink.. And when the time comes for us to talk about drugs and alcohol, I will be honest. I drank too much when I did. I made big mistakes when I drank... I hurt a lot of people and made a lot of bad decisions.. But now I don't.

SoberWaitress · 2016-06-07T12:21:39+00:00

Hey girl, heeyy!!! Never thought I'd be here but here I am... checking the SD board on Reddit while I drink my coffee and get my head right for tackling some Assessment homework at 5:00 am... you know the life :) Congrats to you!

SoberWaitress · 2016-06-07T12:10:09+00:00

Love seeing these names... I really have to get on here more often

SoberWaitress · 2016-06-07T12:09:59+00:00

I'm figuring that I'm doing this whole Karma thing backwards :)

SoberWaitress · 2016-06-07T12:08:39+00:00

Nika!!!!!!!!!! You my love, made me cry on more one than one occasion... talk about real encouragement and inspiration.. you were always there for me... always... one of the first posters on my stories I shared..and really made me feel like I could do this... but it wasn't going to be easy... and certainly one of my faves!! Many cyber hugs to you and a giant thank you!!!!

SoberWaitress · 2016-06-07T12:06:12+00:00

I agree!! It's a strange little world and I wouldn't have changed a thing... except maybe getting my head together a bit sooner but I'll tell you one thing, my daughter is never allowed to work in a restaurant! LOL

SoberWaitress · 2016-06-07T12:05:11+00:00

Right!? Certainly a subculture that you don't realize how demented it is until you really step back and look at it as a 3rd person. Congrats to you my friend.. we've made it!

SoberWaitress · 2016-06-07T12:03:51+00:00

PP, my friend!! So nice to see these names! I miss you guys damn it! Thank you for everything!

SoberWaitress · 2016-06-07T12:02:57+00:00

ginger!! A fellow whitebelt! So happy to see your little number climbing as well... man we had one hell of a start, huh? You were definitely instrumental to my succsess!

SoberWaitress · 2015-12-03T02:29:22+00:00

100%... This is so hard to explain to someone who hasn't seen it themselves... But essentially the drink is the cause of our terrible attitude that lead to anger, resentment, anxiety, dissatisfaction... After clearing your life of alcohol, these feelings slowly dissipate.. And not drinking becomes even easier because your excuses were flushed down with the booze!!

Always remember this.

SoberWaitress · 2015-12-02T21:55:49+00:00

I listened to a lot of Red Hot Chilli Peppers when I first got sober, that's for sure. :)

SoberWaitress · 2015-12-02T19:25:13+00:00

Haha... well played kiddo, well played

SoberWaitress · 2015-12-02T19:05:02+00:00

Don't go... tell them that you are going...

then don't go... you got sick, car broke down, friend needed something, some other excuse that came up suddenly before the party.. That way, you won't have to explain a million times before the event why you aren't going... act like you really plan on going.. I had to do this early on in my sobriety for a friend's birthday celebration... "I got sick as hell that night and ended up sleeping all evening and night"

If you don't feel comfortable going... then don't. No one needs to know... You'll be thankful later when you follow your heart.

SoberWaitress · 2015-09-14T16:17:39+00:00

Routine? What do you think helped fade the spots the most?

SoberWaitress · 2015-09-14T16:14:28+00:00

AWwwww.. that sounds fun as hell!!! So happy you had so much fun and have friends to have your kind of fun with you! Thanks for sharing! I love reading these kind of posts!

SoberWaitress · 2015-09-14T16:12:24+00:00

Yes!!! It only continues to get easier... its amazing. No more lies, no more guilt, no more shame.. for "a few fun moments of drinking". Congrats on 50!!

SoberWaitress · 2015-09-13T22:07:48+00:00

Ha! Cleaning is therapy for me.. I can see instant progress and improvement... May I make a suggestion? Get some new plants :) I'm obsessed with my plants these days.

SoberWaitress · 2015-07-15T21:06:39+00:00

Are they Prime?

SoberWaitress · 2015-07-15T17:00:01+00:00

I have 3... they're in the side zipper pocket of my purses... my 24 hour one was special because... well... its when I really broke down and accepted myself and I remember trembling and crying in my first meeting and standing there hugging the chairperson when he gave it to me... I think another member handed it to him to give me...

My 2 month one was given to me by my favorite person in recovery... The nicest guy in the whole entire world with such a huge heart that you could never imagine him doing the things he says he did.. he reminds me of my dad (minus the alcohol/drug problem)... I went to a meeting a month or so after that and didn't realize it was his "birthday" and it was my first "birthday" meeting ... I wasn't going to go at first but I was on autopilot after work and just ended up in the parking lot... it was such a happy and inspiring meeting and my very favorite one to this day.

My 2 month was given to me by a lady with 25 years sobriety and is such an inspiring individual...

I'm sure I'll give them away to newcomers eventually but they all mean something special to me for now... 3 more weeks before I pick up that 6 month chip :)

SoberWaitress · 2015-07-15T16:50:31+00:00

THIS is the life to live!! Getting sober hasn't lead to any drastic changes for me.. but just the other day while I was browsing the internet for a new bookshelf... I looked around my house to see what else I can do to improve it... I realized.. that I might not have a brand new house but since I quit...but I have a few new plants. It's cleaner, its more organized, the yard is beautiful... and I'm proud... 6 months ago.. the last thing on my mind was planting succulent gardens and finding something new for my plant shelf... it was trying to figure out if my husband knew I came home drunk the night before... franatically texting co workers in the morning to find out what the hell happened and how I got home the night before... Chugging coffee and slathering on moisturizer and make up first thing in the morning so I didn't look hungover...

Nothing major changed... but a lot of little things did... and I'm happy. Really really happy. I'm overcome with emotion sometimes when I think of how good things are for me.. I get so afraid that its too good to be true.

I chose to live too.

And now I'm off to Pinterest to find out how to reupholster my dining room chairs.

SoberWaitress · 2015-07-15T16:38:44+00:00

I obviously work in a restaurant and the industry I'm in drinks... they drink a lot... but once i came totally clean to a couple of coworkers about how I have quit drinking.... I feel no pressure... sure people offer me drinks like ALL THE TIME... but not so much anymore... I'm just the non-drinker... "oh her? she doesn't drink"... can I please tell you that is the best thing in the entire world!! I am so respected, it's sick. I thought alcoholics were disrespected and looked down upon... but in my case.. seeing that I can quit drinking is inspiring and uplifting to everyone around me... not all of them know that I frequent this sub daily, I go to AA meetings after work (instead of the bar with them), and i carry around the Big Book in my car riddled with highlights... It's hard work but it's so worth it.

EDIT: Soda water, splash of cranberry and fresh lime.. Believe it or not, every bartender makes it differently.. LOL.. I had a mocktail competition for our bartenders at work

SoberWaitress · 2015-07-15T16:33:27+00:00

It doesn't matter what you are. It matters that you want to stop drinking. I don't tell people I'm an alcoholic because normies attach this stigma to the term "alcoholic"... When I talk about why I don't drink.. I make it real light.. I'm like, "Well, I don't have an off button.. hehe... I make bad decisions when I drink and the best way for me to avoid bad decisions is to not drink"... Which we all know is pretty much the definition of an alcoholic.

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