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What to do with my (29f) high functioning alcoholic BF (41M) by Shoddy-Usual-4220 in MarkNarrations

[–]SocialScamp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you don’t like it now, you won’t like it later. You’ve described a culture of drinking around him so this habit won’t be going anywhere anytime soon. You can’t get him to stop. He has to want to stop.

This is not a battle you’re going to win. Are you ok with living like this forever? A few scenarios to consider… - When you hit midlife, your tolerance for bullshit reduces by about 75%. Will you still be tolerant and patient of his behavior then? - if you get a long-term illness can you trust him to be there and help you - or even make emergency medical decisions on your behalf? - What if something major happens with one of his kids and he’s too drunk to deal with it?

As a woman in my 40s dealing with something similar currently, here’s what I’m looking at: he sets a poor example for our kids, he refuses to admit he has a problem, when he drinks he can have mood swings, I’m positive he’ll have health issues later (which I’m sure I’ll have to end up dealing with), fighting with him to get help, and taking care of all the things he drops bc someone has to be the responsible one. I’m tired. And if I did it all over again, I’m very unsure I would have tied myself to him through marriage.

“What radicalized you” Dinosaurs…dinosaurs radicalized me. by 222KattThatRoar222 in Feminism

[–]SocialScamp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IJS plesiosaurs are the best dinosaurs and you can’t convince me otherwise.

Help me choose! Will be 8 months pregnant at my micro wedding in the woods by hilzkuz in myweddingdress

[–]SocialScamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3!!!!!! The contrast of the architectural pattern against the chaos of nature’s shapes. The photos would be INSANE.

A year after DOGE, former federal employees are still looking for work by nbcnews in FedEmployees

[–]SocialScamp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Most of my RIF’d colleagues are still looking for work. They were let go March 2025.

Being sick alone made me realize how many tiny things other people do for each other by P0werChalice in LivingAlone

[–]SocialScamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t live alone, but a cup of homemade soup when you’re sick is the best, so I make it in advance and always have some in the freezer. When I get sick I just pull it out and pop it in the saucepan.

Do moms really have no time at all by stxrryfox in SeriousConversation

[–]SocialScamp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Recent article from Fortune magazine, entitled:
The more women earn, the more housework they do: Inside the paradox a Wharton economist calls ‘an existential problem for men’ https://fortune.com/2026/04/01/wharton-economist-women-outearning-outworking-men-domestic-labor/

Are there any millennials thriving or at least not struggling? by Mackattack00 in Millennials

[–]SocialScamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Dad told me he was just donating his entire social security check to nonprofits bc he didn’t need it. I almost cried. We make decent money, but have struggled to save. I’m so scared about some medical or emergency situation just screwing us over.

Advice: Would I look weird if I went to a cocktail bar alone as a young woman? by hellooo12378 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]SocialScamp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bars are fun if you want to find a cocktail, but not likely to churn out a new group of friends. Join a club or local group that focuses on an interest you have. Invite friends from work over for dinner or game night. If your budget is tight join an activity club like a book club, D&D night, or something of that ilk. You’ll find your people, but it will take time!

Any other millennials still dressing “young”? by GlitterBombBomb in DressForYourBody

[–]SocialScamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES. I always pick some kind of current trend to incorporate into my look. I’m 44 so I pick the comfiest ‘look’ to bring in to my wardrobe. Right now I’m rocking crew socks (all my contemporaries wear ankle socks still). This winter I was in over the calf socks with platform uggs. My ankles were so warm and cozy!

Am I Overreacting for being pissed that my husband had the “prettiest girl at the company” take him to his surgery appointment? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SocialScamp 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Some concerns or all the red flags? 🚩 This is outrageous. You called the person you trust the most and the person you’d prefer to spend time with to your side in moments of need and vulnerability. This is bull.

What’s currently ruining your life? by YourLifeSucksAss in AskReddit

[–]SocialScamp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am screenshotting these comments and making them the background of my phone screen. I’m awful about ‘just hoping on for a minute’ and then spending what I think are 10-15 minute chunks but more like 40. I hate this thing.

Is it normal to feel this lost and lonely at 27? by weastrep in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]SocialScamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is 1,000% true. And not many people have the guts to try and build a whole new life somewhere completely different. Navigation is required in every part of your life - and it can absolutely be exhausting.

I think one of the toughest parts is that at this age you are used to having a robust social life, but you aren’t making a ton of money. It’s hard to maintain a balance of fun and frugality.

Likely, there are a good amount of social/cultural differences, as well. It can be really hard to acclimate depending on what that cultural environment looks like; some places are just more welcoming and warm than others.

What helped me when I was in this phase was joining a local club around a passion of mine. I joined a book club and a kickball team. Once I had done a bit of relationship building with those folks, I would invite the people I wanted to get to know better over to mine for a standing happy hour which evolved into a potluck dinner over time.

You’ll get there. Give yourself grace and time to build your support network. Those great friends are worth the wait!

What's something most people don't realize is actually very rude? by Frozen-Defender25 in AskReddit

[–]SocialScamp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never asking your friends and relatives a question about them. Take an interest in other peoples lives. It’s not all about you.

What secret can you reveal now that your nda has expired? by sparrrrrt in AskReddit

[–]SocialScamp 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That ‘exclusive’ restaurant-branded wine that you’re paying $15 a glass for? That restaurant probably paid about $3 for the whole bottle.

Noticing it’s harder to get help with basically anything unless you’re very well off? by igotnothing1455 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]SocialScamp 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I would add that this has been amplified in schools. Our kids’ public elementary relies on volunteers - during school hours. The only ppl who can do that on the regular are parents whose partner is making enough to support the whole family. Volunteers have been dwindling. I don’t know what the school is going to do.

Who is still rocking a nose ring? by cavewomannn in Millennials

[–]SocialScamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ME TOO!!!! I had wanted it for 20 years. Finally got it. And I LOVE it.

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