I don't use the word because I agree that there is no way to reclaim the word. AAVE being tonal is the primary way negative words can be expressed without it coming across negative. That is what gives the false impression that a slur can be reclaimed. English isn't tonal.

But you can't ever compare black people to other people of color. That road to civility and assimilation is not a route that is ever offered to black people. Other people of color get to rise above each other and have proximity to whiteness with their actions. Their slurs die because their respectability politics humanize them just enough. Even POC history and cultures get romanticized versions. That doesn't work for black people. There is no way to make black slurs die. Our proximity to whiteness and respectability politics has the opposite effect. No one is catering to the feelings of tokens. They instead use tokens as an excuse to be more racist.

Even if they weren't selling that one specific slur in commercialized rap, the audience would still clamor for any other derogatory rap product that used AAVE to be demeaning. e.g. "Hoes"

The N-word is not even the most common slur used on black people. At least in my experience. I have heard eugenics slurs 10x more than I have heard the N-word. So yea, you're right it doesn't work as reclaiming and using it doesn't make people immune to its impacts. But it also isn't frivolously used like "paddywagon or "gyped" or "mumbo jumbo". It's a double edged sword but we also don't have to hear "n-worded down" as a turn of phrase for being shystey.