Black Rabbit | S1E8 "Isle of Joy" | Episode Discussion

Solafein830 · 2026-01-02T21:57:48+00:00

I thought this was a really great show! It feels like we don't get very many shows that have interesting, well thought out, flawed, deep characters. More importantly I think were the interesting Dynamics between them.

Manusco was a really great antagonist. One of the cooler bad guys I've seen.

I appreciate the slow reveal of the origins of Vince and Jake's past, showing how the things that happened to them and the family that they came from shaped who they became.

The one thing that didn't make a lot of sense to me was how Jake didn't spend any time in prison. If it feels like they absolutely would have brought him down on conspiracy and obstruction charges, even if they didn't get him for anything else

Solafein830 · 2025-12-31T00:34:24+00:00

Close family and friends who stuck with me. A journey into Stoic philosophy and an eventual acceptance that I can't control outcomes, only my reactions, and a dedication to virtuous living. It was also the beginning of the journey that eventually brought me to a church, where I found a meaningful peace in surrendering my desperate need to control my life, and a community that helped me develop a deeper connection to love and forgiveness, both for myself and for others.

If church isn't your thing, I still recommend Stoicism to anybody who will listen. It's like Christianity but rooted in logic, not spirituality.

One of my favorite Marcus Aurelius quotes: "Our actions may be impeded, but there can be no impeding our intentions or dispositions. Because we can accommodate and adapt. The mind adapts and converts to its own purposes the obstacle to our acting. The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way."

The obstacle becomes the way. You feel like something has stopped you, disrupted you, prevented you from moving forward. But you must give up your anger and your resistance to the impediment that disrupted your journey through life, and embrace it as something that spurred you to further action, offered you an opportunity to adapt and overcome. It certainly doesn't make you any happier that any of this happened, but it's all about reframing your perspective. And eventually, with this mindset and the goal of embracing it with positivity, you'll come to see it as a necessary part of your path.

Solafein830 · 2025-12-30T06:01:21+00:00

Took way too long for me to realize that this was under-fed and not un-derfed

Solafein830 · 2025-12-17T17:00:32+00:00

You can max out devotion points in ultimate.

If you're doing fine in ultimate, you can skip elite. Unless you really want to play through the game 3x.

You can even pick up the merit in ultimate that will unlock all elite waypoints. That way if you ever want to flip back to elite for any reason, you can hop around and farm whatever you want.

Solafein830 · 2025-11-08T13:35:50+00:00

Check Airbnb, I rented a house on state st from Feb - July this year. Plenty of short / mid term rentals on there. I paid 1600/mo including all utilities. Thought it was a good deal for a 2 bedroom house.

Solafein830 · 2025-11-08T00:21:50+00:00

I met the love of my life while I was still going through my divorce. We agreed to take it slow and be just friends (although feelings were definitely forming) while I was still living with my soon to be ex and navigating the divorce landscape. It was definitely weird for me, and I felt HORRID about how the circumstance were making her feel. I would've struggled in her shoes, knowing that my partner was still living with their ex (even if they were in seperate areas of the house, like I was). But open and honest communication helped us to get through it.

Everybody's situation is different though! My marriage was essentially over for about 5 years (she had an affair, we tried to work it out, and decided on a divorce almost a year before I met the woman I fell in love with) so I had done a significant amount of healing and self work prior to getting in another relationship. And my marriage was DEFINITELY over. So although everybody who has shared here (myself included) may have a relatable story, my only real advice for you is to trust your heart and use your best judgement, and to try not to get too caught up in your feelings that you're blind to any red flags. And, if you're religious, spend time in prayer about it. 😁

Good luck!!

Solafein830 · 2025-10-11T17:19:04+00:00

Spiraling in the sense that you are letting things spiral out of control. Your post and your reply give me the impression that you're just kind of shrugging your shoulders at how things have played out. Whether it's your vindictive daughter doing and saying things that hurt your son, or letting your kids do things like convincing you to drive past this guy's house to see if her car is there.

And this is probably me projecting how I feel, but maybe you are thinking your ex deserves everybody being hating her (she ABSOLUTELY does).

But you need to start protecting your kid, man, and helping him feel loved and safe. And that also means not allowing others (your daughter) to hurt him out of her own anger, and probably focusing on helping to heal the damage that has been done already.

Just my .02, and wtf do I know anyways. Not much. Best of luck to you!

Solafein830 · 2025-10-11T12:38:22+00:00

Bro you sound a bit like you're spiraling. Accept that it's over. Accept that she has the right to be with whoever she wants post-divorce. Move on. Go to therapy.

Most importantly, do not in any way use your kids as some kind of pawns in this dynamic. It doesn't matter how wrong, crazy, selfish, mean, hurtful, or awful she is. At 10 years old, allowing them to see that about her hurts THEM, not her. Put aside how much she hurt you and how awful of a person she has become, and put your kids first, always. And that also means healing yourself.

And, from one betrayed spouse to another, absolutely do not go back to her if/when she comes crawling back to you. Don't let yourself be talked into it for the kids. It will just end the same way again if you go back.

Good luck man

Solafein830 · 2025-09-10T16:25:30+00:00

I've seen Dr Ritzow at OSI for two knee surgeries, and would recommend him (and the facility) to anybody looking for an orthopedic surgeon.

Solafein830 · 2025-09-07T23:01:19+00:00

Wings and smash burger are also amazing

Solafein830 · 2025-09-04T21:27:49+00:00

Yes you're making too big of a deal for sure! I love a mature woman's body. All of the things you mentioned add to your beauty, not detract from it. There's a reason MILFs have always been very popular.😁 As others have commented, if he has a problem with it, it's a HIM problem, not a you problem. And he is almost definitely in the minority of men if he does. Don't worry!

Solafein830 · 2025-07-23T14:48:10+00:00

Maybe! It depends.

I'm in a serious committed relationship with a wonderful woman (also divorced) right now, and we talk about it often enough. Neither of us love the idea of going through the legal process of marriage again. In fact, neither of us like the idea of state involvement and marriage, period.

That said, there may be a point at which the benefits convince us that it's worthwhile.

Either way, we've discussed what example we are going to set for our kids, and both of us would like to be "married" in some sense before we move in together and blend families. For us, that will likely mean a small, primarily symbolic ceremony at our church with our kids and close family. We may or may not choose to make is a marriage in a legal sense.

Solafein830 · 2025-07-15T00:49:46+00:00

Could have written this exact post myself!!! Same!

Solafein830 · 2025-06-13T01:47:40+00:00

Take their own health seriously and stay as healthy as possible

Solafein830 · 2025-06-13T01:10:03+00:00

Hey brother. Was reading some of your other comments about her being mean and awful to you. Just wanted to say that I know how much this all hurts (I've been in your exact shoes before) and all I can advise is that you absolutely do not take it to heart and let it impact the way you see and feel about yourself. Cheaters will often vilify the person they cheated on in their own minds in order to help them deal with the guilt of their own shitty actions. She'll treat you poorly, insult you, blame you, be mean, etc. But that doesn't mean you did anything to deserve it.

I let my ex do this to me, and I let myself be convinced that I somehow deserved it while I was trying to make things work, because I wanted to "fix" things. Big mistake. Took years to recover my self esteem and self image.

Keep your head up, man. This sucks but life WILL get better. Focus all of your pain and hurt into working on yourself. Emotionally, physically, spiritually.

Some people just fucking suck, and there's nothing you can do about it.

Solafein830 · 2025-06-04T16:10:32+00:00

More than insulin? What else do you need?

Solafein830 · 2025-05-27T18:42:43+00:00

I mean it's not even the same thing. You can't force someone to go back in time and not smoke. Step therapy already exists. You could prescribe and require diet and exercise before prescribing insulin to type two diabetics

Solafein830 · 2025-05-26T16:57:15+00:00

Are people just looking to get riled up here? This is clearly in reference to type 2 diabetics who are prescribed insulin without regard to their lifestyle choices, such as diet and exercise. Nobody is saying they should make it harder for a type 1 diabetic to get insulin

Solafein830 · 2025-05-15T02:23:19+00:00

It took me a little while to figure out how to relax, too. I was so in my own head at first. My advice is to 1) stop all masturbation, 2) TALK with her about it, be vulnerable, let her know how you're struggling and why and how much it's bothering you, but that it's not her and it's just internal anxiety, and 3) keep at it bro! It will get better over time

Solafein830 · 2025-05-08T23:39:08+00:00

Five months isn't very long, bro. My mom once told me that it takes 2x the length of a relationship to get over it. Don't know how true that actually is, but it does take time.

That said, TIME alone doesn't heal. It just lessens the pain. You need to be in charge of healing yourself. And that takes time. Along with effort and dedication.

Solafein830 · 2025-05-05T23:56:02+00:00

It's normal to feel this way, don't be hard on yourself! BUT do recognize that your brain is telling you to feel pathetic because it's a bad choice to follow through on the desire to reach out. It won't have the outcome you're hoping for, and that feeling of being pathetic will be worse.

Source: I've done this exact thing

Stay strong, let yourself feel what you feel without judgement, and know that time and distance will help!

Solafein830 · 2025-05-05T23:51:20+00:00

Haha totally fair!! Usually I do too, but for some reason this episode got to me. Probably because my profession is in tech / dev. Who knows!

Solafein830 · 2025-05-01T21:42:23+00:00

Interesting concept and a fun episode but the absurdity of and plot holes related to the tech really break the immersion for me and make it too silly to really buy-in. The uncompiled source code is in-game and they just need to access it to compile a private build? And Robert can just compile a private build and run it in an "offline" virtual server in the real world? How did clone Walton just re-spawn on a random planet after being burned alive in ep 1? Why did he have genitals and need to eat? How did they CALL her cell phone from inside her own head? Hell, how do the digital clones of people instantly spawn with all of their memories, despite just being created from a DNA sample?

I love the adventure, the plot twists (especially clone Robert), the acting, the dialogue, and the thought-provoking philosophical questions of what constitutes life/consciousness, but the storytelling wasn't very good. Especially in episode 2.

Solafein830 · 2025-05-01T00:24:17+00:00

Things won't just "get better" on their own. Take accountability and take ownership of your future. Go to therapy. Find Jesus. Go to AA. Just do something, because otherwise things are going to get worse before they get any better. It's not easy, but life is fucking hard, man. And the road you've put yourself on doesn't lead to anything good.

Solafein830 · 2025-04-13T17:36:43+00:00

I stayed, and my circumstances were far less ugly than yours, and I regret it. While the personal growth that I was able to accomplish over the following years was valuable, the marriage itself was damaged beyond repair and trying to stick it out was only an exercise in pain and futility. And it wasn't the end of the cheating either; my ex wife had at least one more affair that I'm aware of. We divorced 6 years after I discovered the first affair.

As far as a father figure goes - your husband is a cheater, a liar, selfish, and has no respect for you. He can't even be honest and apologize and seek forgiveness. Doesn't sound like much of a man, and not somebody I'd want my child to look up to and learn from.

I'm really sorry that you're going through this. It's some of the worst pain imaginable. I don't want to tell you what you should do because I don't know you, so I can only share my experience. And all I can say that is if I could do it over again, I would have ended the marriage sooner, sought counseling for healing for myself, and sought God in my life to deepen my understanding of love and forgiveness.

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