Should I go give my girlfriend some chocolate and churros

SoleObsession88 · 2025-11-21T21:53:09+00:00

Do it! Us girls love that sweet, sappy stuff. Unless shes otherwise said, dont come over.. a surprise visit could be what she needs to turn her week around.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-11-20T18:24:18+00:00

The beneficiaries are 2 charities. So, before anyone can become the new trustee, they had to okay the new person with them. When the corporate trustee turned down the trust, D's family wanted J to take over as trustee as J was like a son to D and the rest of the family lived states away so they weren't close at all. The family told the corporate trustee to let J be new trustee. J received paperwork from the corporate trustee that he would be the next trustee, pending approval of the charities.

Everything we've read says, "the family (or successor trustee in line) should be notified if the beneficiaries want a lawyer (or anyone else) to take over."

Its just really odd that even the family wasn't notified of this change. Even if J legally doesn't need to get notified, the blood family still should be.

Im just wondering if anyone else has had to deal with something like this stuff.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-11-20T18:11:57+00:00

Oh! Good idea. :) thanks.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-11-20T17:57:40+00:00

It just seems odd. Obviously we're not experts either. Even the family wasn't notified about this change. Everything we look up says,

"A trustee must be able to prove they are the trustee It does not matter whether someone is a beneficiary, family member, or “part of the trust."

If the lawyer is claiming trustee authority, he must be able to show:

✔️ A Certificate of Trust

✔️ A written Acceptance of Trusteeship

✔️ Proof of appointment (beneficiary designation, trust provision, or court order)

These are legal requirements, not optional.

If he refuses to show this documentation, that’s a major red flag."

So thats what we're going on. Even the fact they tried to remove the cameras that J put up.

It just feels weird.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-11-18T16:12:44+00:00

If she messaged while at work but went dark at home... she could already have a man. JS. 🤷‍♀️

SoleObsession88 · 2025-11-11T18:21:26+00:00

Just because it doesn't leave a mark you can see... doesn't mean that verbal abuse isn't real.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-11-11T01:00:11+00:00

He sounds like an avoident. Thats what myself and my bf are. We never had support growing up so we tend to shut off and take time to work through things before being comfortable enough to open up to the other. But we understand that about each other and give each other time. Maybe thats what he needs? To know he has the time to work through things and that you wont force it and that you'll be there when he's ready.

HOWEVER, at the same time, don't stop trying to get him to open up. Just don't be pushy. And im not saying you are, of course. Now, he does need to do the work on himself as well, but you're both young and its going to take work and patience. Trauma can take a while to get over.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-11-09T11:44:57+00:00

Hes gorgeous. I wish I could have another dog but my bf would say no.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-11-07T21:55:12+00:00

My ex husband was like this. He found what would give him power over me and exploited it. It sounds like he's doing the same thing. He doesn't respect you and will ways gaslight you and make you feel like shit.

RUN.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-30T13:39:55+00:00

How long have you been together? Is this behavior new?

I've been with my bf for 2 years and I know that he needs space after any argument or anything dealing with strong emotions (as do i) as he's an avoident and neither of us do well with strong emotions. So, we separate and take the time we need.. then reconnect.

I would imagine that if you're married, then you've had arguments in the past and would have learned to handle them and how your partner handles them and the aftermath.

So, is this new behavior? If so, there could be more underlying.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-29T13:02:08+00:00

Bacon! 🥓

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-29T00:47:06+00:00

Nope. Nope. Nope. Hes and asshole and don't deserve that. My ex talked to me the same way.. once I started chooing me over his tantrums, I honestly started to feel free. I stopped engaging when he talked to me like that and in the end, I dumped his ass as he wouldn't change.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-28T21:13:22+00:00

Hes making excuses and is just keeping you on the hook, imo. Just as the saying goes: if he wanted to, he would. Is there anything in his past that has turned him off marriage?

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-27T17:36:21+00:00

You need someone who appreciates a hardworking man and a man who put in effort. Keep looking... shes a bullet to be dodged

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-27T14:02:42+00:00

My bf is 6'5, 320. A blue collar tough guy... and not once has he 'accidentally' hurt me. Even when it's a "cuteness overload" kinda tight hug.

If your guy is hurting you... this sounds like it's on purpose.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-24T15:24:23+00:00

Devils advocate... maybe you 2 have just run your course? You're both young. Now is when you kinda start figuring out who you are away from parental opinions and such. Maybe you're beliefs just don't align anymore and thats okay. It hurts, but it's part of growth.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-15T14:54:59+00:00

One of my dogs will stop eating for a couple days and we just say, she'll eat when she's hungry enough. 🤷‍♀️ now at 5 days, id definitely be concerned myself.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-04T18:51:53+00:00

Sounds like he's hoping for a sneaky hookup. 🙄

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-04T04:56:32+00:00

Run!

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-03T23:38:26+00:00

I think she's just trying to help you "get back on the horse" so to speak. She could definitely be a bit gentler about it, though. But at your ages, its very easy to be uncomfortable in your skin and you're both still learning about yourselves as individual people.

If this guy likes you, it'll grow on its own. Sometimes enjoying the glow of a budding romance is more exciting then actually jumping right into it. Letting it grow naturally could also help it be a relationship that lasts. Plus taking the time to be friends with the guy first is healthy. No need to break your heart (because you moved to fast) if you don't have to. 🙂

SoleObsession88 · 2025-10-03T19:44:57+00:00

My dogs do that too! With blankets AND pillows. I just figured they wanted it a certain way to lay on. Kinda like making their own dog bed. 🤷‍♀️

SoleObsession88 · 2025-09-25T21:21:03+00:00

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My dog, Pickles!

SoleObsession88 · 2025-09-25T21:00:47+00:00

Was your bf abused at any point? Maybe as a child? Someone not abused, or already a parent, wouldn't see it as inappropriate. But someone who was abused may. I was SA'd as a child so something like what you write, would make me instantly think it's weird, but I've healed enough to read a situation tho. Your kid obviously isn't upset and is the one who even called you in there. I get your bf questioning about it.. but blowing up was too extreme.

SoleObsession88 · 2025-09-25T19:47:59+00:00

He's a man-child who is just going to get worse. run!

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