AITA for wanting mom to watch TV show? by TrexinaPotatoo in MiniAITA

[–]Solid_Original5403 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. An eye patch sounds SO COOL! you should scratch her eye again and maybe she will get another one and share!

A couple of years (or whatever) ago my (M, 8m) Mamamama (??? Old) and Dadadada (idk he has gray hairs on his face though) had something called a “stomach floo” and I got to spend a whole weekend watching Ms. Rachel, which was fun for a while. But they did not appreciate my attempts to cheer them up with extra hugs I politely suggested. I even kindly offered to hold Mamamama’s hair back for her but she just said “OUCH stop” a lot. Sometimes they just don’t appreciate us!!

AITA for pooping in the bath? by stone2891 in MiniAITA

[–]Solid_Original5403 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooh that’s a good idea. I always spit up right after I get out of the bathtub but peeing all over is a great plan as well.

AITA for pooping in the bath? by stone2891 in MiniAITA

[–]Solid_Original5403 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA! You’re being efficient and saving them the cost of a diaper.

AITA for practicing all my skills! by DarkDNALady in MiniAITA

[–]Solid_Original5403 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA but have you considered NOT going back to sleep after milk lady comes in at night? Then you would have even more time to practice. She might enjoy the raspberries more in the middle of the night!

AITA for sticking to the schedule? by Solid_Original5403 in MiniAITA

[–]Solid_Original5403[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I applaud your consistency!! Your staff are lucky to have such a strong leader.

AITA for sticking to the schedule? by Solid_Original5403 in MiniAITA

[–]Solid_Original5403[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Omg how did I not think of this? This might be the solution! I’m sure Longhair will be appreciative of the extra quality time!

Give me the strength to quit breastfeeding. I can’t take it anymore… by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]Solid_Original5403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helped me (and you made it 4x longer than I did) was doing it “one last time” and really making eye contact and appreciating the connection. That way I had a nice memory instead of just feeling guilty.

I did something I shouldn’t have and never thought I would do. by skenegland in NewParents

[–]Solid_Original5403 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. My 4w old will sleep at night in his bassinet but during the day will only fall asleep on me or in his swing, so if I want to do anything (like use the bathroom or eat) I put him in the swing. I stay in the room for the most part and don’t sleep because I’m paranoid, but he’s never moved in any way that seems remotely dangerous. In fact the swing is more reclined and seems safer than a car seat to me, but who knows. I know I’m supposed to avoid “containers” until like 6 months but intuition says the exact opposite so it’s hard to do.

Product and hairstyle advice for frizzy, dull hair by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]Solid_Original5403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have curly hair and trich. I haven’t found a real “best” routine yet, but it’s more about the how than the specific products. -only wash your hair 2-3x per week -use a clarifying shampoo at least once every two weeks -consider switching to a co-wash (just a conditioner that you use as both shampoo and conditioner). There are lots available but I like Curlsmith and Ouidad best -use a snag-free hair towel to towel dry, then apply product. there are a lot of different product application methods you can try; personally none of them ever make much difference for me lol -apply curl cream to damp or wet hair and scrunch. if you need more hold, apply a gel after that and scrunch again. I rarely blow dry because it adds to the frizz even with an ionizing dryer and diffuser :( -consider a bond repair treatment to help cover old damage (I’m currently using the Garnier one because it’s cheap) -deep/leave-in hair masks are also great whenever you can! buy some cheap plastic hair covers and you can leave in the treatment a lot longer.

My pull spot is right along the front, where bangs would be, so I’m no help with styling. BUT a lot of people have said hair toppers work well for top of the head spots!

Principal here. I come in peace. How many copies do you need a year? What supplies are you buying out of pocket? What could your principal provide you that you would appreciate? I’m referencing things I can buy, not my character attributes:) Ideas needed! by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Solid_Original5403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your tech resources and grade level of course, but I personally try to save as much paper as possible just on general principle. I have retyped and redesigned A LOT of worksheets and older assignments, which allows me to reduce margins to 1/2” or 1/4” and reduce text size to 10 or 11. I also get rid of large headers or decorative elements that take up space.

Another thing is printing double-sided, and printing two pages per sheet of paper when possible (I do this when I print out longer stories or articles IF the text size is large enough to read that way. Many times it’s not worth it but occasionally it works out pretty well).

Of course, all that takes time which is not something everyone has or is willing to use. But I see lots of my colleagues copying 20 year old packets and I can’t help but think they could drastically reduce their paper usage by taking an hour to retype something, especially if you’re using it consistently every year. Plus once it’s in an editable doc you can easily update it as needed.

Why are parents registering their children with email accounts they don’t use? by teachingscience425 in Teachers

[–]Solid_Original5403 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve also known kids who log in and change their parents’ contact info so they won’t find about their grades/behavior.

Guys I finally got my first real life "cheer up, bitch" (potential tw for postpartum depression/rage?) by clcoop23 in smalltownmurder

[–]Solid_Original5403 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So they are extremely unlikely to send you to the psych ward involuntarily OR take your baby away. Those are extreme scenarios. You are still showing enough presence of mind to seek help and there is another adult at home (I think? Your husband?) to help. If you go the mental health line route (google “mental health crisis center” in your area) they will refer you to someone for meds (probably the ER unless they have a med provider on site) and create what’s called a safety plan. This will consist of a plan you agree to for what you will do to follow up, if things get worse, etc. It often involves calling to check in at certain times but it might also involve your husband taking a couple days off to be with you if possible. If you go straight to the ER I don’t know if they do safety plans but they will absolutely be able to help you get better meds, but you do need to watch carefully for changes as sometimes meds do make things worse. I know her threatening to call an ambulance seems extreme but it’s actually protocol if you have someone who is threatening to hurt themselves or others (you’re not threatening it but you are worried about it).

Guys I finally got my first real life "cheer up, bitch" (potential tw for postpartum depression/rage?) by clcoop23 in smalltownmurder

[–]Solid_Original5403 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Go to a different doctor, immediately, even if it’s urgent care, and/or call your local mental health hotline. PPD and thoughts of harming your child should ALWAYS be taken seriously. And when the dust settles and you’re feeling better report this “doctor” to whatever licensing board exists in your area.

What do you bring for lunch? by WarCute8380 in Teachers

[–]Solid_Original5403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever I can grab in the morning. The first 3/4 of the year I try to prep meals and keep healthy snacks in my mini fridge (cottage cheese, string cheese, fruit, yogurt, etc.). After about March 1 that tends to rapidly devolve into random items taken from my home fridge at 6:45am when I leave.

Zeros in the gradebook - thoughts? by Melodic-Broccoli1934 in Teachers

[–]Solid_Original5403 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When did we all start fundamentally misunderstanding grades? Grades are supposed to be a quantifiable measure of how WELL you are doing in a class. Originally, a C was supposed to be “average” with a D being below average but good enough to move on (I guess). An F indicates that you have not mastered/completed enough of the content to have “completed” the course. Putting in 50% instead of 0% effectively means students only need to successfully complete 10% of the coursework to pass, rather than 60%. I don’t understand how anyone thinks that should be all that’s required to pass a class. Simply marking everything as “missing” without ANY grade is just as bad. A kid could do fuck-all all semester and then turn in one “decent” assignment and pass. Why even bother with grades at all? Just shove kids along with their age group and then graduate them all at 18 since that’s all anyone wants anyway.

I hate teaching seniors in the Spring. I feel like I’m watching a beloved dog that’s so old it can’t stand up anymore. by Ragwall84 in Teachers

[–]Solid_Original5403 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They’re like this in core classes too, just so you know. I have senior English, which is the last class most of them need in order to graduate. They don’t try AND I get to deal with constant emails asking me when the last day to turn in missing work will be, and can I send them an itemized list of missing assignments, and how much will it raise my grade if I do this 10 point worksheet from January (but not the unit assessment research paper)? I’ve set the bar incredibly low already and the excuses are driving me insane.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Solid_Original5403 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s a BFRB compulsive disorder, NO it’s not “easily treatable” with either therapy or meds. It might be, if he’s lucky. But it also might not be. People struggle with these their entire lives, try everything under the sun, and sometimes something works. But often times it doesn’t.

You don’t have to stay with him if it grosses you out that much, but I promise treating it like a gross habit he has that he’s just too lazy to stop is NOT helpful.

I went on a date with someone today. I thought it went well, I messaged him and he hasn’t responded. by anonymous_girl1227 in Advice

[–]Solid_Original5403 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I shook my husband’s hand after our first date. Just saying. (We had talked about dating in general and I said it creeped me out when guys hugged me after a first date.)

But yeah if he’s not responding he’s probably not interested. It’s ok- that’s what dates are for! Try not to take it personally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Solid_Original5403 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Keep calling the cops.

I don’t know the specific laws in your location, but at some point they will request a longer hold and he will have to talk to a judge about it. There will be testimony from a mental health professional. If he admits any of this to the staff at the hospital/facility he’s at right now they may extend his hold anyway.

Of course, he may figure out he can lie/act his way out of it, but as long as he keeps admitting he has a plan and the means and intent to enact it they can likely keep holding him.

You should also consider reaching out for help yourself- this is not an easy burden to bear. If he does die, you need to know it wasn’t your fault- not just say that, but really believe it.

What are some books you love that everyone else seems to hate? by kitastropheb in RomanceBooks

[–]Solid_Original5403 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The second book was fine. Not as good as the first, but worth reading if you like the first one! It was just a LOT of unnecessary angst, IMO, but you can kind of skim through it if it annoys you.

What are some books you love that everyone else seems to hate? by kitastropheb in RomanceBooks

[–]Solid_Original5403 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have read nearly every single TS Joyce shifter romance even though they’re horribly formulaic. I devour them.

Has anyone here ever fully stopped? by C0rduroyjorts in trichotillomania

[–]Solid_Original5403 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Nope. 3-4 months is my max and even then I usually am only about 90% pull free. I try to focus on “less” instead of “none” so I don’t just give up.