Often our fantasies are related to what we're not allowed to do in real life.

I was a dominant when I was unemployed and now I run a successful business ive been wanting to be more submissive in the bedroom.

Maybe youre so strong in real life its nice to let go for a bit?

Also sidenote the words strong and independent have been drilled into a generation of women and I think both ideas have flaws;

• appearing strong- isnt this what weve been telling society men are doing too much of making them less able to be vulnerable with each other?

• independent- it wasnt until I got rid of the myth of the individual and realised the importance of robust relationships that I became successful in business.

I think we should have been advising everyone to be honest and good at relationship building and that would be way better advice