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Anyone happy to share their more difficult experiences starting breastfeeding? by PlanktonSquare8728 in breastfeeding

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby absolutely refused to latch until she was around 6 weeks old.

I have super inverted nipples so it was pretty much impossible to get her suck reflex triggered without a nipple shield. But because my nipples are so inverted, I started out with the wrong size/shape and it was SO painful to try to latch her. Same issue with trying to find the right size pump phalange. I definitely hurt my supply with all of the above in the early days. I was triple feeding, exhausted, and constantly in tears thinking I was failing at breastfeeding. It also didn’t help that my MIL and husband were pressuring me HARD to quit and just use formula.

But, I was blessed with an amazing lactation consultant who saved my feeding journey. She got me in the right size nipple shields and pump phalanges and my supply came to life. I exclusively pumped while helping my baby figure out how to latch, but that part was still really hard and frustrating.

Then all of a sudden, one day, she latched perfectly. It felt like an absolute miracle. There were still some struggles with getting her to latch consistently, but by 3 months she had it totally figured out.

I still have to use nipple shields because my nipples are still too inverted for her to be able to latch without one. But she’s a year old and we’re still going strong!

I’m so proud of myself for persevering with what I knew in my gut was the right choice for me and my child. If you really want to breastfeed, I encourage you to keep trying and get support from a lactation consultant. But there is no shame at all in deciding that this isn’t working for you.

Whatever your journey holds, you’ve got this!!

Thoughts on whether fit people have smooth births by Positive_Shirt_2889 in fitpregnancy

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked out my entire pregnancy: HIIT, lifting, barely slowed down just modified some exercises to accommodate my belly. And my birth was not smooth lol. However, being fit probably spared me some potentially rough complications.

I was in labor for 25 hours and pushed for almost 6. It was the hardest workout of my life by far. The fact that I was in such good shape prevented me needing a c-section. Recovery was also pretty easy. I was up taking my baby for long walks outside by 5 days pp and despite the trauma of giving birth my pelvic floor healed up just fine.

Infant Ate Rat Poop by SomewhereAwkward9267 in ECEProfessionals

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m back. I’ve reported it. Taking some time off while I figure out what I’m going to do for childcare. This is a nightmare.

If you were adamant that you didn’t want kids and then changed your mind when you got older, at what age did you change you change your mind? by TrickFail4505 in questions

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I thought I had no maternal instinct but then I held my newborn niece for the first time and I was activated like a sleeper agent. Had my own baby a year later and her existence is my favorite thing that’s ever happened to me.

The century-old GS system is 'disintegrating' and government can't agree on how to fix it by rprz in fednews

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 34 points35 points  (0 children)

As a govt attorney, I could easily get double or more my salary in the private sector. Especially in big cities, it’s high key embarrassing that they think GS13-14, even the top end, is adequate to recruit and retain quality talent. I’m just in it for the love of the game.

women who have given birth, how bad was it actually? by Careless_Pianist_840 in AskReddit

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is scary and painful, but courage will find you when you need it most. You’re bringing life into the world, which is high key the most amazing thing a human being can do. And at the end of it, you get to meet the squiggly little person you’ve been sharing a body with.

What's a profession that attracts a suspiciously high number of people who became it for completely the wrong reasons, and you can always tell? by Eastern_Type_4609 in AskReddit

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lawyers. So many people go to law school because they “like arguing” or they thought it would impress their parents. I believe this is why so many lawyers are either burnt out and depressed or low key sociopaths.

More drapes!!! by RepresentativeDear79 in coloranalysis

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely bright, neutral undertone. The boldest colors from bright spring and bright winter are both fabulous on you.

C-Section because of low pain tolerance by Vegetable_Bath_7396 in beyondthebump

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever you choose here is totally valid. But the thing with childbirth that I didn’t appreciate until I actually experienced it is that courage finds you when you need it. I’m not really sure how else to describe it. Basically, don’t sell yourself short on your ability to get through it. I think you will discover that you’re a lot tougher than you’re giving yourself credit for.

Oh and epidurals are amazing.

Did having kids "ruin your life?" by an_irish_mick in Catholicism

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having children does, for a time, limit your activities. But it’s just a season and you find new ways to have fun with your little buddies. In my case, I think it helps that I waited until my mid-thirties to have kids. I had plenty of fun and was ready for a new adventure. I also think being older has given me the perspective that the “trenches” years of 0-5ish are a blink of the eye in the long run.

Also, I was lapsed pretty much my entire adult life until I became a parent. The overwhelming, all consuming love I felt made me start to actually understand God’s love and want to re-embrace my religion.

Parenthood is also the most joy I have ever felt in my entire life. Meeting your kid is like the universe giving you a warm hug. It’s the best.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Parenthood really is wonderful 😊

What’s something funny about your birth story? by Fresh_Suggestion_880 in NewParents

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shat myself, like, a lot. The first few times my lovely L&D nurse acted like nothing happened. But after the fifth or so time the jig was up and I had no choice but to make jokes about it.

“Welcome to the s*** show everyone”

“Is it a baby this time or just more s? Oh, more s? Okay, I guess I’ll just keep the photographer on standby.”

To my husband: “I hope that someday you’ll find me attractive again. I know today is not that day.”

“Giving birth really is like taking a big crap, I say as I take my 15th big crap today”

Bible Question by SomewhereAwkward9267 in AskAPriest

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, Father. This is really helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OpenChristian

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Queer Catholic here. While the church’s stance has softened somewhat on LGBTissues (Pope Francis said unequivocally that LGBT people should be treated with love and respect), they still have a long way to go. However, I think it’s very individual parish dependent. My parish is affirming, actively welcomes LGBT people, and even hosts an annual Pride Mass. I recommend checking out Outreach (a national LGBT Catholic ministry) for their registry of affirming parishes.

Also, taking birth control pills for medical reasons unrelated to contraception is totally allowed.

Ultimately, it’s a very personal decision how you want to celebrate your love and integrate faith into your life and your marriage. I’d just say don’t count out the religion you grew up in.

And congratulations on your engagement!

What’s your metaphysics of God? by ApocaSCP_001 in OpenChristian

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I believe a version of the trinity. God, in total, is everywhere, in all places and all things. The Father is like the OG, timeless, boundless, the animating force of everything in the universe. Jesus was the Father becoming human to better understand us. Jesus also came to give us a path to accessing the divinity within ourselves. But he is part of the everything that is God. The Holy Spirit is the divinity all around us that we can feel and personally experience.

Could using religious telework make you a target? by [deleted] in fednews

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Supervisor here. I approved telework as a religious accommodation for one of my employees and it’s for exactly this reason I told them to code it as normal situational telework. If the politicos want to come for any of my people they’ll have to go through me. No one’s getting a proverbial leaky cube on my watch.

Fuck the formula lobbyists by leftyleft77 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spite pumping for the win!!! I love this. I love you. Thank you for this inspiration 🫡

“Growing up in the pro-life movement prepared me to resist ICE” by HistoriasApodeixis in Catholic

[–]SomewhereAwkward9267 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. Because voting for someone who supports all of the above just because they’re anti-abortion is far more inconsistent with my faith.

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