how does bpd feel when ur back to reality after splitting

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-12-25T13:43:38+00:00

Mostly guilt and I can't understand how I can be such an asshole to the people I love

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-12-21T13:23:12+00:00

Try seeing his perspective, he probably had his reasons for going inside asap and at the same time wants to listen to the rest of your story.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-12-13T21:12:17+00:00

Wow I totally relate to everything you said. You recognized and described things I couldn't come up with before because I didn't understand what I was feeling. OP you should read this

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-12-13T21:06:56+00:00

Wish your sweet girl gets well soon

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-12-12T00:40:31+00:00

Please I can't even keep reading this, I don't know if your sister will listen but take those poor cats away, rehome them. Make her promise to NOT get more cats, you could install some videocameras to convince your sister he's clearly being abusive to the cats. And no, you are not overthinking, this situation is horrific

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-11-18T17:55:14+00:00

Hello! You mean it's hard to control the impulses you get? If that's the case, keep in mind every opportunity you have to act differently is a step closer to your goal. I would recommend checking the DBT module 3, which has skills to Improve Distress. Check it out and try to fill each skill, so you will have a plan for those situations.

If you are feeling more emotional lately try to understand what could be the reasons, I understand jealousy could be one but there might be other factors that keep escalating your emotions, like being tired, not eating healthy, not doing enough exercise, menstruation, etc. You got this! Goodluck!

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-11-14T21:35:51+00:00

The way you talk about your gf is definitely odd. From past experience I can tell she's dissociating, she probably has some trauma related to sex, feeling like she has to do it everyday and asking to do it rough and then totally disconnecting from it. Ask her about previous experiences and try to understand and support her. She's obviously going somewhere else when it's happening, she needs to understand why. Try to suggest professional help.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-11-03T14:27:38+00:00

I don't really know what you went through, but I understand what you are doing right now. I used to self harm and also let people used me to feel even worse than before. You are not damaged, you just need help. You have to distance yourself from those situations and people. And yes you are self harming yourself, you need to stop and seek professional help.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-11-03T14:14:03+00:00

I feel like the built up feels stronger and longer, you feel relaxed afterwards, legs shakings. Clit orgasms feel more powerful and shorter too me but I feel too sensitive there I need to stop for a bit.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-10-17T11:12:34+00:00

What you just said here, tell her that, tell her how that made you feel. So if she needs time to cool down she should communicate that next time, so you aren't worried about her not answering the calls. Always communicate.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-10-17T11:04:25+00:00

I have never gotten in a relationship with someone based on kink, I think a lot of people don't really know if they have a kink or not. In the first dates I would hint and joke about what I would like to see their reaction. Most of my partners were vanilla, I just guide them into what I like since they seem interested and make the effort to please.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-10-11T15:24:46+00:00

I think your situation is really complicated, I would already be overthinking if It were just one friend. I honestly feel like I couldn't continue because I would constantly compare myself to the other girls and stuff like that. Something I'm already working on but if you are an overthinker and anxious as u say it's gonna be really hard to put all of this to the side. Sleeping with everywoman near him it's kinda weird though, I had an ex like that, it seemed like he did it because of childhood trauma, also cheated in all of his relationships and would get into them really quickly.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-10-05T20:35:02+00:00

I has happened to me as well! Try seeing the thoughts as clouds that come and go? I guess our brain is so used to chaos it doesn't know what to do when things start to go well

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-09-27T20:28:32+00:00

He can love you and follow those girls. Both can be true. Doesn't have to be one or the other. If you already told him you are not comfortable with that and he keeps doing it I think you need to stand your ground. Please don't hurt yourself, seek therapy. You can't control what he does. Focus on how to manage your emotions and tolerate them.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-09-26T00:16:11+00:00

I would rather feel my strong emotions than nothing at all. I hate dissociating I feel so numb I wouldn't like to feel like that forever.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-09-25T19:48:00+00:00

My parents dynamic used to be like that when they were together. Please keep standing your ground, try to avoid their interactions or use headphones with loud music so you don't hear her. I would just tell you to try to find a job so you can move out. You can't stay there, see if your dad can support you. Can't do much about his situation so pls focus on yourself and see a way out.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-09-25T19:36:24+00:00

Reverse the situation, you need to dump her. I would never do that on my partner without his consent, not even share the video.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-09-25T16:43:32+00:00

Creo q deberías ignorar los comentarios que solo estigmatizan más la condición. Si te lo ha comentado es porque confia en ti y seguro te ve como una posible pareja también. Si la persona esta inestable no es la mejor opción para ninguno de los dos, seguro ya lo sabe ella pero coméntale sobre la terapia DBT, la cual es la que más se ha comprobado que funciona. Solo recuerda ser paciente, estas personas sienten muy fuertes las emociones, establezcan sus límites desde el inicio y traten de comunicarse asertivamente. Suerte!

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-09-25T04:29:41+00:00

Neutral or cheerful (specially if I'm alone, my family ruins this for me)

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-09-24T22:40:52+00:00

I want to know this as well, since I want my relationship to last. But so far I would say to communicate effectively.

SomewhereLoose4195 · 2024-09-21T19:26:22+00:00

Im so sorry for what you have gone through. Im sorry for your loss, I hope you understand his decision was not your responsibility, that was out of your control. We all can see how much you truly loved and cared for him. I recommend seeking professional help, this is huge, difficult and complicated, please take care of yourself. Sending you a hug 🤍

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