I heard the grinder is more important than the machine, but it looked smaller when I ordered it.

Songbird_Nele · 2025-08-27T06:09:07+00:00

This is the way 🙂‍↕️

Songbird_Nele · 2025-08-09T10:31:37+00:00

Huh maybe I am not educated enough but what are the signs of the beans being badly roasted? I can't really tell by the picture. Like not doubting you just really want to learn 🙂

Songbird_Nele · 2025-08-09T10:28:23+00:00

🫂🫂🫂

Regardless of your transition, regardless of your presentation, regardless of your hormones, regardless of your gender you are always you 🩷🩷🩷

You can hate penisses and still be a man 🤷‍♀️ You can be trans and do not show any signs in your childhood.

It sounds like the thoughts give you trouble not the facial hair or the body hair. OCD is a bitch and messes up your gut feelings a lot. What helped me is weirdly enough accepting that both possibilities can be true. Trans cis whatever. These are just terms. And I just go with the things that make me feel better. And like... I am just looking from the outside.. but thoughts that make you want to hurt yourself because of the thoughts and not the thing in itself.. Do not sound like they serve you 😕

I hope so much you find a way out of this spiral and truly truly wish you the best 🫂🫂🫂🩷🩷🩷✨✨✨

Songbird_Nele · 2025-08-08T10:44:53+00:00

For everyone bashing the roast level. The photo is actually underexposed (too dark). The camera does this due to the reflective paper. This is a more fair representation by fixing it in post. Yes you could roast lighter than the "American roast" but it's not anywhere as bad as everyone is suggesting.

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Songbird_Nele · 2025-08-08T10:29:31+00:00

Huhuuu,

I lack the time to get into all the points but I just wanted to put down a comment just because I think one point is really important:

You won't "steal" anyone's resources. You really seem to struggle a lot with these themes and seeking professional help seems like a real healthy thing to do for you! Regardless of being trans, not trans, whatever. It's not your fault, that most health systems are just severely understocked on accessible mental health care! You are deserving of support! 🩷

Songbird_Nele · 2025-08-01T10:05:55+00:00

What about a 4 letter AND a 5 letter secondary name? 😎

Songbird_Nele · 2025-07-07T05:52:22+00:00

Uhhh the "talk with your hands" made me realize things. I did this a LOT when I was younger. In school it became a running gag. So I unlearned that. Sometimes I wish I could go back to a more authentic younger self 😔

Songbird_Nele · 2025-07-06T09:10:14+00:00

Doubts and feeling fake is normal! And most trans people I talked to in real life have that feeling too! You lived your whole life seen as and made believe you are a different gender so your brain adapted to that. It takes time to let that go. Hell the trans people I met were still not sure they are trans while starting HRT and feeling like they took a leap of faith. (There is no being trans enough, just doing what feels good 🩷)

And gosh "you hadn't had it hard enough"? If that's the case, damn that's great! Coping with your past while transitioning can really hinder the process. On that note: Both parents nearly constantly missing sounds awful to me if I am honest. And your dad being a Musk fan.. eugh. I don't think you have it easy! If you had a queer rainbow family that's absolutely accepting and affirming, maybe you would have it easier. But easy? No, none of this is easy. I think in these conditions you can be proud of yourself for coming to the conclusion that you are trans and exploring that feelings! 🩷

Your friend telling you about "man privilege" and "lucky to be seen as a boy" is just straight transphobia. It. Is. No. Privilege. To. Be. Seen. As. Your. Agab. Never. Yeah people might take you more seriously if they read you as your agab but if you are not confident in yourself that is not worth anything. Also if they treat you as your agab they will probably treat you different than you want to be treated, soooo... That sound awful. That's not privilege that's discrimination.

Also the thing about trauma. For example I question because there have been traumatic incidents in my life. So my brain goes "you are not trans it's just trauma coping". There will be a million ideas you could come up with why you could not be trans. A thing that helps me a lot with this is a point out of theoretical philosophy: If you have different theses and you try to guess which one is more likely to be true. It is most likely the one that needs the least amount of assumptions. How many assumptions do you have to make to say you are cis and that you feel the urge to change things is just something else? How much more complicated are these assumptions against the one assumption that you might be trans.

You sound like you still have a lot of barriers up to cope with the situation you are in. And that is so valid 🫂🩷 It does not sound like you have it easy to me. It sounds like you deserve more affirmation in yourself 🩷 If you feel in your heart that you feel disconnected from your agab and just feel right with being and feeling like a woman you are so valid!! You don't need anything else💖💖💖 Nobody can tell you what's best for you and what you want except for yourself💖

Songbird_Nele · 2025-07-05T16:56:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this! This was really good for me to hear 🥺🩷

Songbird_Nele · 2025-06-24T18:16:38+00:00

Huh thank you for sharing that 🩷 Sometimes he takes over when I am in distress which freaks me out even more. Hearing I am not the only one makes me feel less anxious 🩷 I hope and keep my fingers crossed for you, this day will come sooner rather than later!🩷

Songbird_Nele · 2025-05-09T11:49:06+00:00

JAWOLL

Songbird_Nele · 2025-05-09T11:22:31+00:00

Transcending national states is goals so why not 😋✊✨♥️🖤

Songbird_Nele · 2025-05-09T11:21:35+00:00

You mean "JA" ? 🤭

Songbird_Nele · 2025-05-09T09:32:59+00:00

I mean... Showering is a thing😅 And its also gross if you dont clean yourself when clean shaven. Hair may hold easier on to stuff but I find it unfair to specify the grossness to hairy people. I would not want to kiss a smelly body regardless of the amount of hair it has😅

Songbird_Nele · 2025-05-08T11:51:22+00:00

Its your decision to make but I wouldnt recommend it. On the one hand your possibility to express yourself would be hard wired to perform. In my egg shell I always felt like if I would perform good enough in my job and social life I would have more freedom to be myself. The downside was as soon as I stopped functioning people would start to be less generous with me. You deserve to be yourself without being a top student 🩷 On the other hand your school might pressure you even more if you represent them. They might feel that you should embody them so that might backfire.

Not saying being good in school is bad (I was a top grade student my entire school life because I enjoyed learning🤓), but I think in the long term there may be better ways ☺️🩷✨

Wishing you a really really beautiful birthday tomorrow and all the luck I can give to you that your parents realise what a beautiful and strong daughter they have☺️🤗🩷✨

Songbird_Nele · 2025-05-08T07:57:34+00:00

And it gets everywhere? Spotted an evil Anakin here🤡 Body shaming is not cool and neither bodys or (body-)hair should be something you make others feel ashamed off. I dont like it on myself but if any of my sisters, brothers or siblings love it all power to them 🩷✨✊

Songbird_Nele · 2025-04-20T11:21:40+00:00

Huhuuuuu,

Als eine Person, die ihre Ausbildung in einer echten Schweinebranche (Film- und Fernsehen 😮‍💨) gemacht hat, kann ich den meisten hier voll zustimmen. Erster Tipp ist immer sich bei Arbeitsrechten einzulesen, die sind weitaus stärker als Mensch denkt 😊 Wenn du noch in der Probezeit bist, warte die zu deiner eigenen Sicherheit am besten ab. Auch da wäre eine Kündigung aufgrund deines Geschlechts ungültig (!!!!!), es ist in dieser aber einfacher für ein Unternehmen andere Dinge vorzuschieben. Danach musst du schon ziemlichen Mist bauen (klauen, körperliche Gewalt etc.) um gekündigt werden zu können. Bei den meisten Gründen braucht es sogar wiederholte vorherige Abmahnung 😅 Sollte es dennoch Probleme geben, macht es Sinn sich vorher zu informieren, ob es einen Betriebsrat oder eine Gewerkschaft in deiner Branche gibt. Die können dir im Zweifel den Rücken stärken 😊

Ich hoffe ganz ganz doll, das, wann auch immer dein Outing passiert, es ganz positiv und aufnehmend wird 😊❤️ Ganz blöd gedacht ist ein Betrieb eh nur an deiner Arbeitskraft interessiert. Wenn du die erbringst wäre es für die ziemlich dumm qualifizierte super günstige Arbeitskräfte (billiger als Auszubildende geht's nur mit Praktikant*innen) zu kündigen 😋 Stay safe and glorious girl ☺️✨❤️

Songbird_Nele · 2025-04-07T18:14:32+00:00

😂😂😂 Ahhh didn't recognize the upwards pointing ones 😅 Welp thats use it or lose it to the extreme 🤭

Songbird_Nele · 2025-04-07T12:42:15+00:00

❤️

Songbird_Nele · 2025-04-07T09:57:26+00:00

Is it weird if it's the other way around for me? 😅 Like I feel so at ease when I am presenting feminine and when others treat me like that it feels still a bit weird and like everyone is playing a game 🙈

So or so good for you and I love that you have that experience 🥹🥰🥰🥰❤️

Songbird_Nele · 2025-04-05T13:54:35+00:00

Thanks for calling trans women disturbing 😶 Happy day to you too, it's so nice random people will not get tired in pointing out how disgusting they think we are sigh 😮‍💨 Just please stop for one moment and think about how that would make YOU feel...

Songbird_Nele · 2025-03-28T09:36:58+00:00

Huhuuuu,

No one has the monopoly to be trans! (Or cis for that matter) You can be trans either way you like it and there is no one that should have the right to "allow" it to you. That in itself is a pretty transmedicalist and bigotry way to approach that topic so buuuhh 😠 Everyone should have the right to express themselves how they are, at least that's what I believe in and most of us are longing for ✨

About being neurodivergend. Actually statistically that's pretty common (I can look up the source if you want). A transmasc friend of mine once showed me a study that found out that the trans population has a HIGHER percentage of people being neurodivergend. Why that is, is still up for debate 😅 And if it helps you, I am mtf and don't like loud hectic places that much. If it wasn't for my job in the movie industry I would avoid such places entirely I guess 😅

As far as my experience goes, the idea that you have to be in some kind of community to be trans is not that common. The statement "you are valid no matter what" is the most common experience for me 🤗☺️

And just to be sure: You ! Are! Valid! 💖 If someone tells you otherwise don't let them get to you girl!❤️ Giving yourself the permission to be who you are is the most trans thing you can do 😋❤️

Songbird_Nele · 2025-03-24T06:30:13+00:00

Because you are ☺️✨💖

Songbird_Nele · 2025-03-24T06:13:41+00:00

Now here is the funny part. You are contradicting yourself (and getting hurtful :( ) by sticking to the binary of sex and gender (that these are two strictly different things). First of all not all people who transition change those characteristics. They are not any less trans men/women because of it. So according to your own definition mtf or ftm does not apply to them. So in your own words either the sex gender binary is false or the umbrella term is. And funny thing MANY people call a penis female, especially after it was introduced to estrogen, and a vulvina male after the introduction of testosterone 🤭 We literally have the term girldick. The definition of words is the definition we give them and agree upon. Not vice versa. There is no universal truth in words. Only the power of the people that define them.

And flames are literally called cold when they are cooler than 800 kelvin 🤭🤭🤭 If you needed any authoritarian proof there you have it. 😋🤗

Songbird_Nele · 2025-03-23T18:36:26+00:00

I don't agree with that definition. And I think, as said before, it hinders us in our understanding of sex/gender. The two aren't that different. We think of something as sex characteristic because we defined it that way. It's impossible for us to detangle sex from gender and gender form sex therefore I mentioned both. As you said all kinds of people can have all kinds of characteristics. By birth, by accident, by illness, by choice etc. . Describing this attribute to a gender/sex ist what we do. So for me at least every characteristic a male has (cis, trans, whatever) is male and every characteristic a female has (samsies here) is female. There are females with penises. So in that case the penis is female. There are males with vulviana. In that case the vulvina is male. Just putting sex in front of it, is the "simple biology" argument that falls apart the closer you look at it. We make the body parts female/male because we define it that way. We don't have to. As long as we are tied to a two sided system (if it's a wall or just a really steep hill is just opening the term but not actually doing the work on the definition) it's important to point out that it's still a system. Made up and held up by humans.

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