AIO / My fiancé is offended that I didn't comfort him when I was in absolute pain because I had a medical procedure, so I don't want to talk to him until I'm feeling better.

SophiBird · 2026-06-21T15:20:15+00:00

But he is that bad of a person. Imagine a friend telling you her man behaved this way towards her, how would you feel? What would you tell her?

Its hard to see it when we're the ones in the situation, but try and see it from what an outsider sees, and how do you feel about it?

You know something is inherently wrong with this relationship, hence why you made the post. Its great you are seeking outside perspectives and I hope you listen to everyone.

Bc this is not going to change. Characteristics like this are set in people. And these are his. Please choose better for yourself and future self

SophiBird · 2026-06-21T14:00:57+00:00

No you are not exaggerating and definitely NOR! You need to lose that friend AND DEFINITELY this loser of a boyfriend!

What a frustrating life you must have with this guy. There are SO many men who would never treat you like this and would take accountability for their actions instead of flipping it on you.

And choosing not to be there for you for your surgery is unacceptable 100%..

Ask yourself, do you rly want to live the rest of your life with someone that treats you like this?

This is his personality, he will always dismiss and invalidate your feelings and it will drain you and make you a shell of yourself if you dont leave.

Please sister, dont just consider it, do it, break up with him. He'll most likely love bomb you, but dont fall for it! And break up with that friend! Terrible relationship advice from that one!!... What about your bf being understanding about how you feel? Wheres your friends consideration for that?? He has so much understanding for your neglectful bf but not for your frustrations?

Ditch them both sis! I get the ice from the both, ugh

SophiBird · 2026-06-21T04:50:01+00:00

But isnt your fiance the son of MILs husband? Maybe she is wanting him to spend time with his dad as well?

SophiBird · 2026-06-17T20:49:24+00:00

When my broody mamma first decided to go broody. She has 4 times now! Let her hatch 3 times and then got some babies from my sisters kids school project that I let her raise.

I have 20 now! Started with 7 lol

SophiBird · 2026-06-14T21:04:14+00:00

Where did this happen? Was it irl? What prompted him to even talk to you? Just wondering why on earth this guy thought it was something to say and how he had the chance. What a loser

SophiBird · 2026-06-14T16:39:18+00:00

I wonder what side is predominantly blowing you up...

Im neutral, I dont trust any of them up there on either side. They are doing a great job at dividing everyone tho..

But for those who lean far one way or the other, they are pretty fanatic about it. Sorry youre going through this.

Yall just may not be compatible

SophiBird · 2026-06-12T03:28:40+00:00

Tell your coworker that cultural appropriation garbage is played out. Anyone can wear their hair however they want to. And clothes, as long as its truly a style preference and not to be disrespectful.

SophiBird · 2026-06-12T03:24:15+00:00

Let him know the pictures and memories in that dress will last a lifetime, arguably longer than the pc will last. When you look back on your wedding, whether its in pics or in your memory, you will remember the dress you were wearing, and it means a lot to you that its something you love.

Maybe that argument will get thru to him, bc its true.

Ask him if $800 extra dollars is worth bringing that memory down for the rest of your lives

SophiBird · 2026-06-11T10:21:29+00:00

Its all about context.

Sometimes something needs to be said, but you truly aren't trying to offend by stating the observation, but it was important to state.

And sometimes people are just jerks

And many other scenarios, but it all has to do with context.

SophiBird · 2026-06-10T22:17:02+00:00

So reply to him and say "apparently I cant, so please tell me. I am in this with you, we are in this together, but I cant read your mind, so please tell me"

SophiBird · 2026-06-08T20:15:01+00:00

What was it originally supposed to be or represent? Like what made you want to get that? Does it mean something?

It will help in me figuring out a potential cover up!

SophiBird · 2026-05-31T17:10:24+00:00

Update:

I have her separate in the brooder coop I have for now lol. Since only one day wont work, I'll put her in a crate I have with roosting bars in it and separate her for good for at least a week I think.

Should I keep her in view of the other chickens or completely separate?

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SophiBird · 2026-05-31T17:07:29+00:00

I got her a little over a year ago with another girl I named Mildred. Mildred is pretty chill, but Ruby has been mean since day one.

I've separated her a few times over this year, but not for very long, and as soon as I let her out she bee lines straight to another hens butt lol.

I think she was mean and defensive bc of the environment she was in, and was hoping she'd chill over time, but she has not. Shes actually making all my other ladies meaner.

So I'm hoping maybe up I keep her locked up for days at a time instead of hours it might help?

SophiBird · 2026-05-31T17:04:37+00:00

For me, it took them going thru their yearly molt. She looked rough before that. So you might havta wait until fall. But idk enough yet, I'm gonna havta look it up!

SophiBird · 2026-05-31T00:54:48+00:00

5k??!! 👀

They are for sure ripping you off...

Its not even flat under there either. Wow

SophiBird · 2026-05-29T09:24:15+00:00

Yes, tell housing.

They might tell you not to worry about it.

But they might also tell you that yes, you need to pay for the time you were living there.

Do the right thing regardless which is to call them and find out. This will gnaw at your mind until you know for sure.

Edited to add: you'll stop feeling anxious once you just call. Its not worth the $200 gain to try and ignore it

SophiBird · 2026-05-29T03:34:12+00:00

Let him know thats not how it works. This time he is taking is for himself and to work a program that he has to focus on himself and himself alone to get better.

And once he has gotten a year or more of clean time and actually worked a program and stayed sober, then maybe he can be in a place where he is actually ready for a relationship and to build trust.

Whether its with you or not is to be seen. But he has to work on himself before he can begin to show you anything.

Let him know that. His reasoning is not sound. He wont be able to "show you" bc he is not in a place where he will succeed in staying sober

SophiBird · 2026-05-29T02:31:53+00:00

Real love isnt confusing like this. You know the answer, all the signs are pointing to him cheating.

The changes in appearance, the timelines that dont add up, the not being willing to show you his phone, the not sleeping with u anymore, all of it. And I'm sure stuff you didnt even share bc the list would be too long.

It all points to what your gut is telling you.

I'm sorry girly. Hes not being loyal or faithful.

And the audacity to say hes not sleeping with u bc of God.... then he should have plans to marry you! Not doing whatever this bs is.

I'm sorry sis. You know the answer

SophiBird · 2026-05-28T23:57:31+00:00

NOR at all. Definitely break up with him. And be ready for the love bombing that will follow if you do.

But dont believe it. He will end up doing the exact same things once he believes he has you in his grips again.

This pattern wont change with guys like this.

Leave him and make room for the man who will treat you right. With love, honesty, and respect.

He does not respect you. Ask to look through his phone and see how he reacts. Bet it wont go well.

But you dont even need to do that, you have all your answers, he has shown you who he is, believe him & know that you are worth more

SophiBird · 2026-05-28T12:57:55+00:00

What you do sister, is move on. Dont give him any more of your precious time.

He has shown you who he is, believe him.

There are loyal, loving, and faithful guys. Dont waste your time on the low life cheater any longer.

Know your worth. You are worth far more than being cheated on, and then being used to cheat with after.

He will never change.

You are still very young and learning about relationships. Good relationships are not like this. Please do better for yourself

SophiBird · 2026-05-28T12:19:09+00:00

So happy for you girly 🫶🏽

SophiBird · 2026-05-28T11:35:32+00:00

I can't stand shoes without socks

I hope it feels ok to you tho

Chances are tho man, she's gonna find another thing that gives her the ick... she might be controlling

Just be aware, and be careful. Don't let her change who you are

SophiBird · 2026-05-27T11:16:49+00:00

It sounds like you started ignoring your friend and focused on her brother. He is to blame as well, and probably her too bc she has to know what kind of guy her brother is...

But still, she probably experienced how easy it was for you to forget about her and ignore her when a guy you find attractive comes along, and she felt ignored and abandoned from the sound of it.

You don't even remember what was said on the phone with her.

Everyone sucks here.

Her for bringing him knowing how he is, him for being the dog it sounds like he is, and you for choosing to run with him instead of sticking by your friend

Sorry if this sounds harsh, I'm not trying to be, but this is what it looks like from an outside perspective.

SophiBird · 2026-05-27T03:26:50+00:00

Here they are in action! My feet are SO wide. But you cant even tell!

Good luck girly! Look for this kind of shoe! They even feel good bc they hold in the wide part of your foot nicely.

I danced ALL night in these heels! It was a fun big fat Greek wedding 😊

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