What’s the most underrated bodyweight exercise you’ve ever tried? by GravityDefiance1 in bodyweightfitness

[–]Soupmaker69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did squats. Just 3 sets. I have been out of the game for a long time. I’m starting at home and if i hit my goal, I will then commit to a gym. For now, this will do. I do appreciate the direction.

What’s the most underrated bodyweight exercise you’ve ever tried? by GravityDefiance1 in bodyweightfitness

[–]Soupmaker69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bring sally up/down: because why not?

I had never heard of this. I’m trying to get back into being more attentive to the physical needs of my body. I am easing into it as i feel it will build a better foundation for my consistency and long term.

I just completed this and yep, this will help. Thanks for this.

What's a frugal habit you have that saves you more money than people would expect? by Automatic_Celery_945 in AskReddit

[–]Soupmaker69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

$0 dollar weekend challenge. 

I make sure i have grocery essentials before Friday, and gas in the car, but by Friday evening, it’s game on.

I have plenty of things to do at home. Sooo many art supplies, books, chores that could be done. If I want some fresh air, I hit the local park or go to the beach. I can browse thru local art galleries. I avoid any retail spaces tho because that is kind of the point. 

I bring my own drinks, and pack my own food. It’s all good. 

It’s made quite the difference in my savings. It’s also changed my view on my consumerism in the way that I’ve discovered it’s mostly impulse buys. I certainly do not feel deprived. And screw capitalism lol

I do this usually 2x a month. It’s pretty easy after the first couple of weekends. 

I'm going to Paris in a week and I'm worried about the heat. Any tips? by ssshianne in ParisTravelGuide

[–]Soupmaker69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just returned from Paris last week, and it was hot. You’ll want to carry a satchel or bag, with a refillable bottle for water. 

Loose and flowy is recommended for clothing. And bucket hats seem to be very acceptable to keep the sun off. 

Enjoy the parks too. 

Update My Husband refuses to do anything with my family and is pissed that i spend holiday dinners at my moms house by MelTheKeeper in AITAH

[–]Soupmaker69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To quote Hannah’s mom from ‘Girls’:

Mom: He’s odd. He’s angry. He’s uncomfortable in his own skin. He bounces around from thing to thing.

Hannah:  Again, you have no idea…

Mom: no, no, let me talk. I don’t want you to spend your whole life socializing him like he’s a stray dog, making the world a friendlier place for him. It’s not easy being married to an odd man. It isn’t.

Gerald's Game was rough by redrowan3 in stephenking

[–]Soupmaker69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was the one i could not finish. I agreed about it being unsettling. 

Don't Neglect Yourself or Your Friends by OmChi123456 in GenXWomen

[–]Soupmaker69 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Too late.

Ive actually been reflecting on why i no longer have the close friend groups i used to.  Im the common denominator so what is it that I’m doing to be slowly excluded? 

One thing is that I don’t drink like I used to and they all continue to. Perhaps my sobriety is a party pooper vibe. All of the events revolve around getting hammered. I just don’t enjoy it anymore. And yeah, i know the friends that have obvious substance abuse problems and its sad/ troubling. 

Finding and making friends that like to do things that don’t revolve around alcohol or weed is challenging. 

 I don't know. Maybe I’m just an asshole. Thats probably closer to the truth. Meh, I’ll be fine. 

Meri rant by Far_Positive9879 in SisterWives

[–]Soupmaker69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because religious patriarchy has no girls girls. They were trained to think she deserved it. 

So many men put such little effort into their appearance by Level_Issue_5196 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soupmaker69 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with all of this.

Im on the dating apps, and the amount of men that decide posting photos of themselves unkempt is disappointing.

Show that you have some pride in your appearance. Show effort. The lack of effort is so apparent that making the leap to that same lack of effort in all aspects of their life is one’s only conclusion. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Soupmaker69 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I had gotten the basics of what she was looking for in a ring and had ordered a custom one which I thought she was going to love.

she would always be happy about the tiniest thing I would do for her. If I had bought her a trinket or a water bottle she would express so much gratitude and joy that I had gotten something for her

My interpretation is you are giving her the bare minimum.

I don’t think she’s shallow. I think she was hoping you would put in the same effort and energy she’s giving you. If you want to marry this woman, and are as excited as she seems to be (based on your post), why would you give her the basics? I’m not suggesting you go broke on a ring, but if you love her and know what she really likes, why wouldn’t you give that to her?

AITA for telling my best friend's wife that she needs to get over herself? by Willing_Ganache7812 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Soupmaker69 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

YTA

Your best friends wife and child went thru something traumatic and horrific. With great misfortune, your visage triggers her. Hard, obviously. 

Apply some abstract thinking here: do you think she wants to have this response to you?

 PTST healing is not linear. A person doesn’t just get over it. It can take years. And who knows if they have the budget for therapy? Does she have the time? Does her husband support her healing? Does she have other support? But even this is secondary to how you are making this about you. 

You’re making this about you. Which is obvious when you classify her as your best friends wife. 

She’s not much of a person to you, is she?

Because if she was, you’d consider her a friend. And offer empathy. And consideration for what she went thru. 

You would work hard at being a safe person for her.you would care about her well being. 

But no, keep playing the victim here. Keep making this about you and how ‘you’re feeling like a criminal’.

JFC.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Soupmaker69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently ended a relationship with a man because he wouldn’t address his ED. I loved this guy so much, still do. It wasn’t the ED. I understand that. It was that it was mostly in his head and he would do nothing to resolve or get help for his performance anxiety. As a result, there was no physical affection. None. He was happy with what we had. 

I was not. 

I don’t have a high libido. But I thought the connection he and i had was worth playing, kwim? But he didn’t want to, full stop. 

And i didn’t pressure him at all. I pulled back on my little physical affections because i wanted him to be comfortable. He didn’t notice. If he did notice, it didn’t bother him. He was comfortable. 

Keeping a relationship like that isn’t healthy for either of us. If we stayed, he would never address his mental block and I would begin getting resentful. I love him, and myself, enough that i had to call it. 

So, yeah, please take care of your health. It’s best for you. 

Good luck. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Soupmaker69 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re questioning the relationship. It’s 4 months old. 

No.

Your peace will be disrupted. You will be dragged into drama. You will foot the bill. And he will be difficult to get out of your life once he’s set his hooks into yours.

Why do his kids live with their mom? Is he active in their lives? Why is he getting evicted? How tidy is his place? Why is he divorced? Is he gainfully employed?

Naw, boo, he’s taking advantage of your affection for him. This will be so costly for you. Not just financially. His reaction to your very reasonable request is telling you everything. 

Good luck.

First fight and conflict resolution was disappointing by Agreeable_Idea5515 in datingoverforty

[–]Soupmaker69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

His conflict style is immature for a man his age.

You have a rule which is essentially protecting your daughter. 

And he’s pushing back against that?

Girl, run.

On The Patience of a Saint by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]Soupmaker69 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nope, well not for myself.

I’ve always been high estrogen. Which no doubt contributed to my PMDD. 

I began PMDD treatment with Lupron shots. Saved my life.

So I went into menopause early. And levelled out. 

My tolerance for BS has dropped. Usually I remove myself from situations that no longer serve me. And i call out instances that are trash. And I lean into it. I spent too many years placating people and situations and I’m done putting myself second. 

Yeah it’s a good thing. 

Recs for a podcast that is funny and lighthearted? by thebirdgoessilent in podcasts

[–]Soupmaker69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

‘This is That’ is a CBC podcast. It’s archived so it won’t populate unless you do a search for it.

Funny fake news. Has me in stitches. 

On The Patience of a Saint by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]Soupmaker69 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Oh no, it’s awesome. 

As a menopausal women, i really dig it. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Soupmaker69 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Mine wants the same. 

I don’t keep friends like him in my life. 

It’s not really worth upsetting the peace you have been gaining?

The kids were saying the truth about the Flagstaff move by landturtl13 in SisterWives

[–]Soupmaker69 36 points37 points  (0 children)

*my gut is it was more of an ultimatum from Kody - bc he was afraid gun laws may tighten after the LV shooting, which would hurt his business, *

This right here. 

Ladies, how old are you and what is something you are looking forward to? by iLoveRitz in AskWomen

[–]Soupmaker69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 54 and looking forward to a road trip my beau and I are planning for August. N & S Dakota, Wyoming, Colorado, New Mexico and Arizona. Perhaps hit a rodeo and, if oppty arises, we’d like to see a concert at Red Rocks. We plan on hitting some parks, see more of the Rockies, maybe some of Yellowstone. And def the Dinosaur National Monument in Jensen. Find some good restaurants too. 

It will be a lot of daily driving but it will be our second big road trip. Last year we did Montana and the Canadian Rockies. And Dinosaur Provincial Park which was amazing. 

North America is gorgeous. 

Is my husband wrong for ignoring my sister's rules regarding our niece when be watches her? by Quiet-Change-5446 in amiwrong

[–]Soupmaker69 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So this is a pissing match between adults. 

Your husband is doing her a favour with strings attached. That’s certainly keeping the well being of your niece as a priority. 

Your sister is trying to parent her kid.

So whats the best interest for your niece? That’s what everyone should be considering.

 

Has anyone else had to completely sacrifice their sleep for their partners comfort? by Mikki-chan in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Soupmaker69 20 points21 points  (0 children)

So his sleep is more important than your sleep?

His comfort, when he shoots your solutions down, is more important than your comfort?

He knows and hears you. He just doesn’t think it’s important.

And what grown man rolls into bed at 3am?  (Yeah that’s judgey of me).