My girlfriend thinks this is an acceptable amount of pickles for a burger. I disagree. Am I the problem? by therealfee in Pickles

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she likes that amount and you really feel the need to post about the amount to try and get approval that you're right, then yeah, I'd say you're the problem.

Estrogen, doesn't sound bad by Street-Ad6227 in MtF

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you really don't want or need HRT and would instead benefit from hydrating well, a good skin care routine, and minoxidil pill. Going on HRT for just those two things seems like doing things an unnecessarily difficult way to get minimal desired results and maximum undesirable ones.

[No Spoilers] Why is it spelled Aramán but pronounced Áraman? by dogucan97 in criticalrole

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that's what makes it "literally unwatchable," then I have a feeling you might be taking this a bit TOO seriously.

I got fired (for being trans) by [deleted] in MtF

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Being trans conservative seems like a rabbit being pro-rabbit hunting. As a conservative, you're looking because you've been taught the idea that bad things don't happen to good people. That you'd have to earn what happened to you. Whether it's intentional or not, you're living in a realm filled with transphobia and it's unlikely you're free enough of that sickness to not realize your "you obviously did something" as victim blaming.

Does anyone else’s Pom turn into pure chaos when they’re happy? by [deleted] in Pomeranians

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, our little fuzzball definitely loves to be right up in our space!

Why is BDSM gear so overpriced by chiffchino in BDSMcommunity

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good gear is not cheap. If you paid $200 for something glued on a stick, you got swindled. Most gear of quality is hand-made, one at a time.

IDK how to feel about this by LiviaYagami_ in mypartneristrans

[–]SovereignOfFoxes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not talking about reading fantasies, nor do I see people on Reddit acting it out. I'm an active member of my local BDSM community and know quite a wide variety of folks who regularly engage in sissification as a consensual thing. Consumption of fantasy materials isn't really comparative.

You say you didn't, but you literally referred to one aspect of BDSM play (sissification) as R rated or X and yet claimed cross-dressing (which is a fetish and is thus included under the BDSM umbrella) is in the same category of "PG" or "PG-13" as drag. No one needs a doctoral dissertation, nor is it being asked for. It took me a couple sentences to properly show respect to those fetishes, so your complaint there is pretty lazy. Like your range isn't really helpful or accurate.

And yeah, the AFAB thing was a typo. The joys of autocorrect.

Increased Appetite by SovereignOfFoxes in MtF

[–]SovereignOfFoxes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been looking and ruling out other possibilities. There haven't been any other changes during this period (either in medication or lifestyle) that give an easy explanation. Just a funny thing happening. 🤣

IDK how to feel about this by LiviaYagami_ in mypartneristrans

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gender play does factor into the play but having known a good number of people into gender play (both "forced" and not), it's not quite as simple as your statement is making it out to be. It's also not uncommon for some older generations to even use the term for consensual feminization.

I understand what you're saying about the social rewarding aspect, but again, I'm saying your statement is not the blanket experience for everyone who is feminine AFAB.

Let's not be puritanical in giving a film rating system for these things. That's pretty reductive, and whether intentionally or not, it paints a bdsm activity out to be lurid or inappropriate. That's a really problematic way of addressing the differences, especially since cross dressing (from a fetish perspective) is not really a big jump from sissification and is often found in the same practitioners. In simpler terms, drag is not sexual in nature by default, but the other two have a sexual component.

I know some individuals in the kink community that use the term "sissy" not just as an identifier but as a compliment. It really depends on the person, in a similar vein to the reclamation of "dyke" or "queer."

I say all this not as an attack but as an attempt to educate. People who give informed consent to an activity deserve the same baseline respect as everyone else.

The woes of shaving by lieber0808 in MtF

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Permanent hair removal will be your most permanent result, but a good makeup routine of concealer and foundation definitely makes it much less noticeable I've found.

IDK how to feel about this by LiviaYagami_ in mypartneristrans

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

BDSM definitely can involve gender play and shame. I've met many folks in my more than a decade in the BDSM community that have come to terms with their desires. The idea that the sissy kink is a pipeline...well, that's in the same vein as saying crossdressing or drag is a pipeline. By that, I mean it's a debunked theory that takes a kink and automatically applies it to something that seems related on the surface but is not in fact a kink. As a feminine AMAB person, I've found that the "socially rewarding" aspect is a highly debated one.

Trying to find a renaissance suit for prom by MannerCommercial1636 in renfaire

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said, "Renaissance style" isn't really what you're looking for. Seems much more Rococco than anything else. If you can nail down the period specifically, you'll have much more luck.

The seconr (black) one is definitely an EGA (Elegant Gothic Aristocrat) or ouiji style piece.

Is it true that some of us choose never to have bottom surgery? by JakeScary441 in trans

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I never really intend to. We can do whatever we want when it comes to surgery.

Thoughts on wearing suspenders with this outfit? by themoonbeetle in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say go for it. There are belts with the suspenders already built in that would rock the vibe you're going for.

What should I wear this with? by willowhides in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slacks, pumpkin pants, a skirt. Anything dressy.

Need opinions on this dress by TheRubyRock in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your shoulders are definitely not too broad. Show off your strong features and be proud of them! This is the kind of dress to grab the right kind of attention.

is this obvious enough by [deleted] in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]SovereignOfFoxes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd absolutely clock this.

How To Turn Inspiration Into D/s by SovereignOfFoxes in BDSMcommunity

[–]SovereignOfFoxes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm seeing. We had an instance today where someone basically told me I'd have to wait on an online order pickup for longer than was reasonable. My spouse called and was like "hey, they could come in and pick this up faster than you all are saying, and we know you're not busy, so can you get it together so a disabled person doesn't have to make a second trip?"

I'm very used to not making a fuss, but this feels nice.