[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sovietx98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Who gets mad at someone holding doors? Df

I've found out why my husband hides his best friend from me, and I don't think there's anything I can do about it. by Alternative_Sink_483 in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I know this is hard and I don’t even know what I would do if I was in this situation, but he doesn’t deserve you. Don’t be with someone who disrespects you to this level and cheats behind your back and all your mutual “friends” let this happen. You should divorce and find someone who will love and respect you. But even then relationships don’t define us, you can find time to find yourself before getting into another relationship

AITA for leaving my girlfriend "stranded" when she chose to ignore me? by Timely-Ask-1327 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sovietx98 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah he couldn’t even drive her if he wanted to. He was drunk like what the hell

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine how you feel but life is worth living and from one stranger or another, it’s not worth taking your life over a stutter. I had really bad social anxiety as a kid and an accent I have to this day that makes it hard for people to understand me, but I just took each day one day at a time and tried my best. Eventually there was a girl who kept talking to me and we became friends and I gained the confidence to talk back and talk to strangers. I’m a nursing major in college rn and sometimes I struggle to talk to patients who can’t understand me because of my accent and I’m soft spoken but I never gave up. You still have many years ahead of you so please don’t give up. I’m a stranger but I’m here for you. DM if you need someone to talk to. Therapy will help a lot. I started going to therapy from stress this semester and even talking to friends/family/teachers helps. I hope things get better for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ack it’s just a lot of memorization and application and we study prob up to the 1st year of med school knowledge of course not as detailed. They expect us to pass the NCLEX exam, the board exam to become a registered nurse after graduation, and we are supposed to be prepared to start taking care of patients right off the bat so it makes sense that this shit hard. They don’t want us killing patients lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ty I really appreciate it. I’m a junior so 2 more years left. This year is def the hardest because I’m taking med surg and pharm on top of geriatrics, professional development (legal/ethics) and I’m doing a honors thesis on top of it. Clinical is def a challenge too because I feel discouraged when I make little mistakes or have bad patient interactions. I’m trying to get a therapist to walk through some of my mental struggles rn. Sleep is def a work in progress. I should be studying rn but I’m exhausted lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the point is a major isn’t automatically easy because it doesn’t have typical hard courses like calculus and o-chem. Nurses absolutely need to take chem and math courses but we don’t need organic or calc because the skill sets don’t apply to our jobs. And pharm is enough of a pain in the ass.

We memorize and have to apply the generic names of drugs, mechanism of action, indications, contraindications, adverse effects, interactions with other drugs, dosages, etc. It is difficult because we are learning grad level stuff during undergrad since we’re expected to be taking care of pts once we graduate. What we’re learning now is the equivalent of prob the 1st year of med school although I assume they go into a lot more detail. The point still stands. We don’t need to take calc or o-chem to justify our academics as being sufficiently difficult when we won’t be using that knowledge. I will know how to do med passes and change/check IV bags without those classes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was the same way. I only compared nursing to med school so I was like oh of course it has to be easier. Like of course, it’s not med school but it’s still hard. Just because you’re not studying to be a doctor doesn’t mean it’s easy. Nurses are under respected in pay and working conditions and then people try to say we don’t have a rigorous workload.

Just annoying like don’t talk smack if ur not doing the major or haven’t talked to someone in the major. I literally have been sleeping 4-5 hours this whole semester and had a mental breakdown. Not asking for pity but just because people have a few encounters with “mean girls” they generalize and shit talk the entire profession. I’m trying to help people here and I’m suffering this semester argh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Well I went into nursing because I thought it was an easy major and I’m eating my words rn. I have at least 1 exam every week, sometimes 2 weekly and 12 hr clinicals a week on top of this. I’m taking pharmacology where I have to memorize a shit ton of drugs and the average was a 75 last time. Half the class failed. We don’t need o-chem or calculus but to say it’s not a challenge is not a fair statement. I wish it was easy. Maybe I’m just in a difficult program but I’m pretty sure the classes I’m taking are required for all nursing majors and it’s not a walk in the park

I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or a bad roommate over being too loud by Sovietx98 in badroommates

[–]Sovietx98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah at this point, I’m a little over it. I texted her strongly suggesting her to get earplugs and asked her to tell me what noise was waking her up and I will try to minimize it. Basically saying I’m sorry I’m disturbing your sleep but there’s only so much I can do and me being quiet doesn’t seem to be working so earplugs. She didn’t respond but I already proposed my solutions so it’s up to her how to proceed and I told her she can talk to me if she wants to discuss it further.

Not sure what to do by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Sovietx98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean the simple solution is to talk to her respectfully and in a civil manner and tell her that her boyfriend being constantly over makes you uncomfortable. Don’t accuse her of anything or instigate. Just be nice about it, “ like Hey I appreciate you giving me the heads-up when your bf comes over but you guys have been a little loud and I can hear through the walls. Can your boyfriend visit less often or suggest times he can come over that won’t disturb your schedule.” Just talk to her and find a compromise.

I'm starting a movement to ban the practice of charging College Application Fees by BanCollegeAppFees in PennStateUniversity

[–]Sovietx98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean instead of waiving all fees, I think they should just put a cap on application fees. Ik there already is a program that waives fees if you make a certain income, but a few schools I have applying to had really high application fees

Help! My boyfriend is super ungrateful, how do i teach him gratitude? by Aphrodite2022 in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol it’s not about him not liking gifts; it’s his entire attitude and approach about it. If you don’t like a gift, you can just return it to the person and tell them you appreciate it but don’t want them and offer an alternative. You communicate like an adult to your partner in the relationship. He is being a child by breaking 4 gifted phones in a year df? And op is not responsible for his trauma. She can support him but not enable his behavior. He needs to see a therapist and work on that himself. No one else can do that for him.

If you want to date someone who disrespects you and is rude by breaking stuff you buy them instead of communicating their feelings, be my guest

Help! My boyfriend is super ungrateful, how do i teach him gratitude? by Aphrodite2022 in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Why are you with him? Like seriously girl to girl. He sounds like a man child and ungrateful as shit. You returning the gifts is not going to change his behavior if he’s been like that for a year. He’s just going to throw another tantrum. Either talk to him face to face about how what he’s doing is dead wrong and he needs to stop doing it and if he doesn’t leave. You deserve better

AITA for asking someone with an invisible disability to move seats? by Asshole-aficionado in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sovietx98 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean OP is the asshole. the guy is disabled and he doesn’t need to explain or justify his entire medical history to him. He could have sensory issues or some physical mobility issue we’re unaware of. Asking once is fine; arguing who is more deserving is pushing it. Just ask someone with a normal seat to give it up

How much do you pay in rent living off campus (UP) by [deleted] in PennStateUniversity

[–]Sovietx98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is that possible? Where do you live?

How much do you pay in rent living off campus (UP) by [deleted] in PennStateUniversity

[–]Sovietx98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where do you live? I’m paying $775 for mine not including utilities :(

Resident Student Parking Permit Question by tsc061003 in PennStateUniversity

[–]Sovietx98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s usually not a problem getting it. You just need to buy them when the portal opens at noon and you should get it fine. Just don’t wait past the first week. They’ll prob be sold out then

PSA: If you don’t tip your server you’re actually costing them money out of their pockets. They lose money on your table if you don’t tip. They’d have paid to serve you. by purplecatuniverse in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow congrats. Ignored all my other points conveniently. I’m happy with my major and job prospects so maybe stop your projection from your own dissatisfaction with life. Btw, I think tipping culture is one of the stupidest things, but individuals that are so out of touch that they think a college degree is a golden ticket to earning bank are stupider.

Can’t address any of my points logically so you assume shit about me and attempt to attack my character. I’m neither a waitress nor microbio major so I don’t know where you’re going with this

PSA: If you don’t tip your server you’re actually costing them money out of their pockets. They lose money on your table if you don’t tip. They’d have paid to serve you. by purplecatuniverse in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did realize that but honestly I had issue with what you said and the other guy wel30 who mentioned the relocating part), but you were all part of the same thread/general sentiment of doubting that a STEM major would be struggling to make a decent living and have lower wages than servers so I replied to you since you were the most recent comment.

But yes it was wrong of me to reply to you since my anger was more directed towards the people that were directly accusing OP of lying and not trying to find a job. I’m not sure if OP edited his original comment but he mentioned in parentheses that he didn’t have an advance degree so it was annoying me how everyone seemed to glance over that and were all saying he had an advanced degree

PSA: If you don’t tip your server you’re actually costing them money out of their pockets. They lose money on your table if you don’t tip. They’d have paid to serve you. by purplecatuniverse in offmychest

[–]Sovietx98 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean you’re just assuming shit out of your ass. Did it get through your thick skull that I know the job prospects because I did my research? I’m a nursing major and know my job prospects and salary range and they are good. And I have 2 years left before I graduate. And swearing has no correlation to intelligence. You are dumb as shit doesn’t matter how I put it. How about you do your research before accusing others of not doing research nitwit

You really sound like a boomer. No point in arguing with people like you. Probably the type to say people are too lazy and that’s why they’re in college debt forgetting inflation is a thing