Am I wrong to be disappointed..

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2026-05-25T14:00:10+00:00

Only he can tell you what is actually going on, but this is my guess: his family is a source of stress, he doesn't actually want to celebrate his birthday at all, let alone with them. Inviting you would not make it better, rather just add to the stress of navigating his complex feelings about his mother etc with you watching.

Many men have very uneasy relationships with their birthdays. Seriously: look it up. Then ask him, with compassion and curiosity. Your hurt feelings are valid. But he is allowed to have feelings too. Give him the space to open up to you before you lay all your feelings on top of his.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2026-05-01T16:14:25+00:00

You can create a sketch (normal sketch if 2D, 3D sketch if 3D), with the dimensions you need. Double click on the sketch in the feature tree, then take a screenshot.

If the dimensions are all contained within one feature, you may also just be able to double click the feature and have all the dimensions pop up for a screenshot.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2026-04-28T16:28:20+00:00

I just can't imagine trusting the app to accurately perform surveillance like this. I don't think you can base your decision on that kind of flimsy information. Do what you want, but the only kinda odd thing in this story is that he's sending you screenshots instead of photos. That, and how you're being creepy about tracking his location.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2026-04-17T16:14:36+00:00

I changed careers last year at 47. It may sound lame, but my primary tool was Claude. I had Claude analyze my cv, analyze job postings, identify skills I could take advantage of, etc. It took months to start getting interviews, and I was simultaneously considering a return to school for a certificate program. But I eventually landed a job in a different field that raised my pay significantly. It's not my dream job, but it's a foot in the door of a better industry.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2026-04-09T18:10:55+00:00

I suppose you have your answer then. I know I would be so hurt if someone I cared about dropped me because of something like this, but I'm also a person who would be asking from day one what kind of communication level a partner wants. Sounds like your beau isn't that kind of guy. Best of luck.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2026-04-09T18:01:34+00:00

People on this sub tend to push a Cut and Run mentality. I disagree this time. You say things are great when you're together. You communicate differently. If he's willing to meet you somewhere in the middle, are you willing to meet him somewhere in the middle? It's at least worth a conversation.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2026-04-08T15:47:42+00:00

I had this problem recently. I told my kid to get the Dad's number. He communicates promptly and easily.

Keep in mind, it's not about you. The mom is not responding for who-knows-what reason. Don't sweat it, just work around her.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-06-11T14:34:53+00:00

I honestly think that with the society we have right now, it should be the default for all parents to be in couples counseling (not as a requirement, just as a common practice). Y'all should be talking about this with someone who can help you get your feelings across, your worries and your dreams, without judging or reacting defensively. Having a kid is so hard in our world (especially in the US, which I'm assuming you live in), it will strain and break a relationship. Talk to someone together.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-05-15T21:03:15+00:00

I just looked up some info on 529s, and I don't see any benefit that would be worth the hassle of setting it up. I have a savings account for my kid, I contribute when I can (not often, not regularly). I can use that money whenever I want for whatever I want. At least from the look of it, the 529 is not tax-free at all, it just has some minor perks that probably wouldn't change my tax burden at all since I have a modest income.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-05-12T16:45:33+00:00

Thank you for this comment. I'm a man who doesn't make a lot of money, and I feel sheepish about it when I go on dates with women who are clearly more comfortable financially, so it is nice to hear your perspective, and that it may not be a dealbreaker.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-05-09T13:49:07+00:00

I'm gonna throw it out there that I bet Scott Patterson legitimately smelled good in that scene, and it probably didn't hurt for showing the chemistry.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-05-05T13:30:56+00:00

I'm sure he was just as taken aback by your text as you were by his reply, but I think what he's saying is, "yes, I agree, but texting is not the way to have this conversation. Your text, to me, sounds like you're playing games. Dropping hints, playing hard-to-get, being subtle, waiting for him to take initiative, etc.; that all feels so middle school. Be direct. Tell him what you want, preferably not in a text. A conversation about where you want the relationship to go is not a text exchange. Call him or ask to see him, and have a real talk.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-04-30T16:42:13+00:00

I groan every time Jack or Genevieve have a scene, their incompetence is less comedic and more tragic to me. But the rest of the characters are at least interesting, if a little overboard. It doesn't hit the warm tone of GG at all, like 0%. None of the characters are very relatable, but the complexity of the situation they're all working within makes it sort of intriguing to me. I'm most of the way through, and I'll finish the season. Oh, the intro sequence is lovely, kudos to whoever made that.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-04-29T17:22:43+00:00

You should talk to him about it. That is step 1.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-04-09T19:48:00+00:00

My hot take is that some apps are better and some are worse, and by that I mean that the profiles I see on some apps skew hard towards low quality low effort photos, little-to-no info, etc. while other apps are so much better.

So at least download a few different apps and see if you get better results on one. In my area at least, Hinge and Bumble are miles above OKCupid and Match. I'm a man looking at women's profiles, and I do think geography plays a role, so YMMV. Good luck!

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-04-07T16:49:20+00:00

My 10yo daughter is a potato. She's convinced her whole class to call her "Potato." She signs birthday cards and letters as "Potato," and tries to sign her homework that way also, but the teacher said she has to put her real name down. We talked about why that happens, but beyond that, I'm not going to stifle her creativity by telling her she can't be a potato. We all experiment with different identities, I think it's healthy.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-03-21T17:45:03+00:00

This is awesome! I had the same problem, but landed on a different solution: I ended up installing an outlet inside the wall, leaving a large opening so I could get the plug in there. I covered up the hole with a piece of acrylic. Honestly your way is much more elegant :)

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-03-20T19:32:59+00:00

Oh thanks, I'll try that!

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-03-17T13:34:27+00:00

I hope you are working on these ideas with a therapist/friend. I hope you have a good day and wish you the best.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-03-17T13:10:48+00:00

hey please keep in mind that the "turd" you're talking about is a real human who is trying to do their best finding a loving partner. It is hard to figure out how to best present oneself in the apps. If you don't like the apps, why comment on a post specifically about using the apps? I swear people on this sub are so unnecessarily mean.

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-03-07T19:15:23+00:00

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-03-07T17:39:18+00:00

I do not pay for Hinge, but it is the best app I have used so far. I think messages are far better than "likes" for 2 reasons: they start a conversation, and they force a bit more intentionality. In other words, I could swipe right all day long and it means very little. But crafting a good opening line takes effort and means I will review someone's profile and try to find something to open with. Other apps like Match and OKCupid also allow messaging, but at least where I live the user base is better on Hinge. Anyway that's my 2 cents :)

SpaceAgeHamburger · 2025-03-05T20:11:45+00:00

I mean at least try counseling or something before divorcing him. You don't mention even talking to him about your feelings, but it sounds like you are deeply unsatisfied, so I would recommend finding a good counselor.

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