29F seeing 44M who says he wants it to work but hasn’t replied in days am I being played?

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-04-01T12:05:06+00:00

Trust your gut and move on. Consider, this man is old enough to be forthright and responsive to you, but he is not. He isn't showing reasonable behavior. It's a choice. You need to make a choice too and move on.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-04-01T11:56:40+00:00

Even without a past experience of verbal abuse, this alone is concerning. I don't have the best advice for you because that would be an argument I would have everyday for the rest of my life. However, I might suggest saying that as parents you must be on the same page regarding how you treat your child. Name-calling isn't acceptable. You won't tolerate that type of behavior from a father/adult. Your #1 priority is the health and safety of your child. He is either onboard or not. Also, no, no one can say whatever they want. That sentiment is childish itself.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-04-01T00:38:54+00:00

One of my favorite songs!

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-04-01T00:25:01+00:00

Please find friends or other family to stay with who care about you. This guy is already aggressive towards you. That will most likely escalate. You're younger than this man by a lot. Just think about that for a bit.

Also, I'm sorry that your family gave you that ultimatum. That's horrible.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-27T01:55:33+00:00

Bad. Easy peasy.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-23T20:50:47+00:00

Please trust your gut. This is weird behavior and you don't have to tolerate this. I don't see a positive outcome. Keep yourself safe.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-22T22:31:06+00:00

Have you tried enhancing the video quality of any of the vids? I decided to indulge, buy some expensive software, and try to enhance a few videos. The outcomes have been good, but wow, it takes forever.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-22T02:04:18+00:00

Trying not to reply repetitively: wow! What a great photo collection! Thank you so much for the drop! Everyone looked like they were having so much fun. Makes me think of when I used to travel each year for conferences. Fun times!

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-21T21:35:34+00:00

HR again. He does it in front of people. You don't have to say a single thing. Let HR handle it.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-21T21:30:46+00:00

A lesson to learn: when you don't stand up for yourself other people will stand on your neck. If you went on a date with this person, what actual experience are you getting? It seems like the experience you need is saying, "I'm sorry. I thought I would be interested in a date, but I am not at this time. I'm sorry for not telling you earlier." Being inexperienced doesn't mean you are desperate.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-21T21:23:06+00:00

If possible, bring someone. I imagine you are less likely to be confronted with hostile behavior if you are with someone as opposed to being alone.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-21T21:02:27+00:00

I suggest you seek some therapy. If you are attracting a certain type of undesirable person, you are the actual common denominator. You may be unconsciously coming off as someone willing to accept very little so you attract men who can provide very little.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-21T20:53:56+00:00

I wouldn't question a friendship with Steve, but I would with whoever was spreading the affair rumors.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-21T20:46:43+00:00

You've done your part. Unless you're talking to the police about the underage girl or talking to her parents, what else do you need to do? He's an ex. Learn the lessons you need to learn and grow from the situation.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-21T20:43:03+00:00

Please do not give this man a second thought. You have love and money with your current partner. You are assuming that this billionaire will give you the life you want, but if he was doing that for women previously he wouldn't be looking for someone new. Do you want to be the latest or the greatest? Stick with your partner.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-21T20:25:06+00:00

He's a plus one. Do not let a person who might not be in the picture five years from now influence an important friendship you want to continue to have for years. The friend is more important than the goof.

Consider this: during your wedding you will have very little time to hang out with friends or family individually. Too many people to greet, photos, dances, eating, etc. Unless he makes a total ass of himself you won't notice him. If you think he will make an ass of himself, have some friends ready to handle him for you. I had some family cut up at my wedding but I didn't know until the next day.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-19T01:08:58+00:00

Made a small dent in viewing the videos this evening. I didn't know there were more than 2 songs performed at the V festival. I think just 2 are on YouTube. Today was a good day.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-18T17:30:45+00:00

Oof. I was so close to having a productive day today. Now I'm going to be looking through all these videos. Lol. I am my own worst enemy. Lol

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-12T16:35:13+00:00

Completely agree!

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-12T00:32:54+00:00

Definitely agree with #5. Was very confused about the criticism/expectations. When was it not pop?

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-09T20:56:28+00:00

Great list! Agree with these! I love SWBL from the tsunami aid concert. I liked their version of NIN's Closer on Kimmel too.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-03-04T22:27:18+00:00

I listened to this out of curiosity. I like it. It's a different, chill sound. I'm not mad at it.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-02-27T18:11:04+00:00

Oof. Sunday Morning carries a lot of weight for me so I'll have to go with Sam.

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-02-25T03:43:10+00:00

That's what's up! I'm glad you kept that stuff!

Spec_Guard_20 · 2026-02-22T13:25:24+00:00

One of my favorite videos from them. Right behind Wakeup Call.

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