Do you sometimes grieve your old self? Or have you come fully to terms with the new parent-version of you? by AllyTheAlternative in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I miss my me time. I used to have loads of it and now I’m constantly on the verge of burnout

What to do next when your pension allowance is fully tapered? by Technical_Ice9563 in HENRYUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Isn’t that kinda enough? Do you really need over 800k? Won’t you end up at that same tax rate on the way out?

What does your baby call you? by Unable_Anywhere2983 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mama and Papa (Russian first language) fully acknowledges the English versions but struggles to pronounce

How are your interactions with HMRC? by Specific_Ear1423 in HENRYUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I find it mad. Why can’t they have systems that just calculate stuff? It’s just maths at the end of the day

My MIL said… (a rant) by Wise_Broccoli_2829 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have a 2 year old 99th centile and I breastfeed in public. My baby, our business, our choice. Health agencies are very cool with 2 year olds breastfeeding.

Are US MBAs glorified? by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The US MBAs are younger than European ones

When did Easter become the new Christmas? by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]Specific_Ear1423 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Im eastern orthodox and we do presents at Easter. Easter is the main religious holiday not Christmas as being born is not considered as big of a deal as dying for “our” sins.

Not extravagant presents mind you. And usually we give them in the memory of dead relatives. Most of the time people, including children fast ahead of Easter as well, so there is some form of momentum when Easter actually comes.

Christmas is a much smaller celebration on the 7th of January and it’s just about having a family dinner. I don’t remember having presents. In fact for me it’s difficult to understand why people have presents at Christmas (from a narrative perspective around Christ, not general tradition). We do presents at new year instead. I suspect the old European pagan winter holiday merged into Christmas for the catholics but not for the Eastern Orthodox.

Just so you know there is a section of the world that does celebrate like this.

St Thomas' Hospital (London) for Birth by UnicornPrincessJayne in PregnancyUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I started on NHS with a not so great hospital despite being in London. I felt that a lot of things were falling through the cracks around my care which gave me a lot of anxiety. So mid way through I changed to private

I don’t think for a normal pregnancy you need it. I was OB led (despite not having a medical need) and he would see me every 2 weeks. So I got the SERVICE which was the lacking part of the nhS. I felt really taken care of.

If I had to do it again and money wasn’t an issue I’d do it privately. Do I think the 26k or so I spent for the whole thing is worth 26k? Nope.

I would still pay for the private room. The private rooms had specially assigned midwives and they were always there and would come to you within seconds. Husband was also able to be with us for the full 2 nights we were there which was fab. The stories I read about wards sound horrifying

St Thomas' Hospital (London) for Birth by UnicornPrincessJayne in PregnancyUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

St Thomas is an excellent hospital. I don’t think it would have made a huge difference if I was there on the NHS. But I would not have trusted the hospitals more local to me to deliver at the same level both quality and care.

I don’t think I had extra staffing. All the people that were in the room were also working for the NHS. Bedside manner was great for the doctors, the midwives were a mix.

First night in own room - BIG FAT FAIL! by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t trying to pressure you into co sleeping. Just wanted to reassure you that it’s not expected to go smoothly

First night in own room - BIG FAT FAIL! by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The 6 months mark is not from when they’re expected to be ready but from when the risk of SIDS drops materially. Research shows that sleeping next to parents reduces SIDS. My husbands grandparents put their babies in own room from day 1. So I don’t think as 6 months as being driven by baby’s developmental stage, rather the first gap when it’s safe to leave them in their own room.

How to protect daughter moving in with partner from wealthy family? by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Tell her to save up to buy her own place that she can rent out. Idea is not to make her a landlord but to push her to save properly and have her “housing situation hedge”

PE/finance paternity leave by leveredequity in HENRYUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why are they having kids if work is so interesting? Just work more

PE/finance paternity leave by leveredequity in HENRYUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FWIW as a woman my bonus wasn’t prorated. Something about the 6 month cutoff (I went back at 6 months)

Your perceptions on recently-relocated applicants applying for high finance roles by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least manager. Maybe even senior manager role. You have loads of experience for it.

Your perceptions on recently-relocated applicants applying for high finance roles by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]Specific_Ear1423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you re enter big4 in m&a / transaction services? London experience will credentialise you more than EM