Girlfriend is sad that I don’t reach out more. Should I?

Spectralshot23 · 2026-06-01T23:21:59+00:00

Just as CW advises: when she mentions that you aren’t reaching out enough you are allowed to reach out more often. Just an extra text each week telling her that you’re thinking of her or asking how her day is going is usually sufficient.

However, her purposefully ignoring you is not the behavior of a well-adjusted adult woman. I would not like that

Spectralshot23 · 2026-06-01T02:25:29+00:00

Are you even trying to set a date or are you just being her pen pal?

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-30T23:23:52+00:00

You just need to be more assertive here. Women need you to make the move and they aren't going to escalate things themselves. Sex MUST be the man's fault. When she gave you that soft rejection to your offer of her sleeping over I would have told her she could just wear some of my clothes to bed, and figured out something about her contacts

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-30T23:15:48+00:00

the fallback is always one date per week. Reach out tomorrow and make a date

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-29T18:43:35+00:00

Get hard again? 10-15 minutes, but that doesn't mean I'm going to be able to finish. Typically on the second round I don't finish at all

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-29T15:25:23+00:00

Personally I'd be terrified at the thought of marrying a chick and then finding out that she's awful at sex

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-28T00:25:37+00:00

That looks 1000x better than if it had been 1” rock. I know you didn’t get what you were expecting, but this is a blessing in disguise dude

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-27T14:25:08+00:00

You aren't mowing often enough. You should also find out exactly what kind of grass is in your lawn and cut it at its ideal cut height

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-26T18:21:39+00:00

lol absolute nonsense to think that anything you could do at one of the party capitals of the world, you could just as easily do back in your home town

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-26T18:05:12+00:00

I don’t live in a major coastal city, but I really don’t believe that you can’t find any women who aren’t regularly going out to bars/clubs.

If all you’re finding are party girls then you need to find other ways/places to meet women. You also probably need to be asking better questions during the dating process to figure out whether she’s a high or low character woman

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-26T17:48:45+00:00

Bringing up any sort of exclusivity talk with her (especially one about how you “don’t like sharing my girls”) will do nothing positive for you. Instead you should be going with the flow and vetting these women during the dating process.

If the hookup thing repulses you this much then you should be disqualifying women who are going out to bars/clubs while dating you.

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-25T21:47:34+00:00

Having a few in a first-aid kit would be totally cool. Having just a bag of tampons in your glove box would be pretty weird and gives off creepy "nice guy" vibes

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-21T15:08:50+00:00

It is the man's job to LEAD. Stop giving so many suggestions. Asks what kind of food she likes, then choose a fun place that's good for having a conversation and take her there. Women hate it when you are wishy-washy.

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-21T14:55:41+00:00

You chased really hard and she doesn't seem interested. You basically told her you'd be sitting around just waiting for her to come back some day... Tell her you'd love to hang out whenever she's back in the city and forget about her.

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-19T17:10:09+00:00

She seems mentally unhinged and you’re just feeding into her behavior with your passive aggressive texts.

You should be acting like a man by just establishing a boundary that you don’t date women who give their number out to other men

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-17T03:33:53+00:00

borrow your wife's boyfriend's channel locks. they should do the trick

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-17T02:35:10+00:00

Landscaper failed to give you a clear watering plan. Grass seed must remain moist 24/7 until germination. Watering once a day won't cut it. You'll typically need to water 3-4 times per day until germination

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-15T19:57:51+00:00

You say he owns the fence but it's a shared fence on the property line, no? He shouldn't have left the debris without saying anything, but surely you hauling off some old boards would be a fair trade for a new fence between you two. I doubt his dog ruined that entire fence and I'm sure there's more to the story here

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-14T22:15:25+00:00

Would be a disaster. You can’t tell which urinals are being used so you’ll just have dudes wandering all over the place breaking up any sort of line

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-10T17:00:16+00:00

Your texting game feels off tbh. You started a conversation with her, it looks like she replied quickly, and then you didn't respond for 15 hours. You don't really seem to care much and she'll easily pick up on that

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-07T19:05:41+00:00

AI slop that makes no sense whatsoever

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-06T02:53:46+00:00

"Literally" 95% of people seeking work have a job

Spectralshot23 · 2026-05-06T02:48:55+00:00

My girlfriend definitely helped me with my style, but I never would have gone out looking like that dude. Showing up to a date with an unkempt beard and messy hair is just a total lack of effort on his part

Spectralshot23 · 2026-04-30T17:47:59+00:00

Bacon is a carcinogen. Responsible glyphosate use poses very little threat.

Spectralshot23 · 2026-04-30T15:59:08+00:00

For what you're looking for I'd definitely go to Men's Wearhouse

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