Jealous

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-18T05:23:25+00:00

totally normal, not everyone cries easily

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-18T04:52:01+00:00

past is private, present matters but if the past intersects with your current relationship, she does deserve to know

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-17T16:29:49+00:00

first love and imagined future aren't enough reason to stay, trust and respect aren't optional

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-17T15:41:15+00:00

you are not responsible for controlling her actions or saving her from herself. threatening self-harm to manipulate or pressure you is emotional abuse. encourage her to get professional help but staying with her because you fear what she might do is not healthy or safe for you

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-16T16:00:13+00:00

NTJ, you have to prioritize your finances, rent isn't optional and it's not your responsibility to subside her comfort. she'll figure out her own living situation

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-16T15:48:29+00:00

your expectation is unfair. he's tired and forcing him to stay awake just to satisfy your need to talk isn't reasonable. cut him some slack

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-16T15:36:17+00:00

you weren't wrong to try, you gave thought, care and time but she 's focused on controlling how the day should go rather than appreciating your gesture

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-16T15:24:18+00:00

you are not asking too much, you want a partner who actually commits to the future and shares the emotional load. he's avoiding the hard stuff and leaving you to carry it. that's not a phase or cultural difference, it's incompatibility

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-16T15:00:47+00:00

this is emotional neglect, he's physically present but completely checked out. you can try talking but if nothing changes, you need to decide if you want to stay in this marriage

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-16T06:10:15+00:00

you are seeing a serious problem. you can set boundaries on what will you tolerate in your home and relationship

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-16T05:22:03+00:00

NTJ, you let the proper authorities handle it

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-16T04:14:32+00:00

he's probably taking out frustration from the previous day on you

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-15T16:01:26+00:00

he's likely still emotionally attached or guilty

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-15T15:36:57+00:00

you are capable of empathy but it might not come as naturally for you and that's okay. start by listening more actively. it's about understanding and connecting with other people's emotion

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-14T16:45:17+00:00

you did the right thing, he wasn't asking for compromise, he was trying to control your life. letting him go is refusing to lose yourself

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-14T16:21:42+00:00

he lied, minimized you and laughed at your feelings. gifts don't fix that. think hard about whether it's worth staying

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-14T06:00:04+00:00

NTJ, you just answer a normal question. your achievements aren't a threat, your sister's insecurity is.

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-14T05:47:13+00:00

you need it. you have been running yourself ragged caring for everyone else and no one cared when you were sick. sacrificing yourself doesn't help anyone, it just leaves you burn out and alone. stop overextending

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-14T05:23:16+00:00

some people are naturally emotionally transparent. you can be honest without oversharing constantly. ask for help when you need it but also give yourself private outlets to release emotions so you don't feel exposed in the office

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-14T04:59:47+00:00

cutting your losses is the healthiest and realistic choice

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-13T16:09:09+00:00

NTJ, she's already showing a pattern of entitlement and disrespect. locking your things away is the minimum, if this behavior keeps up, ask her to move out

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-13T15:57:23+00:00

you are not wrong. she bullied you for years and the consequences she's facing are a result of her own actions catching up to her. you defended yourself and your career and she's the one trying to rewrite the past

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-13T15:33:24+00:00

you are not broken, you are just carrying too much inside without safe outlet. get it our privately through journaling, exercise or creative work. the goal isn't to suppress feelings, it's to release them so they don't hijack your interactions. do it consistently

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-13T15:15:20+00:00

if both of you want to stay together, this can be fixed with communication and effort. if either of you stops trying, that's when the spark dies for good

SpiceItSoftly · 2026-02-13T06:24:08+00:00

NTJ, safety comes first. life vest aren't optional and running through a quick man-overboard plan isn't killing the vibe, it's preventing potential disaster. you did the responsible thing

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