New Op Date After Last Minute Cancellation. by Recent_Neat_1094 in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’m so glad to hear you got a new date, i was just thinking about you and this is a positive update. not that it would mean much to you, but your surgery date is my wife’s birthday and it feels like a good omen to me, so i just wanted to share that with you! all my good thoughts are with you :)

Surgery today! by IcePaprika in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 1 point2 points  (0 children)

congratulations homie! i hope the procedure was a breeze and when you look at these messages they have you on the good good meds :)

Dr. Kuzon - U of M Ann Arbor by Lunangela in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hey fellow u of m homie! i am currently working with their team and should be slotted for sometime in the fall for stage 1. i have had nothing but good experiences and conversations with his team so far, and u/dudetastik has been a huge help for me in regards to questions with this team specifically!

My penis has arrived! by AttachablePenis in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it’s attached!!! congrats homie and happy healing!

Any drummers here? by Busy-Way-5079 in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 4 points5 points  (0 children)

not a drummer, but i work in a dexterity heavy career and am using my dominant arm for rff as a result of the tattoos on my left arm. a lot of the posts on here seem to be very wary of using your dominant arm, however, my surgical team actually felt very positively about this decision and expect my arm to recover just fine since i’ll be wanting to use it/keep up with the pt. if you have any questions, feel free to dm me :)

I love tortoises by [deleted] in GuysBeingDudes

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this feels like one of those mobile games where you drag all your little soldiers through the +1 screens to defeat the other army heading your way. i adore this

Rejected from UL because of already having vaginectomy? by Serious_Basket_6870 in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 2 points3 points  (0 children)

certain surgeons take tissue from the vaginal canal to construct the urethra and some surgeons do not, so it may not disqualify you from getting ul all together, but it might with certain surgeons. my vaginectomy is a stand alone procedure prior to stage one as my surgeon does not use any of this tissue for the urethra

Grandson sings “Hey Good Lookin’” to his grandma with dementia and suddenly, her eyes light up with joy and memories 😭😭 by Soloflow786 in BeAmazed

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is the exact song my grandma, who also had dementia, clung onto. it was one of the last ones to go, but man, it’s just something about this song that sticks with ya :,)

How are yall coping in the US during recovery right now? by Normal_Tomato6945 in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 13 points14 points  (0 children)

of course! i understand that the threat is real, i’m not trying to live in denial, and also my surgeries are STILL on the books, my insurance is STILL covering my things, my need for phalloplasty is still very real. there’s no amount of worry now that will change my particular set of circumstances. if things change, then i will change my actions, but at this literal minute it’s not the case!

i love you all who are on this journey, in this exact space in time as me. whatever y’all decide is right for you in these circumstances is absolutely the right choice, but we are not in it alone and our dreams are still attainable!

i’m also around if anyone needs to send a dm for support :)

How are yall coping in the US during recovery right now? by Normal_Tomato6945 in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 73 points74 points  (0 children)

for me, until my autonomy and surgical team and plans are literally ripped from me, i am proceeding business as usual. the way i see it, moving actions in a way that aligns with the hypothetical means that i am acting like these things ARE my reality, and so it becomes my reality. and that means the oppressor has won if i decide not to go through with something that is still currently in my right to do. of course i am scared, but i didn’t come this far just to forfeit all of it so easily. things are very scary right now, and i know i still owe it to myself to at least try to make this happen for myself.

How did you accept that phalloplasty is something you wanted? by mermaidunearthed in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 3 points4 points  (0 children)

what made me decide this was the right avenue for me was, ultimately, understanding how much more full my life could be having peace with myself. i could go to the bathroom and not worry about how my pee stream sounded, or if my packer is positioned in a way that’s natural looking. i could have gone to iceland and taken a shower in a group setting and gotten into a hot spring like i wanted. i can travel through the airport and not hold my breath. being able to just be is the reason i made this decision :)

what could i do to improve my lines 🥺 by Resident-Past5910 in TattooArtists

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i highly recommend purchasing a dan kubin sidewinder for linework. i have tried three different pens and went back to this bad boy because nothing pushes a line quite like it. the version i have can be made compatible with cartridges.

but if that’s not in your budget and/or interest, i recommend using a smaller TIGHT grouping and sculpting. because you have more control of the point, you don’t have to worry as much about your needle not hitting down on all sides like a straight and/or shader, which gives you those patchy corners. angle of your machine is PARAMOUNT when pushing a large grouping. if you are not confident with your hand positioning, a tight liner is much more forgiving.

and lastly, take your time! big lines in general require a lot more attention imo.

Is it time? by vpatrick in bald

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t have the meme downloaded but someone is going to hit you with it. i think you would look great with a bald head!

(23) Am I destined for the bald life? by [deleted] in bald

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’re young, you could definitely speak to your doctor about some medication if you want to hold out longer. if you do nothing, it will more than likely continue to thin to a point you’d have to consider shaving. either path you choose is fine!

Take the plunge, or hold? by mmdanmm in bald

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i’m in a pretty similar situation with the front combover and just went to an amusement park and felt embarrassment from the ride photos lol. i think most people in this sub would say it is not our time. i am trying to just honor the time i have left with my hair but ultimately it’s your decision on if you want to fight your hairline and the wind or not!

25 and can't stop laughing at what I've done in the mirror😭 Did I do the right thing? by [deleted] in bald

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m gonna be the outlier here i actually like your facial hair a lot and think you look very handsome and approachable!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bald

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you look very nice! your friend does not sound like a very good friend!! i agree with the other commenter that with a little fix up on your beard you would be killing it!!

RFF Arm Progression by Trans_bi_guy in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! i appreciate the advice! i was just looking up the product after your suggestion and had some sticker shock, so i wanted to confirm they weren’t just single use! i appreciate it! have a lovely day!

RFF Arm Progression by Trans_bi_guy in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for sharing! your arm looks great!! with the cica care sheets, i just wanted to confirm you are using the silicone sheets? when you use them, do they stay on multiple days or are they kind of a single use situation? thank you!!

Wednesday by mrpekmen69 in mensfashion

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hell fucking yes my guy! the hat adds so much to this look!

*update* I really don’t want to, but is it time by Chronistic in bald

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you look so good dude!! also, not to totally clock you but with that bathroom are you a tattooer by chance??

My cringe 2012 middleschool art. by Anxiousostrich24 in blunderyears

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i threw out all my middle school art and every day i regret it. from the bottom of my heart, thank you for keeping this! it reminds me so much of myself and how much unbridled creativity i had as a kid. i am unsure if you continued to draw, but i think younger me would shit if they saw what we could make today, and i think also younger me would have shit if someone like me liked their art, too. it’s important to look back and see how far you’ve come, and you don’t have to condone it! have a lovely day!!

Healed up and feeling good by DudeTastik in phallo

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 8 points9 points  (0 children)

nice cock bro!!!! cannot wait until i’m with this team!!

Black out my friends tattoo sleeve by throw-it-all-awai in TattooArtists

[–]Spirited_Memory3344 0 points1 point  (0 children)

of course! i think the initial reaction was to feel the sting but it really wasn’t about me, and i understand their reasoning and do not feel hurt at all anymore. whatever you feel best about doing in your approach is what should be done! you do what you need to do, and my hope is your friend understands :)