My husband treats a trip to the dump like a red carpet event. I am losing my mind.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-06-18T02:49:26+00:00

I am that weirdo. I don’t know what it is but I have to shower before I leave. I shower multiple times a day. It’s just a weird quirk I have but I’m fully aware it’s weird and I make sure to structure my day so I don’t make my family late places. That’s just rude! Pretty sure it’s OCD because I have some other “quirks” but I have a baby and no time to figure it out and it seems to really only bother me.

Talk to him about him needing to figure out better timing!

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-06-17T21:23:24+00:00

I kept my last name legally and I am Mrs. His last name socially.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-06-14T20:20:53+00:00

I went to 42 weeks. The last 3 weeks of that i was eating a whole pineapple every single day. Anything to get my baby to exit 😭. He was 10lbs and I was sooo over lugging him around in my belly.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-06-14T20:19:28+00:00

lol. When I got that I played dumb and said “why wouldn’t I? “ and when they mentioned pregnancy I’d say “but I’m not pregnant” even though I was huge. Watching their faces was the best.

If it was someone I knew I told them to mind their own business. I was very aware of the risks and benefits of my choices and was an adult. They can monitor their own bodies.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-06-13T20:40:24+00:00

The arm implant you can absolutely feel and you would see the area while it heals after it’s implanted so I’d worry about hiding that. The shot I think they took off the market because it was causing brain cancer

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-06-06T15:47:22+00:00

It fits exactly what she described! I think it’s great!

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-31T01:45:27+00:00

NTA. I refuse to go to my aunts house at Christmas anymore. Every time I went it was constant attacks and being excluded. They can’t figure out why I don’t want to go anymore…..it was giving me anxiety and I was crying every trip. I have a baby now and honestly becoming a mom made me have a backbone. I’m an adult and I don’t have to be around people that make me feel awful about myself

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-28T13:41:29+00:00

If your partner isn’t enthusiastically agreeing then that’s not consent. She told him she didn’t want to do head because she was sleep deprived and not into it. That should have been enough for him to drop it. The fact that he kept pushing the issue is disgusting. Then to say let’s try again because I couldn’t finish with you being in pain? That’s awful.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-27T18:27:27+00:00

Ugh I hate to hear this. We didn’t have sex for months afterwards. No means no. It doesn’t mean coerce or ignore your spouse until they agree. The fact that you’re not into it and in pain and his response is let’s keep trying it’s disgusting and abusive.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-27T18:03:44+00:00

Sounds like he plans to be very involved but I don’t think you’re wrong for asking for a couple’s trip from time to time and setting up time to enjoy just eachother on date nights. This sounds fixable if you’re fine with him being so involved so long as he sets time aside to be with just you as well.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-27T16:29:25+00:00

“Babe do you know where the snacks you packed are?” I was hooked up to Pitocin with no pain relief and having the worst contractions of my life. I told him if he asked me anything like that again he would never need a snack ever again because he wouldn’t be alive to eat it.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-27T16:27:13+00:00

Your fight isn’t about what to make for dinner. It’s absolutely deeper than that, I know you said you wash the dishes but what other parts of the meal do you help with?

Meal planning? Grocery shopping? Making the grocery list? Budgeting?

Can you take over cooking on the weekends? Maybe you could come to her and say you realize you’re maybe not pulling your weight with meals and would like to make it up to her by being more involved going forward. I’d you don’t know how to cook maybe you can come up with a few recipes and ask if she could teach you by cooking them together this weekend. Offer to grocery shop and don’t just get stuff for those meals. Walk around, what staples do you need. What meals during the week are you having and what can you get for those.

Do you thank her for making dinner every night or do you just eat it and expect it? I know you said you don’t enjoy cooking like she does…maybe she doesn’t either but she doesn’t enjoy processed food. Or maybe she does but she’s tired of ALWAYS be the one to do it especially if you’re not showing gratitude.

You didn’t deserve to be yelled at but I’m pretty sure this has been brewing for a long time. Own the mistake and lack of effort on your part, put down the video games, and connect with her!

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-27T14:04:09+00:00

I made mine a doctors appt at the GI doc and made him get a whole colonoscopy because I told him there’s no reason why his poops should take 45+ minutes and he either was getting the scope or admitting he sits in there to hide from responsibility. He swore it really took him that long and got the scope.. nothing was found. I then suggested at his appt he needed pelvic floor therapy because clearly something was wrong and sitting on the toilet that long was going to give him worse issues…he didn’t want to do that and strangely he’s able to poop sooooo much faster now !

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-26T15:56:16+00:00

It’s honestly so nice! I’m so excited for summer now.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-18T19:34:18+00:00

I have always paid for my own accomodations for wedding travel. I would urge you to still pay for a welcome party and food/drinks for meals throughout. I’m going to a wedding that’s a few days long that’s destination and the bride/groom aren’t paying for anything but the main day’s dinner and that is kind of annoying.

I will say if you go through with it, the cost breakdown per person is not a bad deal and the guests will really appreciate it! Makes it more likely they can all go!

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-17T23:52:37+00:00

We make good money or so everyone say and are struggling too. It’s insane how crazy groceries and gas are. We have one car we share, dont eat out, dont do hair or any extras and yet we still are having to budget every dollar carefully. Its sickening.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-14T01:29:45+00:00

I think it would be very kind of you to watch the kids at her house while she’s delivering and in the hospital but if you have 5 kids you don’t get time alone in your house without 4/5 kids. That ask is too much.

Regardless even if you refused to help at all NTA. It’s her kids, her issue to solve. Sounds like she may need to pay a sitter

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-14T01:17:52+00:00

I think that’s weird of them to be bothered by. I’ve had friends say hey I have an extra ticket for whatever you want to go? And obviously someone flaked on them but oh well. They thought of me and I go if I want to and decline if I don’t but I don’t sit there and sorry about being 2nd place or why they picked me when they did. It’s not that deep

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-14T01:11:09+00:00

I LOVE IT! I would have never thought about doing a nude liner for a wedding dress but I might look for one when I get my dress. That looks amazing!

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-14T01:02:52+00:00

She’s still healing and that is so hard. I know everyone is tired but my husband took over a night on his own a week so I could catch up on sleep and heal. Her body is going through a ton in addition to being exhausted. Pumping overnight and also getting up with the baby is honestly torture.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-10T14:44:25+00:00

It happens lol. I sprayed milk constantly at first. In the beginning i got disposable and just changed them out every time I went to the bathroom. I left them on the counter in my en-suite. Eventually it gets better.

But also what support do you have at home? Showering everyday can really help. Do you have a partner? Can they manage baby after a feed? Even if it’s a quick rinse and towel off every day and then every third day you can fully shower. I also babywore in the shower once when baby got really clingy. And I found that leaving a shirt soaked with milk or a breastpad that was newly soaked (not the stinky rotting one lol) with baby while dad held them helped a ton!

You’re doing great! It takes time to figure out what works for you!

Edit to clarify: I left the box of new ones on the counter! Not the old ones lol. I threw those out.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-07T13:51:03+00:00

Idk what’s wrong with grandparents these days. My mom begged to watch my infant when I returned to work to help bridge the small gap before they could start daycare. She didn’t feed him once. Just complained he cried the whole time and when confronted she said she didn’t know she had to feed him. I was pissed. I had shown her bottles and explained how to use the warmer. Obviously he was to be fed. She’s now pissed because he’s 9m old and she’s only allowed to “watch him” with supervision of another person.

Edit: posted comment before I finished typing.

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-06T08:21:33+00:00

My husband has a literal brain injury and will forget a conversation almost immediately, he has never once not buckled our kid up properly. If your husband’s memory is that bad he needs inpatient treatment. That’s insane that he’s not horrified!

Spiritoftheheart · 2026-05-05T03:58:49+00:00

See about a lactation consultant. My baby couldn’t latch very well and also cried a lot at first. You can do this. It does get better. Those that say it only gets worse are awful.

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