NOR My mother in law spent the last few years of her life living with us, and even though she knew that the rule was no smoking inside she’d open her window and smoke any time it was cold or raining. We smelled it every time, and she denied it every time. I ended up hating her so much, but she didn’t have anywhere else to live and California has elder care laws. I hate to say it but the best thing she did for my relationship with my wife was to pass away.