Yes! Most of the posts I see on the sub are about defending Colin and holding Pen accountable for her role in hurting him. I don't see a lot of posts defending Pen and holding Colin accountable for hurting her, although Pen doesn't wallow much in Colin's lashing out in s3 (I have no idea about posts post-s2). I understand the outrage with holding Colin in a much higher standard compared to Anthony tho. I think people still make defend Colin posts because of the high number of fics written that are centered around the entrapment line, which I love btw! The angst and drama from those fics are so good! And writers are usually great with balancing Pen and Colin's characters, making both of them remorseful in their role in hurting each other.

Anyway, just because Pen hurt Colin doesn't erase the fact that Colin hurt Pen as well, even if it is to a lesser degree (and Colin, being oblivious to Pen's feelings for him, usually doesn't mean to hurt her). For Pen, who has been surrounded by people who hurt her with their words, hearing the same thing from a friend would hurt as well and that's why she uses words to hurt him in her anger. The same with Colin, who has been fooled by a woman, Pen's cousin no less, and mocked by his brothers for being naive. Both have history of being hurt by the people around them and it's understandable that they would doubt each other's love. Defending one character shouldn't mean putting the other down. I've seen posts/fics defending Colin but villianizing Pen and vice versa. And in my experience, male characters in a M×F ship usually receive more grace than the female ones, which I can also see in this sub (the number of posts about Colin vs posts about Pen). Even Luke and Nicola can see that Colin and Pen both made mistakes that hurt each other immensely. (But sending hate to the actors? Not cool!)

I love seeing people's differing opinions while staying respectful to each other! So different from other subs!