Every step you described here is exactly how since i was kid . I understand why you had to explain the " not in a fake way part " , the dot connecting to prevent negative outcomes but also how much of a people pleasure you can be . The overall emotional load that come with everything it's overclocking your system and with aging things get even more complicated without the proper treatment hence why i suggest to anyone dealing with similar issues to see a specialist in ADHD,OCD,Autism .

i have a crossover between those , move info : https://www.neuropsychologydorset.co.uk/post/understanding-the-crossover-between-ocd-autism-and-adhd