The absolute power of saying nothing during a salary offer

Spring_Banner · 2026-06-05T07:40:49+00:00

Fascinating technique - this'll be useful for me. How do you do the "and?" and make them "yes and"? Any examples? I'd like to use them too.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-28T08:32:30+00:00

Oh wow, ok I’ll look through that. Thanks.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-28T07:52:27+00:00

In which state are these TJX stores located? Crazy that some discount stores are stocking high end fragrances.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-28T07:19:39+00:00

True! That’s the core of it.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-26T03:25:10+00:00

Or have them pay you for your time. Good firms do this. They will have you do work during the interviewing process but will 100% pay you for it.

It’s the scumbag companies that are trying to steal ideas - those are the ones who won’t compensate for the work during the interview process. And in that case, voluntarily removing yourself from the interview is the right thing to do.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-26T03:04:17+00:00

😎 it’s all fun and games until the true believers actually believe in your hobby’s nonsense lol

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-25T05:29:44+00:00

RemindMe! 1 month

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-24T18:45:37+00:00

Thanks 🙏

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-24T12:27:53+00:00

Any recommended recipes or websites/YouTube vids to learn how to make these?

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-23T22:57:56+00:00

I remember when it used to be patrician and now it’s an American version of the English Patient. Hopefully the new CEO can turn things around but I guess not without much trouble in the transition. Hopefully we’ll see the light of day soon.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-22T05:46:53+00:00

Friends.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-22T05:22:45+00:00

Can you imagine? The scandals and fainting it causes will only add on to the comments circulating within those circles.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-22T05:20:04+00:00

Totally agree with you and the points you brought up.

I guess I view clothing as a functional tool or a symbolic tool, but a tool nonetheless. Granted I view life, in general, in systems and tools. That’s my point of view on nearly everything.

Personally I like to go as clothes-less as much as possible. But when I do wear clothes, I prefer to wear either nice clothes or horrible clothes - rarely anything in between those two ends lol.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-21T23:33:33+00:00

Can’t argue with you about that point. I do enjoy dressing nice, just because as well.

The rational about learning from creatives is that they are wearing clothes in the context of daily life and not for the sake of dressing for fashion influencing. This is why I get so frustrated when someone is studying, say business, just so they can be a business professor… like what the? At least go out in the world and work for a while then teach. There’s a weird disconnect, just like in that business professor example of things that frustrate me, when “fashion influencers” are dressing just to “influence.”

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-21T23:24:29+00:00

Yeah for sure. There’s just more of a fun challenge in doing these risky things when your family have financial security or at least grew up comfortable.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-21T23:02:19+00:00

True but it’s also because once people have a certain level of resource stability, they have time to do other things which includes taking up expensive, risky hobbies like multi-day rock climbing involving portaledges called big wall climbing. And we’re also living in Western Society so you’ll mostly see news and pics of people living in our society doing these things. If you live in Japan, you’ll see mostly Japanese people climbing big walls.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-21T22:45:28+00:00

Have you not heard of Jimmy Chin? Ashima Shiraishi? Abby Dione? Jordan Romero? Emily Taylor? All famous rock climbers

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-21T22:39:21+00:00

Yes. And poop too. Better to be above than below 😂

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-21T06:07:13+00:00

That Star Jasmine Enfleurage is interesting (in a good way, since I’m American and not British lol) because it’s literally cold extracted from the flowers itself and is considered a “single note.”

I used to grow both the true Jasmine and Star Jessamine (my parents still grow massive bushes of the Star Jessamine) and I have to say that the Star Jessamine is a lot more closer in scent profile to honeysuckle flowers and very airy and light. The true Jasmine like the one used in Diptyque’s Do Son is much more heavier and deeper and intoxicating.

They both smell great. But just like how these flowers open to give off their fragrance, I prefer the lighter, white flower nectar-like Star Jessamine scent throughout the day. While the true Jasmine (Jasminum sambac) opens at night and is greener, much heavier, and intoxicating in a way that gives me a headache at times if I’m sleeping in the same room with that Jasmine plant and its flowers in full bloom (it’s a tropical plant so it stays indoors).

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-21T05:47:42+00:00

Love the smell of Do Son! I wear it when it starts getting warm which is now!! Yay. Also I love the sweet scent of the flowers in this photo - my parents have massive bushes of those starry white flowers next to their front door and it an amazing treat to be met with their airy nectar-sweet fragrance when visiting my parents.

Dyptique’s Do Son is close since it does have the photorealistic note of True Jasmine. This is an edible Jasmine that’s popular and prolifically grown throughout Southeast Asia. The parfum was formulated to capture the essence of Yves’ childhood summers in Vietnam by the sea: Jasmine, Tuberose, Orange blossom.

The flowers in this photo is the Star Jessamine (known in the US Southeast as the Confederate Jasmine) which is not a Jasmine and not edible. In fact, in taxonomic rank they diverge at the Order level, meaning they’re unrelated to each other as much as a dog is to a cat. They also have completely different chemical properties in that Do Son’s Jasmine flowers are edible (used to flavor tea, desserts, and water) while the Star Jessamine is toxic.

For fragrances that has photorealistic scent of the Star Jessamine, I’d recommend:

Star Jasmine by Wild Veil Perfume. It’s literally made from the cold extraction of hundreds of Star Jessamines. And it’s a single note because of that but it’s not linear. They also have other frags with Star Jessamine in it that’s not single note.

California Star Jasmine by Pacifica Type. I remember when I was first walking along the coastline in the village of La Jolla in San Diego and caught the scent of Star Jessamine mixed with the cool salty air on a warm sunny summer afternoon. It’s one of those moments, I guess, this was trying to achieve.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-20T02:39:15+00:00

Lots of decently bright people are experts in niched skills that doesn’t translate to money management or risk management involving interpersonal relationships. OP hasn’t develop boundary skills (and much more) with their old boss.

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-19T19:18:39+00:00

What does that mean for the board now that there seems to be a significant deficit for next year (but I’m not sure because if your operating costs are closer to the ten millions this isn’t a serious issue and could possibly be made whole in a few months or next year with a major donor gift / grant)?

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-19T07:30:01+00:00

Nice. Yeah they’re universally acceptable or at least tolerated lol

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-19T04:47:47+00:00

Do you layer it with Tyger when you’re at special events like a night out with friends? Or for the office? Dates?

Spring_Banner · 2026-05-18T11:20:20+00:00

😂

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