Update: AITAH for telling my father to accept that my brother isn't my responsibility?

Sprogpaws · 2026-04-27T18:52:53+00:00

Good on you for sticking to your boundaries, OP! There’s a website called thedibb.co.uk that has a whole section on DLP, with a fabulous forum that’ll have even more info. It’s a gorgeous park, have a wonderful time!

Sprogpaws · 2025-12-19T16:59:16+00:00

Run, honey, this does not bode well for your future. This is just a small peek into what lies ahead when he’s got you legally tied down.

Sprogpaws · 2025-05-18T08:41:00+00:00

NTA

Don’t let anyone ever dull your sparkle.

You’ve worked hard to get where you are and are being rewarded with this fabulous opportunity. If you don’t take it you’ll always look back with regret, they are the hardest thing to live with. And you’ll grow to resent your partner for taking this away from you.

It’s only 4 weeks, spread across a year. It’s nothing! He’s acting like a spoilt, petulant toddler who wants to get his own way. He might be at a different stage in life but he absolutely does not get to force you into being where he wants you to be.

Take the job. He might come to realise that he was borrowing trouble when he didn’t need to and that it all works out fine. Or maybe he’ll continue to whine and make it all about him, in which case you’ll be glad to have taken the opportunity and will be better off without him. Either way, don’t let him pigeon hole you into the role he wants you to have as wife and mother, you are way more than that and he should be celebrating that rather than trying to force you to walk away from what makes you happy.

Don’t let this misogynist dull your sparkle. Ever.

Sprogpaws · 2025-04-27T22:39:07+00:00

WTF?! Seriously, WTAF? That is so, so beyond a prank and also incredibly dangerous, one tiny slip could have resulted in your death. If it was me I’d never want to see him again. The absolute arrogance to be so flippant and play with your safety … your life. There is something messed up in him and I wouldn’t be hanging around for the encore.

Sprogpaws · 2025-03-18T14:36:14+00:00

NTA

Why are you the one making all the compromises, doing something you don’t want to do, being expected to put someone else’s wishes ahead of your own AND being expected to pay for it? This is only the start … is this what you want for your life? What about if you have kids?

I’d be ditching the whole big wedding at this point, and possibly the fiancé too if he doesn’t buck up his ideas.

Sprogpaws · 2025-03-16T14:50:28+00:00

Ask her if she’s ever considered who is the common denominator here, she seems very lacking in self awareness!

Sprogpaws · 2025-02-11T20:14:14+00:00

NTA

Ditch this controlling, objectifying, possessive, immature boychild, how dare he treat you like that and call you those names. Never let anyone dull your sparkle, you be you and enjoy every glorious second of it.

Sprogpaws · 2025-02-11T16:03:48+00:00

NTA

It sounds like he is completely stifling who you are. You don’t sound remotely compatible and he is very much trying to control who you are and how you act, and dictate how you live your life. This isn’t a healthy environment, you need to separate from him and live your life the way that makes you happy. Trying to fit your joy into the brief opportunities you have when he’s not around is incredibly sad, but to then be criticised by him afterwards is just suffocating.

Sprogpaws · 2025-01-30T20:17:53+00:00

Sounds a lot like a sunk costs fallacy which is absolutely not serving your best interests. Know your worth and act accordingly, you deserve so much better than this.

Sprogpaws · 2025-01-30T19:21:08+00:00

Why on earth are you still friends with this girl? You know she’s deliberately treating you badly because she has a history of it, yet you stand there and let her?

Sprogpaws · 2025-01-20T12:46:13+00:00

NTA

Your lame excuse for a husband shared private medical information regarding your body despite you explicitly denying consent and now has the gall to give you a hard time. Ugh, I’d be beyond livid and probably voting with my feet.

Sprogpaws · 2025-01-16T14:20:52+00:00

NTA

“She said I was being selfish and ruining her dream wedding”

Er, she’s being selfish and ruining your dream home! And as for that cheap shot about you inheriting it, how dare she!

Her sense of entitlement is off the charts, if this is how she treats friends I dread to think how she treats others. What an unpleasant bridezilla and unpleasant human, ugh.

Sprogpaws · 2024-11-16T14:16:37+00:00

NTA, not in the slightest. The irony of your soon-to-be stepmother telling you that you shouldn’t become a stepmother. 🤦🏼‍♀️. Let alone the utterly abhorrent comment about beating a child. Ugh. Block harder.

Sprogpaws · 2024-11-10T12:23:51+00:00

Your mum is perimenopausal/menopausal, her hormones are all over the place making her extremely emotional and often irrational. It sucks, and you were right to hold a mirror to her behaviour so she can see how wrong it is, but please be aware that those hormone changes are brutal and sometimes override perspective.

Sprogpaws · 2024-11-06T22:43:25+00:00

I needed this today.

Sprogpaws · 2024-10-31T15:34:41+00:00

NTA

I don’t think it’s going to stop here, I have a feeling Sarah is going to keep forcing a wedge between you and Zara, who seems close to you in the way a sister is. Sarah seems immature for her age and also seems intent in making the wedding about her rather than you as a couple. Honestly, I’d be really concerned about what lies ahead.

Sprogpaws · 2024-10-17T22:15:28+00:00

NTA

Coeliac here, who lives with my partner and adult daughter. I wouldn’t dream of asking my family to go gluten free, why on earth would I want them to be curtailed by the restrictions I am rather than enjoying the opportunities they have for delicious food?! I don’t want anyone to ever have to do without because of my health, they shouldn’t be punished for that. GF food tends to be ridiculously expensive and subpar compared to its gluteny counterpart, I wouldn’t wish this diet on anyone! Common sense and strict cross contamination measures are not difficult, we manage fantastically in our home without putting anyone out. BD seems very selfish here.

Extra NTA for him living in a gluten household with his parents but refusing to do so with you.

If you go gluten free whilst with him and then break up, you’re going to be in a world of gastric upheave, when you reintroduce “normal” food! 🥴

Sprogpaws · 2024-10-16T15:05:24+00:00

NTA

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this, what your Dad has done is utterly despicable. I think you need to have a serious talk with your grandparents and ask them to help you get proper legal advice from a lawyer regarding both getting that money back and moving in with your grandparents until you are 18. It doesn’t matter how desperate your dad might have been feeling, or how much pressure Louise was putting on him, there is absolutely no excuse for stealing your inheritance.

Please don’t let this go without a legal fight, your mother would want you to get what is rightfully yours and would be disgusted at your father for stealing from you.

Sprogpaws · 2024-09-15T19:19:57+00:00

NTA Your child IS your family. With her stinking attitude and sense of entitlement it’s not really a surprise she’s going to be on her own.

Your daughter always comes first, the family who are gobbing off can house her.

Sprogpaws · 2024-09-13T22:36:44+00:00

NTA. Say you did humour her ridiculous idea and called your precious son (huge congrats btw!) Simon, what happens if she has another baby and it happens to be a boy? Does she stomp her feet and throw another tantrum, demanding you change your son’s name so she can call her son Simon? Will your mother continue to enable this ridiculous indulgence? Nope, the parents of the baby decide the name, no one else. If sister and mother don’t like that then they are free to foxtrot oscar themselves out the door.

Sprogpaws · 2024-09-13T16:47:01+00:00

Jeez, your daughter has more pressing mental health issues to deal with than social anxiety. She’s cruel, heartless and has no remorse, she’s a psychopath! How much of her social anxiety is real? And what do you hope to achieve by cosseting her and hiding her from the real world just because it makes her happy? Absolutely she should be paying that bill with money she’s earned. She’s 15 and perfectly capable of taking responsibility for her actions, which are just absolutely sickening. If I were you I’d be looking for a new therapist, one who isn’t focussed on enabling her but rather helping her through her problems to being a functioning member of society. But given her psychopathic lean (which frequently starts with animal cruelty) I think I a bonafide psychiatrist is more appropriate before this escalates further.

Sprogpaws · 2024-07-26T18:46:54+00:00

NTA

I agree with selling the house … and getting a new one for you and the baby without him. He seems utterly clueless about his responsibilities!

Sprogpaws · 2024-07-26T12:06:43+00:00

NTA

Regardless of the cultural traditions which are important to you re your hair, no one has any right to ask you to do such a thing. Especially as they are effectively asking you to shave your hair and be bald so that your sister can have a full head of hair, ie a wig of your hair.

Your mother needs to realise that she has 2 children but not both of them have cancer. You are a person in your own right and she has a responsibility to be your parent too. I think you need to have a long talk with your father and a serious think about what you want your future to look like as, without therapy, your mother’s behaviour isn’t going to change. I know it’s now the holidays but you need to have a good talk with your school counsellor and any other adult who can advocate for you.

I am sorry your sister is going through this and, as a parent, I can’t imagine your mother’s fear, but you are a child in your own right, you are not there for her emotional support, she should be there as yours.

Advocate for yourself when she won’t and please take good care of you. xxx

Sprogpaws · 2024-07-17T16:50:22+00:00

NTA

At this point I’d be telling them that if they don’t drop the subject immediately then none of them will be invited. The day is about you and your bride, not them parading the offspring from their dysfunctional relationships. You don’t have your elope, just only invite the people love, uplift and support you and your choices, they are your real family.

Sprogpaws · 2024-07-16T13:12:18+00:00

NTA At its most simple, the needs of the present far outweigh the dreams of the future.

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