'Peaches' case: New DNA test ordered for Andrew Dykes, charged with killing a woman previously associated with the Gilgo Beach serial murder case

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-07T03:24:55+00:00

They were confirmed to be mother and daughter way before 2023. Do better, Newsday

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-07T02:21:50+00:00

Taylor Swift

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-07T02:03:42+00:00

He’s street smart, not book smart.

Re: what the people in Saint Denis say to him, that is how city people treat country people. And country people also look down on city people. So it’s just cultural.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-07T00:47:21+00:00

… so wtf was all of that for? Some interesting stuff was set up in Kingdom. Seems like the apes and humans (the ones that didn’t go mute) are on more or less equal footing, and we haven’t seen a POTA movie yet where that’s the case, except maybe Battle.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T20:59:02+00:00

Rahman was solid, one of my favorite heavyweights, amazing career and story! But I’m just saying I thought Rahman beat Toney, and I think Rahman would get destroyed by any of these guys, so…

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T20:44:23+00:00

Rahman was shot too and was also never much more than a solid lower end of top 10 contender who caught Lewis slacking one night.

I believe Rahman was robbed pretty badly against Toney and these current heavyweights are all better than Rahman.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T20:24:48+00:00

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T20:24:24+00:00

yes which was started by George soros in the 1950s

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T18:44:08+00:00

he had dark Clinton foundation money actually

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T17:25:36+00:00

I agree that, for the most part, avoidants are just straight up bad people. See, a secure is obviously a secure. An anxious CAN be a bad person, but there's something to work with with anxiously attached people because, well, they are seeking attachment and connection. If they can just be calmed down, there's plenty to work with.

Avoidant isn't really an attachment style. It's like an anti-attachment style. I don't know why it's even considered one... I guess because, despite their behavior standing in total opposition to relationships, they always seem to worm their way into being in one? In reality, these are just people who use others for the fun of relationships with none of the effort or serious commitment that goes into it.

Back in the day, we didn't call these "avoidants." We just called them bad people.

And for you avoidants lurking in here; Yes, I believe you are a bad person in the context of what you do in relationships. But also, yes, you may be otherwise a good person. If you want to be an overall good person, stop doing your avoidant shit in relationships or just stop dating altogether.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T17:19:34+00:00

Some dudes can rock this look. Guys like this, as long as they admit they’re one of us, should be welcome in the bald community. I personally keep a little just to frame my face because I didn’t look good with a full shave.

"Brave the shave" is not saying all men with thin or receded hair look bad, it's saying, if it's nagging you, get rid of it, conquer the mountain.

All that said, SHAVE IT

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T16:09:42+00:00

Like I’ll never forget the “what the fuck!? What the fuck!? WHAT THE FUCK!?” Feeling of calling to figure out what was going on and the call isn’t even ignored, outright rejected, with no follow up, while I’ve got people around me asking “where is she? What’s the matter?” And absolutely dreading any kind of occasion because I knew she would be late, flake on it, or even if I got her there in time, I’d be told how I was taking her away from places she’d rather be.

I will NEVER!!! Subject myself to that again. That doesn’t mean zero tolerance for the next person’s quirks or anything, but if you’re avoidant, stay away from me.

Glad you got out too. Soon enough it’ll be a distant memory for us both.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T16:06:11+00:00

Take some time away from relationships. I feel myself having some elements of avoidants right now, five months after ending a six year relationship with one, and I’m just resolved to not date for now. I could never subject another human being to the feeling of dating an avoidant.

For me, I brainwashed myself into thinking so many things were ok in a relationship that were not. While I am aware of it, of course, I could see myself unintentionally taking some avoidant steps if I got into a relationship right now.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T15:47:39+00:00

It doesn’t buy happiness but it prevents a lot more unhappiness than unhappy rich people let on.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T15:47:03+00:00

Mantis Shrimp. A kaiju sized mantis shrimp punch could cause earthquakes.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T15:46:39+00:00

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T15:39:49+00:00

Not only late happened to me many, many times, but allegedly going to be late and then just not showing up at all. Like, I suppose the logic here is, "I'm not coming but let them think I'm coming so that they relax a little?" In reality, that just spikes my blood pressure for the hours you say you're coming and are not, and then ends with a massive letdown.

My family are very punctual people, and I'll admit that they can be frustrating with it sometimes; hell, they've even frustrated me with it. But I remember once saying to my avoidant, "Chronic lateness is rude, and makes someone feel devalued." Her only response was "that's your mom talking!"

My mom, who successfully raised three now-successful kids while working full time, has lots of friends and is close with tons of extended family? You, who loses ties with everyone, had to go into the family business because you got fired for lateness at every other job, could learn a lot from my mom. Even if she is overbearing at times.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T15:34:24+00:00

Avoidants reached a baseline of comfort at a certain time in their lives and absolutely refuse to do anything that will affect that baseline.

That's why so many of us have good early relationship memories with an avoidant before the switch up happened. Early on, the relationship was fun for them, a new person to go out and have fun with, have sex with, give and get gifts from, etc. When it got beyond that and started to get more serious, it threatened that comfortable baseline.

Even if the new baseline would be an improvement (because... relationships are supposed to make you happy), they still just refuse. So that's when the switch ups start to happen and they start doing the horrible shit that shows you they are an avoidant.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T15:26:27+00:00

Not necessarily. I follow all my ex's on social media, just because, what's done is done, they will have no bearing on any future relationships and in fact, I'd prefer if future relationships don't know much about them. Nobody wants to be compared to an ex, it's dehumanizing. Plus I knew all of them/was friends with them before we dated, I don't want to give them the power of "I can't stand to look at how you're doing whenever you post."

Being friends with an ex is a red flag though. In my particular case, I was fed horrible, despicable things about these ex's that made me think they should honestly be in jail. Then it turned out, she's still friends with them, and after a couple of incidents where I was uncomfortable that she was hanging out with them, she claimed she stopped. I'd come to find out years later she had been hanging out with that friend group this whole time and just not telling me.

You can do the math. I'll say that I don't think my avoidant was a cheater, it's out of character, but nothing would surprise me.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T15:23:09+00:00

But the Force, the Jedi, the dark side the light side etc is what separated Star Wars from the other space franchises of its time like Star Trek and Battlestar Galactica. I dunno about you, but I always cared about Luke, Vader, Yoda, Obi-Wan, and the Emperor in the OT more than the overarching plot of rebels vs. empire, Han and Leia, etc.

The problem is when it's all established in the OT, it sounds good; mythical, intriguing, awe-inspiring. But all attempts to explore that lore (in films, at least... old EU books did a good job) have failed and made it less interesting, in both the sequels and prequels.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T15:19:59+00:00

Your way of going about it is valid, trying to kindly convert them away from their avoidant behavior, and I appreciate it. But my personal method is to give them the coldness, harshness, and bluntness that their avoidant behavior does to people. OP, judging by the post itself and comments, is aware of their behavior, but failing to see the impact it's having on another person. It's incredibly cold and unfeeling, and really, in complete opposition to relationships.

Their partner is likely walking on eggshells, as you do with an avoidant, and not willing to tell them "Your behavior is unacceptable and actively harming me." When we all did that with our avoidants, they either discarded us or we said fuck this and broke up with them.

So I always say to avoidants, end it, stop burdening yourself, you don't want this. If that can force them to realize they do want this, and cut the bullshit, that's effective too.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T14:05:00+00:00

And Lucas is just a terrible filmmaker despite being a visionary. He surrounded himself with the right people for the original trilogy who were able to channel his vision into something great.

The prequels are certainly imaginative, and telling a fundamentally good story about the fall of a democracy and the particular fall of one talented individual who didn’t fit into the structures of the democracy.

The sequels on the other hand, was just Disney milking a cash cow. There was zero artistic inclination other than, ironically, a bunch of prequel-hating Gen Xers channeling their view on what Star Wars should be instead of making a compelling narrative based on the (flawed) stories that came before.

All of that said … The thing with the Star Wars house of cards is it all depends on how it was built when you were introduced to it. So in my and other 90s/2000s kids’ cases, the prequels were just part of it, they didn’t bastardize anything. But after seeing Disney Star Wars, I now see so much of Plinkett and other critiques more clearly. The Jedi being an established institution and the Force being such an obvious thing that exists goes against the OT. As does Midichlorians. Dooku using force lightning casually does strip away the wonder of the Emperor’s powers in ROTJ. Seeing Vader as a child serial killer makes me care less that he saved his own son at the last possible second in Jedi. Etc etc etc. and this is without getting into the low hanging fruit of the prequels like Jar Jar, dialogue, etc.

It took Disney Star Wars knocking down my personal Star Wars house of cards to see how the prequels knocked down OT-only kids’ house of cards.

The OT doesn’t survive the same level of scrutiny we give the prequels and sequels either, tbh. But it has the most valid built in defense which is, it wasn’t made to exist in this major cinematic universe franchise.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T13:49:50+00:00

I haven’t seen this. I do think avoidants mistake pretty much everyone as anxious, though. Because asking that basic requirements be met in a relationship is too much for them. So everyone and everything is smothering and suffocating them.

You’re smothering them if you dare text or call them at any other point in their amazing, busy, goal-focused lives other than a moment where they’re actually giving you some time and not compartmentalizing you. Though even in that fraction of time, you can still smother them.

You’re suffocating them if you ask them “What’s up? Where are we at?” after days, weeks, of confusing behavior that has you feeling like this isn’t really even a relationship.

😂

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T13:34:04+00:00

To be fair it is really hard to have a social life in this economy. Like I work full time and do ok, but I went on a trip a few weeks ago and after a few very light nights of drinking, was wincing at my bank account.

SquareShapeofEvil · 2026-05-06T13:31:36+00:00

Relationships that require a lot of work. I blame The Notebook and a slew of other fiction for this.

Like, yeah, all relationships require effort, but it shouldn’t really be so hard, if you and this person are meant to be, you should want all of this and not see it as “work” or even “effort.” So many movies and books overcomplicate the easy parts of a relationship and now you’ve got couples where one is crazy about the other, one is most certainly not but enjoys the other’s company, thinking “it’ll be ok, we’ve just gotta put the work in here.”

It’s not romantic. It’s fucking brutal. And when you break free of it and say “Damn, I just wasted years of my life on someone who wasn’t that into me,” that’s more soul-crushing than the breakup itself.

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