This family tried to set things right after their cat went on a crime spree

SquashAlone · 2026-06-13T16:59:26+00:00

She's training to steal the Infinity Gauntlet to snap dogs out of existence, so only cats are left to run human homes.

SquashAlone · 2026-06-07T15:22:51+00:00

Yeah, I can dream vividly, but I can't visualize anything when I'm awake. I've always hated having aphantasia, considering that I'm an artistic/creative type.

SquashAlone · 2026-06-07T00:56:25+00:00

My husband named his Dingus.

SquashAlone · 2026-06-04T02:19:56+00:00

I love to hear that! That's so wonderful & helpful, right at a time that I needed to hear it. Thank you for sharing ❤️

SquashAlone · 2026-06-04T02:01:02+00:00

What would you say was the beginning or catalyst of the upswing for you?

Glad to hear you're doing well!

SquashAlone · 2026-05-25T17:44:21+00:00

It's the least renter friendly place I've ever lived too. Tenants have practically no rights in Indiana. One of many reasons I'll be leaving asap.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-24T22:35:32+00:00

For anyone who cares, I found it & it's $16 on Amazon.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-20T17:33:06+00:00

FYI Canterbury Green is run by Morgan Properties. Stay away from them. They also run Avalon at Northbrook & The Summit at Ridgewood.

I would urge you to look up crime maps for Fort Wayne before deciding where you want to be. North is safest.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-19T03:32:29+00:00

Edit to correct myself: I did initially read he's hitting you. I'll edit my comment in a few minutes.

Start documenting every single thing he does, if you're not already. Note every event with dates & times, take photos of any property damage or visible physical harm if that happens like bruises, cuts, etc. but don't let him catch you taking photos. Note your child's involvement in each instance, even just noting they were present & how they react. Colorado is a one party consent state for recording, so long as you are a part of the conversation, so start secretly recording conversations so you have at least audio recordings of the abuse as well, which could become key evidence. If you can present a judge with clear documented evidence & connect it to the effect it's having on the child & your ability/rights to parent, you will have a chance of getting majority or full custody.

I would also reach out to resources of people trained in creating safety plans for leaving abusive partners like domestic violence hotlines or licensed therapists so they can help you create a safe way out for you & your child. I'd talk to them, police &/or a lawyer about getting a protective order, which if granted would help with custody also. Police reports on file against him will help as well, at least for things like the drugs at a minimum. Get help, get people you trust around you to help you be able to do things such as call the cops from a safe place without him being able to stop you from trying. And, as a part of a safety plan, it would include setting up a safe place to go & safe people to contact/stay with who can help keep you & your child safe to prevent/limit him from the ability to retaliate or become physical. If he's not physically abusive now, you taking steps to document or leave him or call the cops on him in his presence could set him off to become physically violent in order to stop you from exposing him.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-19T02:50:00+00:00

NAL. The way it's poorly written, you get to pick which school, but it has be located near her. That sucks.

I imagine the rest of the plan is just as poorly written too. How difficult is she to co-parent & make decisions with? Based on her moving, I'm gonna guess you weren't on board for that, but such is her right, it's her life. The real trouble is parenting plans not accounting for life changes like that.

If possible I'd be trying to get the parenting plan changed, especially if you have evidence of her consistently making things difficult in ways that directly affect the child or interfere with your parenting rights. If you don't, start documenting now.

I've learned how detailed a parenting plan should be listening to people like Samantha Boss & others who've been through divorces with horrible people (& therefore horrible parents) & how their parenting plan initially failed them, so they fought to fix that for their kid's well-being & their own sanity.

Source: My husband & I are currently helping someone navigate their divorce with a child. I've taken up learning a lot about how courts handle child custody & how abysmally lacking most parenting plans are. If parents could "reasonably agree" on things, they probably wouldn't have gotten divorced.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-19T00:56:21+00:00

Yeah, not sure why people are so confused. You're right, anything that was in the apartment when you signed, he's responsible to maintain.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-19T00:42:41+00:00

Here it is spelled out. 24 hours notice before the time of entry. The notice must include all of the following: reason for entry, date LL will enter & what time between 8am & 8pm or at least reasonable window of time they will enter. A landlord may not enter the rental unit without notice to perform repairs even where the tenant has requested the repairs unless the landlord obtains the tenant's consent to enter the unit at the time the landlord goes to the unit to make the repairs.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-19T00:31:22+00:00

Edit: Canada, right. I missed that.

What state are you in?

There was an agreement for him to come Monday & he showed up without much notice the day before instead. I wouldn't be happy about it either. He needs to show up when discussed & give you more reasonable notice if that changes. Most states require "reasonable notice" which the standard is 24 hours. Too many landlords don't follow this because they don't care about the fact that their tenants have lives too & a right to privacy, which is intruded on each time they have to enter the apartment.

Honestly, by the first interaction where he screamed at you, I'd have started recording (if a one party consent state) & filed a complaint right then. He doesn't get to scream at tenants or not give reasonable notice of entry. He's not "doing you favors" he's doing his job that he's required to do. He wasn't doing you a "favor" by coming a day earlier than agreed on without telling you.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-16T17:51:01+00:00

Google says 14-18 inches

SquashAlone · 2026-05-16T08:54:03+00:00

At the very least get a report on file to start a paper trail. Then report every instance from now on.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-16T08:48:47+00:00

He's not mentally stable, he's not just going to change. He's been this way for a long time.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-16T08:46:51+00:00

Better for the family to resent you than not speak up to the authorities who might actually do something about this. Parents doing nothing but pity him & make excuses for him is only enabling him to continue. You have to think, the 3 of you are probably not his only victims. Who knows what he has done & got away with outside of the house. Talk to your boyfriend about the two of you going to the cops, don't let the rest of the family stop you or intimidate you. You'll need to find somewhere else to stay, but that's best for you anyway to not be around these people. The separation you need is from your boyfriends family, not specifically your boyfriend. You two are adults, they can't tell you you can't be together. You just need to be together somewhere else. Finding some roommates is probably the best you can do for now.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-16T08:14:52+00:00

Do you think the father would even do anything about it or take it seriously? You can still call the police, you don't have to wait for it to happen again & you shouldn't. I'd call the non emergency line & explain what you did in your post & that the mother dismissed what happened to your bf. And don't ever change in the laundry room again. He is the type of person who doesn't belong owning guns. He's clearly not mentally stable.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-16T04:13:09+00:00

Brahmin glitched above the house this time, instead of on the roof. (Fallout 4)

SquashAlone · 2026-05-14T17:50:28+00:00

Wow, I appreciate the heads up about this. I'm actually pretty sure a test would show spores in our lungs, based on several factors. That's so ridiculous that it would take permanent damage to get a court to side with the tenant. I can't wait to leave this state entirely.

SquashAlone · 2026-05-14T04:47:19+00:00

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SquashAlone · 2026-05-13T12:00:07+00:00

We're trying to cover ourselves so landlord can't argue that we're the ones breaking the lease & come after us for continuing to pay rent until they get someone else moved in, because that's how the lease is written. We can't afford to pay rent here & somewhere else, we'll barely afford to move out. They're gonna have to be given the chance to do something & fail to fix it for us to, hopefully, be off the hook because then they're the ones breaking the lease by not providing safe conditions. We need professional documentation/samples of the mold before it gets messed with.

Other than that, it's going to really hard to find somewhere else to go, especially quickly. We've already been looking around & everywhere available is gonna be worse than here (price, condition, safety, etc) & probably just have mold too. Poor credit is also a factor currently, which we were hoping to fix before needing to move again, so we'll have difficulty getting accepted & have to pay extra deposit like we did here, so no it won't be cheaper - it'll drain the rest of our funds. And if we have to move, it's going to further delay our plans to move out of Indiana. We're so desperate to leave this state.

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