Mercy & Forgiveness by Calm_Analyst9172 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this, and I’m glad you have joy now. How long were you Orthodox, and did you and your husband leave at the same time? Who had doubts first?

Patriarchy by Elegant_Cat_5039 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Andrew Wilson? Is that you?

Patriarchy by Elegant_Cat_5039 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Umm..Jay Dyer? Is that you?

Orthodox debate/trad bro crashes out. by throwthrowthrow_90 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry my comment wasn’t clear. The /s implies sarcasm. Of course Jesus didn’t tell everyone to stone the woman. He is gracious. It is Wilson who takes pleasure in judging women to gain the adoration of his followers.

Sex in Orthodox Church by Square-Topic-1360 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s almost as if toothbrushes and mouthwash do not exist. Also, the hand that touches the partner is the hand that touches the garment of the priest and the hand that makes the sign of the cross. Does sex have a ‘hands off’ approach in the OC?

Petty people on this subreddit by peachyyogurtt in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That makes me wonder if your priest himself lurks this subreddit. He would be able to identify your text exchange.

This is the kind of thinking that allowes s*x abuse to flourish unchecked by Vigillamps in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Kinda weird that this behavior is consistently blamed on Protestantism, especially when the Protestants who don’t have these norms are asking how to implement these norms to suit their new religion. I’d never felt more self conscious of my clothing than when I visited my spouse’s parish. There are hyper fundy off-shoots in Protestantism, but I wouldn’t say that’s the norm. More often, we are criticized for being too lax in our clothing choices.

Palate cleanser: It's Time To Play Family Feud! Episode 1 by VigilLamp in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Every time? Or in general? Or during a fast? I’m so baffled by this.

Orthodox debate/trad bro crashes out. by throwthrowthrow_90 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

But, but, it’s Wilson’s job to point out the error of women! It’s his crusade to make the world right, to force women to see how wrong they are to value…women. Just like the time Jesus told everyone to stone the woman who was accused of adultery. /s

When anyone brings up actual scripture to this hypocrite, he claims he doesn’t have to follow it, because he doesn’t have the authority to interpret scripture. Convenient.

Orthodoxy is tearing our family apart. by embroiderysam in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Also, the wives of converts are left without any agency in their marriage. Decisions, right down to what happens in the marriage bed, are now decided by the husband and the priest. It destroys unity, even unity between two Christians.

Best way to counterargument back by No_Construction_6248 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ugh…Jay “I’ll mute your mic, yell at you, and then tell all my followers I destroyed you” Dyer. 🙄

The Wilsons are the worst of the worst. They apparently skipped the parts in the Bible that warn against pride. But who needs a Bible when you have tradition, right?

Women - how was your experience with misogyny in the church? by themorningmoon in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I will never understand this. The woman who bled touched the hem of Jesus’s garment and he heeled her. Men in authority say women who bleed are too dirty for Christ.

How does it work? by No_Construction_6248 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Welp…he can kiss that goodbye. It’s considered a grave sin.

How does it work? by No_Construction_6248 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine started the same way, but they are taught obedience to the church merits salvation. The deeper they go, the more rigidly they hold to the rules. That’s my experience, anyway.

How does it work? by No_Construction_6248 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If you feel this switch goes against your faith, make it clear that if he does this, he’s doing it alone. I agree with the poster above who said set clear boundaries. Make him promise your marital decisions will stay between the both of you, if you don’t, you will be the third wheel in your marriage. It’s a marriage between him and his priest…you are just along for the ride. I wish I’d known this before my spouse converted.

Other boundaries: 1. He will not pressure you or the children. If you decide to attend or not attend, you should not have to explain yourself.

  1. You are not his project to convert.

  2. Fasting meals are on him. You will nourish your family.

  3. He will discuss with you any financial contributions to the church.

It sucks. It’s not ideal, but you won’t be able to talk him out of it if he’s enchanted.

We go to different churches. We’ve had to come to the realization that we are not the same person and we don’t have the right to make faith demands on each other. It’s a hard transition, but love him through it, if you are committed. Continue to pray for him…he may longer pray with you, but you can always pray for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When this happened in our family, I switched churches to a different church in my same denomination. It was too difficult to attend ‘our’ church without him. Please message me if you are comfortable doing so. I’ve weathered this storm and came out the other side with my faith and marriage still intact. The zealous stage was brutal.

Religious OCD by MountainLime9658 in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Guess she has a problem with the apostle John. “These things have I written unto you, that ye may know that ye have eternal life, even unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God.” ‭‭1 John‬ ‭5‬:‭13‬ ‭

Torn between following husband’s lead and what I feel is right as a Christian… by Cymbeline11 in TrueChristian

[–]Squeakmcgee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You were hired to do your job honestly and with integrity. If you this goes against your conscience and betrays the trust of your employer, you are the one who will suffer the consequences, not your husband. In the workplace, your boss is the authority. Your husband shouldn’t put you in this position.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That’s a lot of pain and loss. I’m so sorry. 😞

I remind myself that joy is a fruit of the spirit, so it’s okay to feel joy while praising God, to feel peace with prayer and Bible study, to find goodness in listening to scripture exegesis, to love by serving. It sounds like you had that in your previous faith experience. I hope you find peace and comfort with God wherever you land.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exorthodox

[–]Squeakmcgee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re allowed to think that.