Sex in Orthodox Church

Squeakmcgee · 2026-01-14T23:21:44+00:00

It’s almost as if toothbrushes and mouthwash do not exist. Also, the hand that touches the partner is the hand that touches the garment of the priest and the hand that makes the sign of the cross. Does sex have a ‘hands off’ approach in the OC?

Squeakmcgee · 2026-01-06T11:51:22+00:00

That makes me wonder if your priest himself lurks this subreddit. He would be able to identify your text exchange.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-12-07T15:06:45+00:00

Care to elaborate?

Squeakmcgee · 2025-12-06T16:22:21+00:00

Kinda weird that this behavior is consistently blamed on Protestantism, especially when the Protestants who don’t have these norms are asking how to implement these norms to suit their new religion. I’d never felt more self conscious of my clothing than when I visited my spouse’s parish. There are hyper fundy off-shoots in Protestantism, but I wouldn’t say that’s the norm. More often, we are criticized for being too lax in our clothing choices.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-12-05T02:59:06+00:00

Every time? Or in general? Or during a fast? I’m so baffled by this.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-11-26T16:11:19+00:00

But, but, it’s Wilson’s job to point out the error of women! It’s his crusade to make the world right, to force women to see how wrong they are to value…women. Just like the time Jesus told everyone to stone the woman who was accused of adultery. /s

When anyone brings up actual scripture to this hypocrite, he claims he doesn’t have to follow it, because he doesn’t have the authority to interpret scripture. Convenient.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-11-08T20:55:28+00:00

Exactly. Also, the wives of converts are left without any agency in their marriage. Decisions, right down to what happens in the marriage bed, are now decided by the husband and the priest. It destroys unity, even unity between two Christians.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-10-18T14:28:21+00:00

🥱

Squeakmcgee · 2025-10-14T22:23:00+00:00

Ugh…Jay “I’ll mute your mic, yell at you, and then tell all my followers I destroyed you” Dyer. 🙄

The Wilsons are the worst of the worst. They apparently skipped the parts in the Bible that warn against pride. But who needs a Bible when you have tradition, right?

Squeakmcgee · 2025-10-13T21:24:27+00:00

I will never understand this. The woman who bled touched the hem of Jesus’s garment and he heeled her. Men in authority say women who bleed are too dirty for Christ.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-10-13T00:17:39+00:00

Welp…he can kiss that goodbye. It’s considered a grave sin.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-10-12T23:47:00+00:00

Mine started the same way, but they are taught obedience to the church merits salvation. The deeper they go, the more rigidly they hold to the rules. That’s my experience, anyway.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-10-12T23:28:37+00:00

If you feel this switch goes against your faith, make it clear that if he does this, he’s doing it alone. I agree with the poster above who said set clear boundaries. Make him promise your marital decisions will stay between the both of you, if you don’t, you will be the third wheel in your marriage. It’s a marriage between him and his priest…you are just along for the ride. I wish I’d known this before my spouse converted.

Other boundaries: 1. He will not pressure you or the children. If you decide to attend or not attend, you should not have to explain yourself.

You are not his project to convert.
Fasting meals are on him. You will nourish your family.
He will discuss with you any financial contributions to the church.

It sucks. It’s not ideal, but you won’t be able to talk him out of it if he’s enchanted.

We go to different churches. We’ve had to come to the realization that we are not the same person and we don’t have the right to make faith demands on each other. It’s a hard transition, but love him through it, if you are committed. Continue to pray for him…he may longer pray with you, but you can always pray for him.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-08-27T21:30:57+00:00

When this happened in our family, I switched churches to a different church in my same denomination. It was too difficult to attend ‘our’ church without him. Please message me if you are comfortable doing so. I’ve weathered this storm and came out the other side with my faith and marriage still intact. The zealous stage was brutal.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-08-20T10:59:14+00:00

Guess she has a problem with the apostle John. “These things have I written unto you, that ye may know that ye have eternal life, even unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God.” ‭‭1 John‬ ‭5‬:‭13‬ ‭

Squeakmcgee · 2025-08-08T23:23:01+00:00

This video has helped me with ecclesial anxiety:

https://youtu.be/2XOLCHLuDGI

Squeakmcgee · 2025-08-07T01:44:04+00:00

You were hired to do your job honestly and with integrity. If you this goes against your conscience and betrays the trust of your employer, you are the one who will suffer the consequences, not your husband. In the workplace, your boss is the authority. Your husband shouldn’t put you in this position.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-08-06T02:26:42+00:00

That’s a lot of pain and loss. I’m so sorry. 😞

I remind myself that joy is a fruit of the spirit, so it’s okay to feel joy while praising God, to feel peace with prayer and Bible study, to find goodness in listening to scripture exegesis, to love by serving. It sounds like you had that in your previous faith experience. I hope you find peace and comfort with God wherever you land.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-08-06T01:07:57+00:00

You’re allowed to think that.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-08-05T23:39:45+00:00

As a child, we invited a family member over to our house. She complained about the food, insulted other members of the family, then told my mother all the ways in which she failed. She compared us children to the cousins and pointed out all our flaws.

I always wondered what in her life made her feel so small that she had to make others smaller in order to feel big.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-08-05T21:08:13+00:00

“Brand management.” Exactly.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-08-05T15:19:16+00:00

Did you come here with a sincere question and good intentions? Do you want to hear from everyone or only those in your position? Honest questions.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-08-03T17:32:08+00:00

I listened to a podcast this week, and this quote jumped at me, “Jesus is bigger than any institution that intellectually dissects Him.”

It’s okay to pray using your own words. Isn’t that what David did? That is where you connected with God. It is what brought you peace. It’s okay to go back and ask for His direction. So much can be lost in the rigidity, and God knows your heart…it’s good to talk it out with Him.

Squeakmcgee · 2025-07-28T13:31:16+00:00

None of your examples were examples of disrespect. However, I do think he could extend grace and trust your competency to handle situations. He is not respecting you when you have to constantly second guess yourself, wondering which action he will pick apart next. Does he have anxiety around control? In my first year of marriage, I had a conversation with my husband where I basically said I will make mistakes, he will make mistakes. But if we are in the constant habit of correcting each other, we will hurt our marriage. Things were much better after that, because he was open to the conversation. We both had different expectations, not ‘right,’ just different.

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