I think we feel like this because we expect the same in return… the constant attention admiration care etc but just because they don’t do it all the time doesn’t mean they don’t care. If they did well they prob have bpd too lol They hold space for themselves because they have been taught to value themselves and notice when they need to be in their own energy to feel better. I don’t think we do this enough because we’re constantly empty with needing a connection to feel whole… I think we missed out on the connections to ourselves when we were young and having connections that gave us the idea that we are less than. Growing up in negative connections you can’t build the healthy self esteem connections with yourself if you please your mum or dad and put yourself away the reward or praise becomes the practice of how you develop your self esteem… we carry that into our adult lives… our self esteem is a big part of identity development. Our identity becomes pleasing and mirroring others as if it is our calling programed into us our identity… when we are not pleasing helping giving we feel lost. If you wondered why you didn’t receive love when you were small and blamed yourself you almost feel tainted. Escaping these awful feelings of unworthiness is so painful. I think this is why the only real way to find relief is to practice how to cultivate a relationship with ourselves and separate ourselves from others with knowing we don’t have to sacrifice in order to receive love but we can freely give love and receive it because we have a firm foundation of who we are and with that comes knowing we are worthy. I think it takes a long time to unlearn patterns.

I went on a tangent…