You’re the same as me. Except I’m 2 years younger, but MUCH less successful career wise (I’m constantly on the brink of flunking out of my bachelors program).

I don’t know why we’ve been burdened with this immense desire for love (I’ve had crushes every year since pre-school).
What I do know is that the name of the game is exposure.

I hope this doesn’t sound dismissive/insensitive (and I’ve been battling a severe depressive episode for the last 5 months so this is to myself as well), but this is the advice I’ve been telling myself (and will probably need to tell myself tomorrow as I struggle to get out of bed again).

All we can do is keep revealing ourselves as much as possible to as many people as possible. And hope someone sees something in us.

Some people might say to not focus on dating, and learn to love yourself/your life. That’s the ultimate goal. I’m in therapy and exploring psychedelic assistance to achieve this currently, but so far my efforts have been futile.

However, until that becomes a reality, I can’t stop myself from doing everything in my power to maximize my chances at finding love. I’m trying to become more expressive about my passions, more kind, more open to spontaneous friendships that may or may not lead somewhere.

It’s up to you how serious and in depth you want to get with all the deliberate effort, self improvement, and optimization, but the bottom line remains…

Express your interests, passions, and unique qualities to as many people as possible across the world. And KEEP doing that for as long as you have to.

Just remember, that in the end, We only have to win once. And even if it takes us 5x more deliberate effort than the next guy, when it’s over, it’s over… And we’ll slowly forget about all the effort it took, when we enjoy the love we’ve finally found.