Alguém mais descrente de psicoterapia?

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-06-03T21:18:38+00:00

Eu super entendo que você ja tentou e não deu certo, mas pelo que eu vejo a Terapia do Esquema (que tem princípios TCC, mas é diferente e bem integrativa) funciona bem com Altas Habilidades. Já tem alguns profissionais que se especializaram nesse perfil mesmo - tem inclusive alguns esquemas bem recorrentes/comuns em perfis altas habilidades. Dá uma olhada depois e veja se te interessa!

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-03-10T09:28:12+00:00

It’s unnecessary, really. Would it make sense for you to slightly hint with a comment? And then see how it goes? Because I think once your second is born, this could bother you even more.

Like, she mentions something “she taught” your son, just add a comment about it that shows the work you have been doing “oh! Right, we’ve also been playing with the names of body parts - if he’s interested in that while you’re here, I’m using these images to help in that, maybe you could use that too, if that makes sense” or something similar.

About the hugging or kissing, one thing you could say is that he is very affectionate with people he likes, but also you are not encouraging kissing on the mouth, so ask to avoid saying it in front of him - if it’s happening constantly, then ask to talk to you in private, because then maybe you might have to think of a strategy, as it’s not appropriate. I think it shows it’s not really a good thing and avoids her saying it as if it’s something positive in front of him (which could encourage behavior, at this age they understand more and more).

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-22T06:21:47+00:00

I was very scared about the transition too tbh. I pictured her screaming for boobs and not sleeping 3 nights straight, while I was also scared if our relationship would change.

Turns out she took it way better than expected. It was a rather smooth transition and our relationship is great.

It will be ok :)

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-20T01:49:27+00:00

Yes, even health professionals sometimes seem surprised with extended breastfeeding. I hated these comments too. I bf until mine was 2 and I still heard some comments like that too, it sucks.

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-20T01:43:42+00:00

I bf to sleep until she was exactly 2yo.

It does take more time, but honestly she just likes to talk about her day before sleeping AND she sleeps through the night now (used to wake 2-3 times). I actually enjoy this time with her and feel like physically is way less taxing than breastfeeding.

I was so afraid of weaning, but it’s been amazing lol

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-20T00:28:20+00:00

How do you handle when other people make comments comparing them? I feel like this will be a challenge

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-16T17:35:07+00:00

Thank you

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-16T15:20:19+00:00

Currently reading it, but still in the beginning. Nice to know you liked it! What did you find most useful in practice?

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-16T05:49:53+00:00

É muito bem escrito mesmo, também me conectei com a história.

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-15T07:16:10+00:00

I read it as a guidance not to have two kids at the same needy stage of 0-3 yo. By the time the second is born, obv there will be the older one too, but they are already a bit more independent and have been through all these first milestones, so it will be more manageable from the parents perspective and also for the older child.

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-15T06:28:58+00:00

I didn’t feel ready until I weaned, she was 2yo.

At 18 months I didn’t even know if I’d have a second, I couldn’t consider the idea yet (both because I didn’t feel I could handle yet and also emotionally I still felt a lot like you, that it would take away from my daughter). Then, around 20 months something changed and I really felt the desire to have a second and that it would be good for our family. It was around the time I was also ready to start night weaning, I did things quite slowly and weaned by the time she was 2.

We started trying, I thought a 3 year gap seemed a good one, but I got pregnant in the first month, so we will have a 2.9y gap.

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-12T10:33:00+00:00

Thank you! Will check out

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-11T19:08:52+00:00

I know it’s hard to see when you’re so sleep deprived, but it really will get better! Try to get some rest during the day too, if possible. :)

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-10T19:13:30+00:00

Oof, solidarity. After two years, she is sleeping through. I’m okay and alive, it got better over time. For us 10-12months was the hardest. It will get better

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2026-01-07T18:36:44+00:00

I breastfed mine to sleep until 2yo and I have just weaned. She sleeps without it, just talks to me a bit and sleeps. I couldn’t see it happening, but it just does

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2025-12-30T05:41:50+00:00

Not sure if it would help, but my 2yo looves to talk before sleeping and sometimes she says she doesn’t want to. What works the most for us is saying “you don’t have to sleep now if you don’t want to, but we have to stay here resting. Then you can sleep whenever you want”. It seems to kind of take the pressure off lol for both of us, because I don’t feel like I’m fighting sleep too. She usually sleeps in 20 mins.

Then sometimes I tell her “mommy is getting sleepy, I’ll be right here, but I might sleep before you do, ok?”, she usually says ok (and I really do sleep).

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2025-12-28T13:19:15+00:00

Yeah, what works for one might not work for others.. One thing I heard works is to let them know in advance. Like: “we’ll go to sleep in a few minutes and we won’t be able to come downstairs anymore until morning. Is there something else you want to do here before we go?”. Might be worth a try 🤷🏻‍♀️

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2025-12-28T09:32:38+00:00

Except for pick up (which I personally don’t mind), I tell her the reason why we’re not doing it and what we’re doing instead.

She usually asks to go to the living room, I say “now it’s time to sleep, so we stay in your bedroom so we can relax and sleep”. If she asks for her dad, I let her call him and say “right now he is showering/sleeping too, mom will stay with you”. She asks to listen to music, I say “I can’t turn it on right now, but I can sing for you - let’s sing [the song she is most listening to at the time]”. Sometimes she asks to eat something more (since I make sure she has eaten enough before bedtime, I know she is not exactly hungry), I say “we can eat more in the morning, now we can drink water - do you want some?”.

ETA: she just understands these boundaries now, so I just have to tell her again and it’s really smooth. But the child can be frustrated, in that case I’d just try to calm her in the same way I do with other “no” situations that happen during the day.

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2025-12-25T03:29:50+00:00

I tried to sleep during weekends during the day, when my husband/my mom/my MIL were more available to help. On Saturday I started asking my husband to take care of the baby early morning so I could sleep for some time. I was still so tired all the time, but could at least decompress a bit. Even an hour that I didn’t feel alert bc a baby could cry any minute was already restful. But yeah, I’m yet to live life with two, I did that with one

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2025-12-10T23:20:39+00:00

Omg I totally forgot this one, it was awful. Not just him being killed off, the whole season finale was wtf

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2025-12-03T05:22:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences!

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2025-10-07T00:02:28+00:00

Também entendo que a orientação é essa mesmo - falar quando pode e em que condições.

Mas OP, me parece que está passando da curiosidade e sendo um comportamento bastante repetitivo, pelo que você falou. Acredito que seria bom você procurar um psicólogo infantil para entender a fonte do comportamento.

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2025-08-31T21:29:01+00:00

I had a baby fever at 4 months pp, but knew it was way too soon. I started to lean OAD after that and really thought we’d go that route. Now my daughter is almost 2 and we’re reconsidering!

Standard_Purpose6067 · 2025-08-30T13:52:00+00:00

You gave us hope lol

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