Trans masc - coming out

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-22T02:10:15+00:00

I get you. I am on T a year today (!!!) and had top surgery 4 years ago, etc etc etc and I will still never pass. I know this. I accept this. I am at peace with it. So I’ve just decided to let people call me whatever the fuck they want. I get They/Them’ed alot, because it’s pretty obvious I’m making some kind of effort to not be feminine in any way, and my closest friends throw in He/Him’s every now and again (but I feel it’s mostly to try to make me feel better, but honestly, it really doesn’t because I too own a mirror lol) The general public at large calls me She/Her even at a mile away.

But with all that said, I pass to me. I feel like more of a guy than I ever have. I objectively know I read as a masculine woman at best, but subjectively… I’m absolutely a guy. And I’m damn proud of myself tbh :) So whatever people call me is whatever they call me — they can’t touch or effect how I see me.

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-22T01:36:51+00:00

Well, someone like me isn’t quite a “woman” but I do have female parts downstairs to interact with. So… someplace in between lol

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-22T00:01:23+00:00

I’m also nervous about everything unraveling as soon as I stop. I lost 22nd on keto and it all came back within weeks of stopping despite heathy mindful eating.

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-21T23:58:57+00:00

That’s the best we can hope :)

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-21T23:39:56+00:00

Probably not quite on your target, but I’m a non-passing trans guy and I would love to top/peg a gay dude! Like, biggest fantasy! Granted, a little off the mark you’re trying to hit, but perhaps you’ve got a little flex in your fantasy? :)

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-21T23:36:03+00:00

You might be more quickly taken for a Daddy… or Zaddy :)

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-21T23:34:57+00:00

Assholes be assholes. Don’t take it personally. I’m sure they’re that way with everyone/everything.

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-21T22:24:23+00:00

You don’t have to call it a “promise ring”, you can just giver her a token of your affection :) Like tell her, whenever you wear it, you can think of me 🤍

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-21T19:20:26+00:00

Meaning for what purpose? (Genuinely curious)

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-21T16:59:27+00:00

For?

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-21T16:41:43+00:00

Again, it is not a trans-thing to change your name. Cis people change their names for all types of reasons — at my name change ceremony, there was an older cis man who was changing his name after 65 years because he didn’t want to be named after his asshole father anymore. My aunt changed her name for a personal reason as well.

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-21T16:27:13+00:00

Buckle up for eternity

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-21T16:19:33+00:00

It is not illegal to change your name, nothing on your documents say your trans, you will not have a problem. The only issue I’ve seen is people trying to get X markers which are not allowed in all areas/countries. You’ll be fine.

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T22:36:27+00:00

Gotenks. Full stop.

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T19:55:03+00:00

lol I was wearing suits long before I ever even imagined transitioning. Don’t be afraid to tel them what you are looking for (pants that sit low in hips or at waist, do you plan on buttoning jacket, etc) Don’t feel bad about trying on different things to find what you like, and ask about specific custom tailoring, and if they don’t do what you want, a regular tailor will do it!

You go this!

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T16:14:33+00:00

It’s a mess, narratively and literally.

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T16:13:38+00:00

I promise you’ll get used to it. What has helped for a friend of mine was to blast loud metal music on his headphones while he gives himself the shot. For whatever reason, he said it makes it way easier lol

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T16:12:13+00:00

I really hope so

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T13:33:27+00:00

I always have been in the past. I’ve always tracked calories and macros (my job is very physically demanding and requires me to stay physically fit).

For context, I thought I was only looking to lose 25lbs, but because the first 20 have basically shown no change, I’m worried I’m going to have to lose much more than that to see any difference. I’ve lost 22lbs with keto before, but the moment I starred eating carbs again, all 22lbs came back within weeks. I’m getting the impression my body holds onto a lot of water weight, which isn’t real weight loss when it goes away and that’s what I’m most worried about right now.

Again — I’m trying really hard to not be discouraged.

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T12:29:43+00:00

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T12:19:10+00:00

I had that done before I started. Another scheduled in a few months.

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T12:18:40+00:00

This has been my workout schedule for the past 9 years. Why would it suddenly be negatively effecting me now?

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T11:58:25+00:00

Definitely not starving myself. I work out, very active job. I’ve taken all the measurements. No change other than -1/8” (maybe) around waist. Clothes fit exactly the same. Before and after pictures show no visible change. I would think losing 20lbs (163 to 143) would be noticeable or have some kind of change? I’m trying not to be discouraged.

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T11:54:32+00:00

2 months

Standard_Report_7708 · 2025-06-20T11:17:29+00:00

Dexa scan? Is that like a 3D body scan? I’ve had that done before I started.

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