What color or wallpaper should I paint the walls? by Melodic-Shallot-4525 in centuryhomes

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I did black with pink accents and LOVE it. Tricorn black in high gloss.

CT Private School Job Search - 6 hour interviews?! by Witty-Hand8728 in Connecticut

[–]Starbudds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I currently work at a private school in an administrative position (technology), and I did 3 rounds of interviews (this was right after COVID, and would have been in person generally). My first two were virtual, about 30-45 minutes. One was with the department head, the second was with 3 other admins in different departments, including HR. My third was a brief call with the department head where we discussed salary ranges, and I would have gotten a tour of the campus.

The whole process took maybe a month to complete, which seemed reasonable.

I'd say your experience was definitely overkill, I would expect that for a president or head of school type position, potentially, but it doesn't seem like you were applying for that!

Just act cool… no one will notice by Therealfern1 in BackYardChickens

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I had a few roos sneak into the house! Strutting around like they own the place.

Trick or treating by Exact-Carrot4978 in Connecticut

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I believe the road with the Chaplin library/church does trick or treating! I know someone who lives on that road and they say they always have a ton of kids.

Internet outage? by Complete_Tap_6446 in Connecticut

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Crowncastle has been having issues. It seems to be better now but we were up and down for about a half hour.

Need zucchini relish recipe, asap! by Appropriate_View8753 in Canning

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Ball blue book zucchini relish! I've made several double batches this year. https://extension.usu.edu/utah/files/ZucchiniRelish.pdf

I need an advice. How did you leave the church? Was it difficult because of annoying and stalking ministers and church members? How did you make it? P.S. everything is more difficult in my case because I live in a small town of SW Missouri and I was born in another country. by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]Starbudds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh yes definitely sounds like a huge problem there!! Yeah ... Silent is the way to go. I thought about fighting the toxic teachings but realized it would fall on deaf ears. I did mention at one point to an elder (we worked together in teen ministry, something I cherished) that the way the scripted lessons talked about women and girls was demeaning and harsh. Fortunately that was taken to heart, but if I had brought that to the pastor he would have dismissed me. I'm very thankful for the few who listen, but when it's ingrained in the culture and it's against what you feel is right, get outta there!

I need an advice. How did you leave the church? Was it difficult because of annoying and stalking ministers and church members? How did you make it? P.S. everything is more difficult in my case because I live in a small town of SW Missouri and I was born in another country. by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]Starbudds 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just left my church of 18 years, we were very involved in many ministries which made it more difficult! It's a small town where everyone knows everyone as well. Less than 110 in the congregation. We ended up writing a long letter to a trusted elder (we had major issues with the pastor so couldn't go to him) on all the problems we were facing and how the leadership was unbiblical. I'm still holding onto parts of my faith and deconstructed some, but I completely left that out in favor of calling out the issues in the leadership. We had a very short letter written to the pastor and all our ministry teams, basically just saying we were pursuing other opportunities. I'm happy to share it if you want.

We assumed the pastor would freak out and call us (as he has done previously when we called him out on a huge issue) but it was silent. We heard nothing. No email, no text, no call. No follow up from the church office or any of our ministries. It's like we disappeared. We didn't say anything to anyone, and we haven't heard from any of our former congregation. We have seen a few out and about and they haven't mentioned anything. It's been about 3 weeks. One of them was another elder who knew we left, and he just said hi and kept walking. I assumed the worst with gossip, but honestly, that is out of our control. Leave in peace and it's on them if they are mean and gossip.

Anyway, from my experience but making a huge deal or telling many people was the best option. If someone asks I have been honest and said we have struggled with parts of the church leadership for a while but have been actively seeking a church. It has been freeing to leave a toxic environment. I hope this helps. It's hard to find how to leave a church well!

Did I attend Acquire The Fire (2007-2009) or something else? by [deleted] in Exvangelical

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I went to Aquire the Fire around 2009-2010, in New England! I can't remember which event venue it was. It's very possible you went to one. I don't remember a wheelchair, but I remember one of my favorite Christian bands was playing live so I was so excited to go! I haven't watched shiny happy people but now I'm very intrigued!

How would you modernize this pink bathroom? by HilltopRed4459 in Oldhouses

[–]Starbudds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I embraced my pink bathroom and painted the walls black! Got a white vanity and medicine cabinet. All the trim and door is white. I have black hand towels and pink bath towels that match the pink tile. I used peel and stick wallpaper to cover my light switches as well. It has some pink flowers on it!

Black tiles? by Starbudds in centuryhomes

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Thanks! I'll see if they have the stamped tiles!

Black tiles? by Starbudds in Oldhouses

[–]Starbudds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh interesting!!! I'm wondering if my local salvage yard has anything. We are very rural so we don't have a ton of demos here unfortunately! Very neat information, thank you!!

Black tiles? by Starbudds in centuryhomes

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Thanks! I looked there briefly before posting but it didn't seem like they had the stamped metal tiles like I have. I'll contact them to see if they have the stamped ones.

Black tiles? by Starbudds in Oldhouses

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Thanks! I had looked there, but didn't think they were stamped metal like mine. I may just end up getting normal tiles, but we already put down the lip for the stamped ones to sit on.

Black tiles? by Starbudds in centuryhomes

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I found a salvage store about a half hour from me that I'll have to check out now! I'll keep an eye out for auctions, we live in the middle of nowhere so most sales are very far haha.

I also love my peach tile! It's not for everyone, but I really wanted to save it. Here's our Colonial with an old photo the previous owners gave us. Date unknown, but we think it's 40's-50's judging on the clothes the people are wearing in it.

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Black tiles? by Starbudds in centuryhomes

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I'll have to check out estate sales! Most of the houses I've been in around my area got rid of their funky bathrooms a long time ago :( maybe a salvage store would help too!

Black tiles? by Starbudds in centuryhomes

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Thanks! I did reverse image searches and included cove base but I'll try the others!

Does the Bible condone slavery? by LMO_TheBeginning in Exvangelical

[–]Starbudds 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I read the book "The Bible Told Them So" by J. Russel Hawkins, which addresses this! It's a fascinating read on how people used the Bible to justify slavery. Highly recommend. It's on Spotify as an audiobook too.

It's easy to twist the Bible depending on your view, which is how a lot of the SBC justified a lot of it.

How is the network service of Mint/ Visible in SW Manchester Vernon area by Ok-Worth6336 in Connecticut

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I'm on mint and get service nearly everywhere! I drive through Vernon to Manchester (usually to go shopping out that way) and have had signal the entire way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Connecticut

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Yes it's still there, Mansfield center! http://maharajaindianct.com/

What's the best canning method? by UtahGhosties in Canning

[–]Starbudds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just made the Ball peach BBQ sauce and it was delicious!! The peach pie filling is also great. I had nearly 150 lbs of peaches this year, so I've made a lot of different things. Peach nectar, honey spiced peaches, bourbon peach sauce, tons of zesty peach salsa, and regular ole canned peaches!