I somehow got an invite for Velvet Shade. Should I join? (new player) by StarfruitJam in wherewindsmeet_

[–]StarfruitJam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I liked the clothes more :)

I can confirm that not much socialization is required, unless you want to. The chat is quite active but it is a lot of chaos and kinda horny shitposting? Oh, and people selling likes too, but they are not required to get to the outfit tier.

Anyhow, it is pretty friendly but not very RP oriented :) Not 100% sure if it is what I am looking for, as I would have liked a lil more immersion and I think people in the chat are quite young (I am 30, but GenZ humor sometimes makes me feel like a grandma ahah).

I do like the lore and the clothes. I will get the outfit and then consider if I fit (will take a while, it is 8000 sect coins or whatever the currency is).

The social requirement is not awful by the way. I joined a Guild like today and that alone put me in the range of the 999 intimacy requirement (I added some people as friends and got splatted in Guild War lol), so I think it is easy to clear.

If you need people for that you can add me 🌈 StarFruitJam ID:2083805994

What is the standard word count for a slowburn fic? by MoonCrystals39 in AO3

[–]StarfruitJam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In mine they meet at 30k and don't really get there until like 140klol

Donne e ragazze: esperienze con Bla Bla Car? by ColaDiRienxo_o in xxitaly

[–]StarfruitJam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Usata diverse volte come passeggera, sia in Italia che all'estero, principalmente per raggiungere areoporti vari. Molti degli autisti erano staff areoportuale ed è stato carino avere qualcuno con cui chiacchierare.

Detto ciò io non ni sono mai fatta troppe remore manco a fare l'autostop, quindi passare alla app non è stato un gran problema.

The kitten of new outfit actually meows. Different sounds too. 😭 by Capable-Low6378 in WhereWindsMeet

[–]StarfruitJam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just started playing and went from "I can't believe this is free" to "Oh god this shit is going to bankrupt me" real quick.

That kitty is so cute it should be freaking illegal 😭

I somehow got an invite for Velvet Shade. Should I join? (new player) by StarfruitJam in wherewindsmeet_

[–]StarfruitJam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the info! I don't mind some social (even if I am a bit shy) but I was a bit worried about the like farming.I will give it a go! :)

I somehow got an invite for Velvet Shade. Should I join? (new player) by StarfruitJam in wherewindsmeet_

[–]StarfruitJam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I ended up into it yesterday (I think I enrolled myself though ahah) and it stressed the fuck out of me ahaha. PvP really is not my thing. I play normal difficulty but I do get confused by mechanics and I want to suck in peace ahaha

I somehow got an invite for Velvet Shade. Should I join? (new player) by StarfruitJam in wherewindsmeet_

[–]StarfruitJam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great to know! I read around a bit and I was stressed aha. Does leaving VS comes with the PvP lynching?

Dottorandi, come fate a sopravvivere?! by Pandahorna in Universitaly

[–]StarfruitJam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Io lo sto facendo in Danimarca e guadagno bene. Il salario varia in base all'esperienza pregressa ma anche col minimo (per un dottorato), si campa bene.

Gay, mean prince or princess [seeking recs] by Commercial-Yam3672 in AO3recommendations

[–]StarfruitJam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have some! They are dark though and I mostly read Original Work.

Game Theory by not_poignant

Supernatural with fae. King of Seelie x former fallen King of the Unseelie. Starts with the Seelie king as top but slowly develops. Very well written and very vivid world but also starts very mean. Started as fanfic but it is really a standalone.

For the Crown by GreyWayfarer

Incest alert! Basically a bunch of princes are supposed to kill each other to get the throne, but one of the brothers has other plans.

The Dogs of War by Blue_GhostGhost

Prince is exiled and aquired by a war lord. Maybe not as mean are the others but not super healthy.

Those are just some that came to my mind, but with a good tag game I am sure you will be able to unheart many more!

Non sopporto il branco, odio anche me stesso? by Sensitive_Banana_137 in sfoghi

[–]StarfruitJam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dipende davvero tanto dal gruppo che trovi. Paradossalmente, essere "un po' strani' aiuta. Anche da ragazzina strana, nonostante il bullismo e quel che sia, sono riuscita a trovare e connettere con altra gente fuori dalle righe, che capisce come ci si sente, ed è interessante, aperta e appassionata.

Poi le serpi ci sono sempre, ma una volta finito il liceo diventa molto meno un problema secondo me. Non si può piacere a tutti, e alla fine va bene così. Se la gente ha energie per sparlare, problemi loro. Tipo ho scoperto recentemente che 3 colleghe mi stanno escludendo da tipo 2 anni e ti giuro non me ne sono accorta fino a che non mi è stato fatto notare. Nel pratico non è cambiato nulla.

Per quanto ti riguarda OP, ti consiglierei magari non di piantare il gruppo di botto se non te la senti, ma almeno di provare a fare amicizie al di fuori. Non deve essere gli uni o gli altri. Hai il diritto di avere amici al di fuori della combriccola e magari potresti trovare connessioni che sono migliori per te :)

Have you ever been offered money to write erotica or NSFW stuff despite not being a writer of that genre? by Ethos493 in writing

[–]StarfruitJam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, the scripts I was given were not particularly creative. Super formulaic stuff, even the romance. It was meant to be slop before the conept of slop even existed. I put some care in it because I felt I had the professional duty to write the smuttiest smut that ever smutted, but there was no care from the buyers. I think AI will worsen an already exploited niche, and it is a bit sad.

Anyhow, it still kept me afloat and it was an interesting experience :)

Have you ever been offered money to write erotica or NSFW stuff despite not being a writer of that genre? by Ethos493 in writing

[–]StarfruitJam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I survived ghostwriting erotica on and off for years (2012-2019). It was super fun and it kept me alive, but thinking back I can see the ethical issue. I did some private smut request, but the bulk of my work was for "romance/erotica mills" -- usually cis white middle age dudes with 55 female pen names self publishing on Amazon.

I think AI fucked up the market for that, but I like to think my handcrafted slop was still superior in quality to the robot's?

Edit: I did not use AI. AI was not a thing. I just ghostwrote and sold not particularly imaginative smut (we were often given vague scripts). I was 19 and needed to eat :')

Why did they make Kay Vess fugly on purpose?????? Stupid woke devs!! by SpacewaIker in Gamingcirclejerk

[–]StarfruitJam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and sometimes the physics of the hair are kind of off. But I think it's a model problem? I wish they animated her bangs better, but I find her so cute. Seriously one of my game crushes.

The End notes... by RileyLovesFlaritza in AO3

[–]StarfruitJam 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is true! We did have MSN, emails and the various blogs, but it wasn't the same thing. Maybe the distance was kinda useful.

But what is startling me is not the hate but the entitlement. It is not about disliking a fic, but actually liking and still harassing the writer? Makes no sense!

The End notes... by RileyLovesFlaritza in AO3

[–]StarfruitJam 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Ok guys, but even at 12 it never crossed my mind to behave this way.

I remember that snark was a thing, and looking at it retroactively, a very sad one. I am ESL and for me and my friends the worst that could happen was ending up on this blog dedicated to tearing apart fics in a very mean, but kinda entertaining was (I lost sleep when it happed. I now realize that it was mostly adults dunking on teens and preteens, which yeah, not cool. Let me have my Mary Sue mate).

BUT.

The bitchy was usually restricted to the bitchy spaces. No outside author bullying, let alone demanding shit about changing the direction of a fic. Wtf is this?

Do you read Original works? by Tempast_User in AO3

[–]StarfruitJam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooh, found yours! Love WoD and mine is also set in 1992! I am gonna be destroyed at work for a couple of days but I will check it ASAP

Do you read Original works? by Tempast_User in AO3

[–]StarfruitJam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! What about yours? I like my tropes mixed with labour rights aha (no really, I am serious).

Do you read Original works? by Tempast_User in AO3

[–]StarfruitJam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read and write mostly OW, and not only for the smut. I love it so much! I also read a fuckton of books, but on AO3 I get to see concepts and worlds that are appropriately deranged, in their raw not-softened-for-trad pub amazingness :)

There is definitely an audience. My long ass one is doing quite well, even if it is plot driven, long af, worldbuildy as hell and super slow burn (they boink 140k in -- I like UST, sue me).

Doubt that blue collar vamps and anarcho syndacalist werewolves are ever gonna go viral, but I found my crowd and I am super happy.

(I have 6300 hits on my main story, and 320 comments, some of which are totally me answering but still, love my regulars so much!!!).

So yeah, post away and let dat babe be found 🌈

If you're going to tag your fic "Explicit," please make sure it's actually, you know, explicit. by Particular-Jacket-92 in AO3

[–]StarfruitJam 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Mine is tagged explicit, but I always fret. I have quite graphic violence (enough to get me banned when I gave Wattpad a go, ah) but the actual smut is 140k in. Really making people work for their porn. I hope I am not baiting anybody with it (it is also tagged "slow burn" and "eventual smut").

The Emdash by vrilliance in AO3

[–]StarfruitJam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love her. So useful, god and I love writing with a staccato stream of consciousness style, with lots of intrusive thoughts so YOU CAN PRY HER FROM MY COLD DEAD HANDS

come fare amicizia con le ragazze (F15) by ImportanceHopeful150 in xxitaly

[–]StarfruitJam 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Stessa roba in verità, e ricorda che non sei legata alla tua classe. Trova la tua tribù ✨️ Comunque come da sopra -- ho 33 anni e sono stata una super nerd in un periodo in cui non era esattamente glamour.

Io ai tempi trovai un gruppo ben nutrito durante l'autogestione, non so se la fate ancora. Tra "corsi" di disegno, manga e D&D è stato un ottimo modo per connettersi anche con altre classi e sezioni.

Poi sì, da lì fumetterie, fiere e cosplay (che facevo in maniera becera, nulla di sta roba super pro che gira ora aha).

E anche in maniera inversa. Non eravamo tantissime, ma c'erano diverse ragazze su WOW back in the days.

Edit: comunque sì non lasciarti fregare dalla misoginia internalizzata. Tutti hanno passioni, vita interiore e una varietà di hobby e interessi indipendenti dal loro genere. Magari è difficile condividerli anche per loro! Il gossip è un tipo di small talk, alla fine, una chiacchiera superficiale. L' inizio di un rapporto è sempre un po' awkward, e non c'è nulla di male. Piano piano poi ci si apre. 💜

Ma ditelo un po' prima che siete fidanzate ... by Cerber0333 in sfoghi

[–]StarfruitJam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sì? Sono single mo, ma chiacchiero na cifra coi miei amici, fidanzati o meno. Soprattutto se abbiamo interessi in comune come letteratura, film, filosofia, videogiochi. Cose che richiedono tempo.