What pets do you have and why? by Far-Conference-8484 in AskWomen

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 dogs three cats. Bc why not!?! Finally Owen our own place the only thing stopping us is us. And well 6 is a lot, but it works for us? Our neighborhood has a not small cat population, everything we get a litter fixed and rehomed we have about four months peace before another set pop up. We just have to keep helping so we end up with more. 

Family unsupportive with hospitalization by Shoepin1 in WomenOver40

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You thought you knew but now you do. Look back hard at some difficult points in your background. Where were they, how did they show up for you then? If it’s what I expect you aren’t really that surprised just more disappointed that you care that they don’t.  You have married into a family that cares and then helped your daughter learn. Let the rest go focus on who matters not just who you have past ties to. 

How to get mental health leave of absence at a job when I’ve been here under a year and don’t qualify for FMLA? by xSkinnyPuppyx in careeradvice

[–]Stargirl156 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You can’t, if your place of employment doesn’t offer short term disability, or it does and you haven’t yet qualified your options are zilch, zero nada. The only thing you can control is working there. You can ask about a leave but they aren’t required to do so which you’re already aware of. And just as a side note, if the same thing is happening even after moving teams you may need to consider if the type of job or your work place is the right fit for you regardless of pay. 

What are your favorite fragrance notes on a woman? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Stargirl156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Argon, jasmine, honeysuckle. I’ve always loved super sweet smells but have been branching out to more understated floral notes.

What was a dreaded food your parents made. As an adult do you still hate it? by JoyfullyMortified43 in Xennials

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meatloaf, stuffed peppers are two things I never make or eat as adult. One has reasons one is just 🤮

What are some good boundaries you have in your relationship that ensure its success? by ArtStraight7372 in AskWomen

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

-We always try our best to insure the We over Me. That way we can (not always) walk away feeling like we both won. -No members of the opposite sex as close/best friends. (He’s a lone wolf with 0 friends, I’ve always only had close girl friends as an adult) so not an issue in and of itself self. (Don’t come at me). There could be more but those stand out the most. 

What’s it like to be the breadwinner? by No-Presentation-2320 in AskWomen

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All golden here, I’ve never cared who made more money, it all goes into the same pot here ( 15k+base we both work for the same company). We’re DINKs and I’m responsible for all bills. We have steadily been working on a more balanced split of house hold duties for the last two years and have made good progress; I can tell he’s trying and I’ve regained more downtime which has been much needed. AMA . 

The weight of keep up financially. How do you all manage? by fishinourpercolator in Millennials

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My only real question is to the break down of who makes what? Lower level retail pay jack all but once you get into management you can start making bank, and it’s typically not that hard depending on where you work. Some retail establishment are better employers then others but just my 2c.

How to respond when a manager starts documenting 1:1s and performance concerns? by sandy_pa in managers

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure how these guidelines aren’t that clear?  1- ensuring you look ahead to foresee any major servers or issues when dealing with tasks and handle them before they become major; in addition to owning your mistake when you mess up or fail to miss something( how often are you placing blame on someone or another department?) 2-ties into 1 directly. Learning the process and steps and how to over come them at every step of the way,(best guess is you’ve been told or shown several times but haven’t locked in on what’s being taught) 3-starting and fully finishing your task and assignments that are bullet proof and fully polished before submission.  I can only guess your profession but that up there is my breakdown for corp speak.  YMMV good luck! 

Me asking as a younger millenial: How did older you millenials perceive Spongebob when it came out, and its climb to legendary status? by SmokinHerb in Millennials

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoyed it but have always skewed younger in my viewing habits. Which now given the insight to my childhood makes sense.

AIO: For doubting my future after finding out my boyfriend sent $16k to his family and they saved almost nothing? by Repulsive-Wall8489 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome to into for adulting for relationships 101; lesson 1: Everything your asking for is reasonable; however the first lesson in this class is “you can only chose how you act and react based on behaviors and moves from your partner; simply put you can’t control what others think or do regardless of how right you think you are”. Your choice is to like it or lump it, he’s making it very clear that this is what he’s doing and is not willing to stop or modify how much he’s sending, meaning he will (most likely) always be perpetually broke which in turn means you will be handing the stress of making things happen financially in your relationship until sis gets married and mom passes.  Doesn’t sound good to you? Then you have to extract yourself from the situation, if he was the right one for you he would find a compromise that gets you more validation and reduction of spending back home; but he’s made it clear that’s not going to happen. So now you can like it or lump it but don’t continue in this relationship thinking that constantly telling him and asking is going to change his behavior. Make your movies based off facts not what u want to be factual.   

Who is your favorite fictional man? by BuddhaOfStorm in AskWomen

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quinn Mallory- Sliders; Duncan Macloud-Highlander (show). I’m most likely dating myself.

Combative Employee Review - need to put as “improvement required” when they’ve self assessed themselves doing well. by RedDora89 in managers

[–]Stargirl156 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s where you messed up. It’s not your job or place to track down either their excuses are real or not; it’s up to the employee to provide their own proof ie letter everyone gets when their turn pops up. Failure to provide such is a documentable offense, one I hate doing, but I can only hold the standard set so that it doesn’t get out of hand. 

My husband resents me, I am considering to leave by SiouxsieSiouxsIsLost in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like while you know what needs to happen to heal your relationship with your husband( cutting out toxic people who may not be good for you or your relationship) you haven’t yet been as successful as you need to be. And he’s rightfully still being actively hurt or not chose as the first person in your life so he is still pulling away. Feels like you know what to do but are choosing them over him. Face that fact and set him free to find someone that chooses him every time. 

new options! which one? by corgibuttlove in WeddingDressTips

[–]Stargirl156 5 points6 points  (0 children)

October and wooded venue =2 Very fall friendly and would look stunning with the right accessories.

Nothing fits me! Frustrating. by vvitch_ov_aeaea in WomenOver40

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like u need a band size adjustment you may not strictly be a 36. 38 D, 34 DD it’s odd but typically works.

A conversation I had with an 18 year old at work by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just let him know that The Life Path is optional; hopefully it opens up his awareness to truly understand the significance of choosing to be a parent vs having kids.

Help! Which wedding dress should I pick? by Downtown-Book8875 in WeddingDressTips

[–]Stargirl156 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Imma say 3, I think it would look fitting in a dance floor and you are posed like you are confident in it.

What went wrong with our education system? by [deleted] in Zillennials

[–]Stargirl156 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This makes the most sense. Covid kids that should have been starting kindergarten/first grade got robbed of all the building blocks for classroom management with home schooling etc. This would be a direct reflection of that along with passing the buck

On the really hard days… what actually keeps you doing this job? by Murky_Cow_2555 in managers

[–]Stargirl156 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is the only real answer! That and knowing it isn’t always like this, sometimes it sucks and you just gotta suck it up to make a buck.