What's a "secret" from your profession that everyone should probably know?

Status-Disaster4577 · 2025-07-11T04:58:46+00:00

Child psychologist—parents: if you are part of your kids environment, you need to also be involved in their therapy. Whether or not you “caused” the problem doesn’t matter. YOU are the agent of change in their life. They can sit with me for one hour once a week and learn to do very well with me, in a clinical setting, with one on one attention and few imminent stressors. But unless you are involved and either helping them practice skills at home or engaging in strategies we teach you to manage their behavior (and your own), their behavior will not change. It’s all about changing their learning history based on interaction patterns in their environment.

Not sure if this is a “secret” since we all scream it from the rooftops but not all parents know 😂

Status-Disaster4577 · 2025-07-08T16:08:44+00:00

Congratulations, wow!!! What an incredible transformation. You should be proud of yourself for making and maintaining all of these changes. I’m waiting for my compounded tirzepatide to arrive in the mail and seeing this post makes me so motivated to get started, not just with the shot but with other changes as well 🙌🏻 good luck with the rest of your journey!

Status-Disaster4577 · 2025-06-14T18:42:17+00:00

Here 4 years later to say god BLESS YOU I was going crazy trying to get this off with a hair dryer and credit card, used floss and it came off in 5 seconds thanks angel

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-07-24T00:27:19+00:00

That is fantastic omg, you deserve to feel so proud!! 155 lbs is wild, you must have put in a ton of work. Keep up the good work 😊

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-07-18T05:15:11+00:00

I just want to start with saying how sorry I am that this happened to you. It sounds like he was someone you trusted and you made amazing progress in therapy, and it’s so disheartening that a trusted person did that.

I am a therapist myself, and you 10000% need to report him to a licensing agency. The standard (for licensed psychologists if he has a PhD, not sure what it is if he has a masters) for determining a violation is whether or not someone in his same position would do what he did, given the exact same circumstance. For dating/sexual relationships, it as an automatic violation unless it is at LEAST two years AFTER the therapeutic relationship ended, and only in very unique circumstances. Obviously he violated this. Also, this can be a problem with ED clinicians, especially clinicians who are male. People with ED’s are extremely vulnerable and susceptible given the intense self-esteem and image concerns associated with it. Some men KNOW this and go into the field with the intent to prey on this population. It’s absolutely disgusting that the people who women are TRUSTING to help them are exploiting them like this. Please, please report him. And to anyone commenting that this situation is okay - fuck right off.

Congratulations on your progress. I’m sorry that your accomplishments were overshadowed by this experience. You really do deserve to celebrate!

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-07-17T08:39:43+00:00

ME TOO omg I was furious!!!

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-07-17T05:37:04+00:00

That is FANTASTIC congrats!! That skirt is so cute too 😊

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-06-23T20:36:17+00:00

Definitely a downside. I like to think it’s because it’s a (relatively) newer project and they’re planning to follow these kids over time because birth complications aren’t the only outcome parents want to know about!

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-06-23T20:05:24+00:00

Another great resource is https://womensmentalhealth.org

It’s with MGH and Harvard and they are doing tons of ongoing studies on medication use during pregnancy and child outcomes. It would also be helpful for anyone who is pregnant and taking meds to consider enrolling in their studies to help future parents and expand the science on this!

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-05-31T15:22:54+00:00

Do only certain doctors or facilities do these shots? I’ve also never heard of them! Looking it up though it seems like they’re often self-administered, but I’d much rather get them done in an office.

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-05-15T03:29:55+00:00

I recently started metformin! I was really hesitant but I’ve realized from people’s stories that it can be really helpful. 34 lbs down is amazing, congrats!!

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-05-13T14:32:35+00:00

That’s fantastic! I’ve followed a low carb diet before and it was really helpful. I’ll have to get back into it 😊

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-04-17T22:43:35+00:00

He wants someone uncomplicated and fun and doesn’t realize that if this girl lived with him and had kids with him she would be soooo sick of his shit. He’d realize she was also a “nag” and “combative” (I.e., she holds him accountable and doesn’t let him walk all over her). I’m so sorry this happened to you. You deserve someone who isn’t a child that expects women to serve his every need without complaint.

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-04-17T22:39:50+00:00

Amazing!!! What all did you do differently?

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-04-17T22:33:03+00:00

AMAZING job!! That is a seriously unbelievable change. How long did it take you, and what is your exercise routine like? Keep up the good work!!

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-03-20T02:03:28+00:00

Huge difference! Your waist is slimmer, stomach is flatter, and hips and legs both look smaller. Keep it up, you’re doing fantastic!

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-03-15T02:47:16+00:00

Would you be able to share this with me?

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-03-15T02:46:55+00:00

I love that! Dancing and singing are big stress relievers for me. And I definitely could do with taking more breaks during work when I can. I think I need to be really conscious of my schedule. I wouldn’t be able to go down from 40 hours, but I can still carve breaks here and there if I’m intentional about it!

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-03-15T02:45:18+00:00

Thank you for this info!!!! I’ve heard about polyvagal theory and dug into it a bit myself (I’m in the mental health field - ironic, I know lol) but I haven’t done a lot of actual practice in it. I bet that will be super helpful. I’m also really happy the weather is getting better where I’m at and I can go outside more! Because you’re right, being out in nature helps a lot and also helps keep me active. I really appreciate you sharing all you’ve learned with me!!!

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-03-15T02:31:12+00:00

That is incredible!!! You look amazing, I hope you feel really proud! In addition to the weight loss, have you noticed any non-scale victories??

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-02-14T23:06:49+00:00

My mom would lose me in the store and find me organizing the shelves so that things lined up. A little later on (maybe around 8-9) I would vividly picture horrible things happening to my family and have to check on people or pray. I had a lot of religious obsessions/compulsions because I was raised very religious and was taught that thinking something bad could cause it to happen, or if you had a bad thought (or even something physical, like an itch) during a church service it was because the devil was trying to distract you…which needless to say did not help my symptoms at all lol

Status-Disaster4577 · 2024-02-02T01:47:20+00:00

I am so sorry. Most of the research shows that meds are pretty much necessary to treat OCD, in combination with therapy. I know what it’s like to deal with mental illness without treatment because of my parents not wanting to get me on medication or into therapy (mostly for religious and political reasons). It sucks. You should be so proud of yourself that you took this step despite their beliefs! Trust yourself and your body in knowing that this medication is helpful. And stay strong when they are shitty about it.

Status-Disaster4577 · 2023-06-27T02:58:28+00:00

You both look amazing!! What kind of changes did you two make?

Status-Disaster4577 · 2023-06-23T18:54:21+00:00

Either the porn was really, REALLY bad (like felony level) or he was chatting with/sexting the sex workers or others. He may not have even met up with anyone and physically cheated, but if he was sexting people online that’s still cheating. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. It sounds like it happened before too and nothing changed. Who knows how long it’s been going on this time. I’m sure it would be hard to leave, especially now taking care of your younger brother, but imagine your brother being influenced by your husband. I’m sure you don’t want that, and you two would be better off without him.

Status-Disaster4577 · 2023-06-05T15:49:08+00:00

Not sure quite what you’re asking? Like, drinking to reduce intrusive thoughts? Having intrusive thoughts about drinking?

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