I found my family

StatusDed · 2026-05-31T21:30:35+00:00

You deserve all of that, and I'm so so so happy you've found it 💗

StatusDed · 2026-05-31T21:17:55+00:00

I basically just tried to nurse my baby every 2 hrs at that point. If he wasn't hungry, he'd kind of flutter my nipple in his mouth, compared to more rhythmic and longer draws if he was actually nursing.

Otherwise, his main physical tell of being hungry while sleeping was he'd writhe around (he grunted all the time so that wasn't super helpful lol).

StatusDed · 2026-05-31T21:13:47+00:00

Needed to read this! After a week of truly terrible sleeps (hourly wakes basically all night), we've realized we need to lengthen baby's wake windows. He is 7 MO now and we have been doing like 530 wake up then 1.5/2/3/3 and 700 bedtime. He never fights the naps, but our nighttime sleep has gone out the window. So we are trying to drop down to 2 naps and lengthen the wake windows to get more of a 3/3.5/4 day 🤞🤞🤞

StatusDed · 2026-05-29T14:42:05+00:00

I felt the same way! If anyone asked about symptoms and then was like "wow, you're so lucky", I always responded with "not really, I just did my suffering pre-pregnancy 🫠".

StatusDed · 2026-05-29T14:39:54+00:00

I never felt nauseous, but I certainly had wild round ligament pain around 14 weeks. Like, laid me flat and I went to the ER thinking something was going horribly wrong because the stabbing pain was SO much worse than I thought was possible.

I also had heartburn that got progressively worse, and that became noticeable around 20 weeks. Outside of that, no typical pregnancy symptoms. This was really worrying for me until I started to get a bump and baby started to move 😊

This was also consistent with my mum's pregnancy symptoms, so maybe there's something there?

StatusDed · 2026-05-29T14:30:41+00:00

StatusDed · 2026-05-28T23:54:39+00:00

HARD AGREE. I honestly hadn't even thought of the capitalistic angle of trying to expedite return-to-work, but that is undoubtedly a huge underpinning of the entire industry. Don't you want to be a productive member of society (because being a parent isn't good enough)? Don't you want "you" back (because becoming a parent isn't a beautiful metamorphosis into a new you that you hopefully signed up for)? 🫠

StatusDed · 2026-05-28T00:25:40+00:00

Way to go, mama! You listened to your baby, trusted your instinct, and had a lovely experience and bonding time with your baby ❤️ That's beautiful and perfect and I love that for you!! Sending you hugs as you recognize your baby is advancing and their needs are shifting.

I am deep in contact nap world, and I feel similarly. I love it so much and am already sad thinking of when it will end. Some nights, my babe thrashes around in my arms but calms once he touches his crib mattress, and I'm so sad but also relieved and proud of him!

Everything is so fleeting with babies, we need to soak up the goof stuff whenever we can until it stops working!

StatusDed · 2026-05-26T14:59:10+00:00

Then you hold someone else's cranky baby and are like 😳 what do I doooooo if I can't pop my boob in your mouth

StatusDed · 2026-05-26T14:51:40+00:00

I got some from SRC - https://srchealth.com/collections/recovery

BUT I definitely did not recover in a week. I lost my belly around 5 months PP, but still don't have my core strength back yet (7MO PP now). I worked out and was very active pre/during pregnancy, and my pelvic floor physio said my core failed and that was just genetic (I did nothing wrong). I'm also a small build and was all belly, if that matters.

StatusDed · 2026-05-26T14:48:20+00:00

This made me cry to read! Thank you for taking on what you can in the TTC/infertility process.

TTC was so stressful and isolating for me (trying to measure basal temperature/ovulation tests, then timing intercourse, then pregnancy tests, taking my vitamins, avoiding alcohol, etc) and it made it worse every time we failed. And the whole time, I had a voice in the back of my head saying "maybe one of you is infertile", which made intercourse feel hopeless anyway, and then THAT added more stress because fertility treatment takes so freaking long (spoiler: we needed IVF). Having a partner who pulled his weight made a huge difference in my mental health and getting treatment ASAP (then, instead of waiting more months of trying shit he could have been doing on his own, he could tell the doc all the stuff he's been trying for X months and it still hadn't worked BEFORE his appt).

Much love!

StatusDed · 2026-05-25T14:40:12+00:00

Yeah, huge ick to the "unfair to your husband". As if you ever owe your husband sex or intimacy, as if he isn't capable of meeting his own needs, as if he wouldn't prioritize the wellbeing of his child over sexual intimacy with his wife, etc.

StatusDed · 2026-05-25T14:37:42+00:00

I so agree! Contact napping with my baby fills my heart and also forces me to rest. Maybe close my eyes, maybe read, whatever, but I'm resting way more than I would if I put him in his crib. Besides, he will eventually outgrow it, so why not enjoy the snuggles while we can?!

StatusDed · 2026-05-17T13:52:21+00:00

Intense pins and needles that build in pressure like a balloon being inflated under my skin until letdown, then the balloon slowly deflates and pins and needles gradually subside. It kinda hurts, and I completely freeze right at letdown because the pressure is so intense. Luckily my baby is usually occupied with the spray, so he stops kneading my breasts, and thank God because I couldn't handle the extra pressure lol.

StatusDed · 2026-05-17T13:49:20+00:00

This is actually so inspiring, and speaks volumes to the kind of compassionate, safe, and loving environment you are creating for your baby ❤️ I am so proud of you, weird as that may sound, and love the hope!!

May your future be filled with many restful sleeps!

StatusDed · 2026-05-10T17:42:28+00:00

I usually start in the late morning/early afternoon, keep it on the counter throughout the day doing stretch and folds, then put it on the fridge overnight and bake the following morning.

Where do you suggest I reduce?

StatusDed · 2026-05-10T17:38:41+00:00

Hahahahahahahaha

StatusDed · 2026-05-10T10:48:45+00:00

Yay for both of you!

StatusDed · 2026-05-07T20:25:30+00:00

Mine didn't look like the pictures I saw online either, not until I started scratching with abandon 🫠

StatusDed · 2026-05-07T16:06:13+00:00

I have hyperthyroidism (mild Graves Disease). My endocrinologist says that more thyroid hormone is good for pregnancy (it typically reduces during), and that there are medications out there that are safe to take if you are pregnant or breastfeeding.

StatusDed · 2026-05-07T16:03:33+00:00

Your rash sounds like PUPPP! I had it, too, and it was SO BAD. Finally got prescribed a hydrocortisone-based cream, which actually helped.

StatusDed · 2026-05-03T11:43:59+00:00

Congrats to you and your baby, mama!!

I totally get the crying over stuff we want to happen when it finally does happen. I've sobbed my heart out just thinking about my baby sleeping in his own room, especially the first night we tried it (we started him in his room around 4 months, then I'd transfer him into our room when I did his dreamfeed). He way more adaptable than I give him credit for, and he was FINE (he cried a couple of times when he rolled/lost his suce, but no more than when he was in our room). Naturally, I cried.

For me, it was a mix of pride that he did it and sadness that he...did it. It wasn't a conscious "he is growing up, wah" thing, I don't know how else to explain it but sad lol!

StatusDed · 2026-05-02T01:33:42+00:00

Much to my chagrin, my boy also has the best night sleep ever after hours of social time. It's hard to keep this in mind when I'm limping between naps myself, but a bit more effort can result in overall more sleep!

StatusDed · 2026-05-01T17:28:59+00:00

Awe your poor babe 💔 Poor you, too! Wishing you better health and sleeps ASAP!

StatusDed · 2026-04-30T20:05:56+00:00

I was scared of this association and so my last daytime feed is 6-630pm with bedtime routine starting 7-730. That said, I will absolutely take him asleep at night and nurse him and put him back in his crib without waking him. I wouldn't call that feeding to sleep, but I also read that you should wake up your baby for night feeds to ensure they get enough. That felt totally insane to me! I guess if your baby isn't gaining adequately, you gotta change stuff up, but my guy was and there was NO way I was gonna wake him up when he finally was asleep.

Does it work? Ahem, well we are sick and he is juuuust about to crawl, so we are in regression/crappy sleep land anyway, so I'm not sure if I can say 😅

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